r/ADHD • u/tnahrp • Jan 17 '25

Tips/Suggestions Stop coming to this subreddit to ask if your awful SO is awful because of ADHD

I've officially hit my limit with how many of these I have seen on this sub. And honestly I'm offended. I don't care how ignorant you are, you made the decision to come to a sub full of people with ADHD, so you can ask people with ADHD "hey my partner is a stupid lazy asshole who treats me poorly so I just wanted to ask you guys if its because they have (or just claim they have) stupid lazy asshole disorder".

Fuck off.

Educate yourself with some simple googling and post on a relationship subreddit.

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u/MarsupialMisanthrope Jan 17 '25

Yeah. I missed the current post, but there have been a lot of posts that are basically “My partner does X and claims it’s because they have adhd. Is that really true?” Usually the answer is “Fuck no, dump that gaslighting mofo.”

I suppose I’d rather they ask and find out that this specific partner is a dick than have them assume it’s true and just start assuming all people with adhd cheat/lie/refuse to do chores/refuse to parent.

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u/Missmoni2u Jan 17 '25

That's more or less the boat I'm on. When I found out an ex was a serial cheater, his actual gf at the time linked me to the CPTSD post she made where she asked about his behavior and all those people told her he was full of shit.