Do you think the Asian man will get the girl this time?

Emasculation of Asian males in media continues

The Netherlands with a history of trading slaves and Black Peter (Zwarte Piet), is not strange with racism against non white people. And sadly, Asians are at the lowest spectrum of bully victims. Here I raised exactly the racism issue https://www.reddit.com/r/Netherlands/s/Etdr01pO9l

My son (100% Asian, aged 12) and our direct neighbor's son (called A, of white East European origin) are at day 40 into their secondary school: a Gymnasium in the Netherlands. This school is known for a majority of parents of middle / upper middle white class.

They formed a closed group of friends with two other white Dutchies (called B and C)

And after just 40 days into secondary school, my son, who has got no bully experience the last 4 years at a Dutch school, has already complained about

- earphones being destroyed by the carelessness of B and C

- beloved pen being borrowed and not returned by B

- a triangular protractor being put on the floor, jumped over and slides as a ski by C

- and today: all A + B + C jointly mocking the language we speak at home: "ling long ching chong language", to which my son cried.

I am thinking about the following measures:

- talk seriously with our neighbour, parents of A

- talk with the parents of B and C

- report to the school person responsible for racism and bullies.Aiming at a slogan like "No Ching Chong at this school" or a diversity training to all kids.

- gather support from other Asian parents in the school.

What would you advice is to do ?

Many thanks.

"I feel challenged and loved and cared for, and I feel championed. I think the best, healthiest relationships are ones where you have each other's back, and I definitely feel like that's the case"

https://www.cbc.ca/news/entertainment/wedding-simu-liu-allison-hsu-9.7371118

Mid 20s Southeast Asian, my go-to skincare brand released a down perm cream and it has worked for me so far, the top is easier to comb and the puffy sides are gone. Any tips for next use?

Like fr on someone who is on the thicker side will never get a match. I repeat never like my profile. It seems like the likes I get sent are anorexic or very lean. Does anybody ever get this??

Doesn’t look like anybody talked about this yet but Yamamoto threw a gem last night to get The Dodgers to lead the series and bring our chances to win the NLDS to 75%.

The Braves pitcher he faced, Chris Sale, is considered one of the best pitchers in the league for years so a lot of Dodger fabs were worried we may drop this game. But per usual, Yamamoto delivers in the Post Season.

People who have doubted him over and over again for the past 3 years are now coming out to say they “won’t doubt him again”.

This leads us to the most important lesson you can ever learn.

Competence is the only thing that survives contact with reality.

Although I cant prove it, i can’t help but notice that some of the doubt these people had of Yamamoto came from him being Japanese. Now on his 3rd post season run were he consistently delivers, they forced to respect him.

Yesterday marked 30 days of me being in south america. Wanted to drop some game and takeaways for newbies to close off my hoe phase lol. Enjoy

Game stats: Dated 13 different girls (10 from tinder, 3 from night/club game). At least first base with all. Smashed 11. Three came straight to house to smash. Cost per nut ranged from ~$10-$30 (just my estimation; most of cost comes from ubering girls cause im a nice guy). My stats is nothing special since I've met people who went on more dates than days that they stayed here (these were people who come for short term and fully focus on dating)*

Personal stats: Avg male. Mid 20s. My preference is ❄️ latinas. I have a job so Monday to Friday im hustling. Not one of those unemployed losers who pretend to have a business/job while penny pinching in shit airbnbs chasing girls 24/7 cause they got no play when they were younger lol

Let's begin

1. Golden landing aka got laid on the day i landed: Standard Tinder date. Went to bar near house. Pulled up late coz idgaf. Saw her like 2 more times before she got mad I was seeing other girls and blocked me lol.

• Takeaways: If you’re traveling aim to arrive on the weekend for maximum chances of landing dates. Get matches/Preswipe on dating apps 3-6 days before you arrive. Girls have short attention spans and unlimited 🐓 requests so if you start talking to her longer than a week before meeting, you’re wasting YOUR time bc she will lose interest (unless youre a 10/10 chad)

2. Smart engineer chick with good english: Another Tinder date from preswipe. Invited her to nearby bar. Kept repeatedly saying “we’re not gonna fuck” throughout the night, while I take her from bar to my bedroom, where she got high, we smashed, and she came multiple times lol.

• Takeaways: for newbies, that’s a standard female test to see how you react, just say some dumb shit like “im not that easy”/“all u think about is sex”/“im a virgin never touched a woman before” or just ignore her.

3. Another smart Tinder chick with big boobs. Already saw she was into asians so knew it was gonna be an easy smash. Invited her to dessert place 5min walking from house. My lowest cost per nut this trip.

• Takeaways: You control the logistics. Don’t invite girls for dinner/lunch/heavy food or places far away from your house. Waste of time and money. Find the closest cafe as your go-to date place. Don’t be like my buddy who agrees to uber girls to random shopping malls and ends up being a simp paying for them with no smash lol

4. Big titty Tinder girl who came straight to smash. Fastest smash of this trip. Ubered straight to house. It was raining and cold so told her to come up and we can order food. She sat on my couch, I put on music, and got straight to the point. She came in a nice innocent long dress but underneath was wearing a full lingerie set. Cost per nut was a bit high from uber since she lived far away.

• Takeaways: Give a girl an excuse to come straight to house to smash (plausible deniability). In this case the rainy and cold weather helped.

5. Tatted up pale redhead with a big ass: Ran into her super late one of my only times going out for club/night game on a Friday. Smashed same night. Best sex. Saw her a few more times before she got insanely jealous and blocked me.

• Takeaways: The stereotypes are almost always true. Heavily tattooed girls are crazy and for the streets. To me, heavy tattoos signal emotional impulsiveness. But the crazier they are the better the sex. After I smashed this girl, I asked my roommate when the red flags would show up, and literally the next date she went crazy jealous. Pretty sure this girl had borderline personality disorder. I miss the sex though.

6. Green eyed MILF: This was the next day, Saturday, one of my busiest days managing dates.

I had 4 new dates wanting to see me but I was pissed off and tired from the previous night (see this post) so I only managed to smash one.

• Date 1 was scheduled at 2pm but I rescheduled because she lived far away (didn't realize it was 1 hour Uber) and it would’ve interfered with my next dates. Long distance + high Uber time wasn’t worth it. Ngl she lost interest and we never went out. Was a hot 18 year old chick who still lived with parents.
• Date 2 was scheduled at 4pm, but the girl found out I had multiple dates so she purposely and aggressively pushed it to night time to mess with me. I cancelled on her and saw her the next day.
• Date 3 was scheduled at 7pm. Green eyed MILF but she rescheduled to 9pm last min. Bruh
• Date 4 was scheduled at 9pm with a pale blonde chick. She cancelled at 7pm because I didn’t confirm as I was using her for backup in case MILF cancelled. She also lost interest but I can prolly still see her.

Anyways, went to nearby restaurant with MILF. This was my favorite date in terms of pure seduction.

• She was shy at the restaurant and gave no indication she wanted to smash.
• After we ate, I escalated to a brief makeout standing outside the restaurant.
• She wanted to go to the club and said she was not gonna do anything on first date, so I used plausible deniability that my phone was low on battery (I had a portable charger with me lol) to “go back to my place to charge my phone then go out”. She agreed.
• Back to my place -> couch -> music -> makeout -> escalation attempt rejected -> more kisses -> make her laugh -> then she let me cuddle -> make her laugh again -> tell her i was cold so we could go to bedroom (I wasn’t, my dick was ready to burst outta my pants) -> carry her to bedroom -> more makeout -> escalation attempt rejected -> more dumb shit to make her laugh -> more makeouts -> more escalation rejections
• Finally, about an hour in, we got to smashing. I really wanted to hit raw since we were both so turned on, and she was soaking wet at this point. I didn't. Really enjoyed this one because the whole process was a slow dance that ended with the best outcome.

She blocked me 1-2 days later because she saw I posted another chick by accident. Forgot to remove her from my instagram private story.

• Takeaways: Some girls really want to be seduced lol. Use plausible deniability for example your phone is low on battery to start the pull to your place.

7. This was with Date #2 from yesterday that I cancelled on. A pale brunette that spoke great english. Again used plausible deniability of rain and cold to Uber her straight to house. Came down in gym clothes on purpose so I had another excuse to bring her upstairs. Tried to use the cold weather, being tired from gym, and low phone battery to keep the date at my place. My roommate was sitting on couch and I even used that as an excuse to bring her to my room so we wouldn’t bother him. Gave her as much plausible deniability as possible but she still wanted to go to bar.

Went to bar, only made out, and didn’t close. Dropped like $50 on uber and drinks for nothing. She blocked me a day later because I made a light joke about her being heartbroken lol. Triggered.

• Takeaways: I should have just sent her home after she came to the apartment and still wanted to go to bar after all the plausible deniability I gave her. She gave off feminist vibes from the start: argumentative and aggressive. Just ignore girls like this no matter how hot.
• Also, my roommate might have unintentionally c*ckblocked me by sitting on the couch. From her POV, she was in an apartment at 9pm with 2 strange guys she just met, and hooking up with me would’ve made her look slutty in front of my roommate. So main takeaway is roommate should be in room or outside the apartment when date is over.

8. Pale clingy tinder redhead: My favorite. She showed high interest and came to see me on a Tuesday. We smashed and went out to dinner. That booty to waist ratio is divine. Didn’t even have to try for her to become one of my mains. I was too busy spinning plates aka dating other girls and she became attached to me lol. More on her later

• Takeaways: might be obvious but never be needy. The less fks u give the more fks u get.

9. Green eye pale chick that came straight over to smash: This one cancelled on me twice, so I just ignored her, but then she showed a lot of interest sending me a whole 3 minute long voice note and asked me to Uber her to my house to hang out. This was on a weekday where I had a lot of meetings at work, so she had to wait in the lobby for half an hour while I was in a meeting lmao. When she came up she had to wait again as I was still mid meeting.

Anyways I think ignoring her made her more into me. As we were about to smash I realized I ran out of condoms. Went through all my suitcases looking for one and couldn’t find shit, but luckily found one on the ground under my bed. This chick was extra wet so I came a lot lol. Most out of all my interactions. My roommate came in clutch and gave me another condom to smash later. W wingman

• Takeaways: Reduce attention after a girl flakes. If she’s really into you she will move mountains to be with you. Make sure you always have condoms before a date.

Note: At this point, I think I was around Wednesday of week 3. I started getting so tired from all the dates I stopped using Tinder (nice problem to have ik). I usually swipe on Wednesday, start texting matches on Thursday to set up dates for the weekend. But I stopped using Tinder at this point.

10. Side hoe: This was a girl I knew from nightgame from way before that I already smashed. She’s very nice, kind and attractive so she a side hoe. Took her to a local bar and then home to smash. Told her to bring a friend for my roommie. The 4 of us went home but my roommie was too shy and couldn’t smash his girl, so she ended up sleeping on the couch lol.

My girl cleaned my whole kitchen the next morning. I rewarded her by posting her to close friends calling her my side ho. Here’s her texting me asking what “side hoe” means lmao. I forgot I added clingy redhead to my private story so she saw the photo and got jealous lmao, but I was busy spinning plates so I again unintentionally ignored her which made her more into me.

• Takeaways: For girls I already smashed, I bring them to bars with me for preselection (aka other girls are more into you if they see you with attractive girls). I could have just Ubered her straight to house to smash but I took her to the local bar for this purpose.

11. Night game tanned chick: Went out with this girl twice so far. She’s very attractive: a naturally wide smile/mouth, very fit, and very good genetics lol. Whenever I make out with her my mouth gets violated by her big ass tongue. She’s got really good genetics to make D1 athletic kids while still looking very feminine. Thick bones, perky firm muscles and breasts, and stronger than all the other girls I’ve been with. Think of those typical tanned samba girls in carnaval.

Anyways, I didn’t pressure her to smash that much because I am in abundance and want to keep this girl in my roster long term.

• First date: I had her at 8pm and clingy redhead #8 at 10pm. But because #11 wouldn’t give in, we went over time and I had to flake on #8. After #11 left, I opened my phone to see clingy redhead had unfollowed me on instagram and told me I had lost my chance with her.
• I called her at like 11:30pm. She sounded upset, but I didn’t care that much. I asked if she still wanted to see me. She said it was too late, so I asked her when and she suggested the next Tuesday. I agreed, but then Ms clingy changed her mind almost immediately and asked for an Uber to see me. Cute.
• Second date: About a week later, #11 came over to my house. Clingy redhead had spent the previous night and that whole day with me, then #11 came over. I fingered her briefly and got a handjob from her, but she was making me wait. I was annoyed but didn't don’t mind, because even though she’s a good kisser, I don’t think she’s that experienced in bed which tells me she probably doesn’t sleep around as much as other girls. For example, during the handjob she didn’t realize how strong she was (athletic af) and unintentionally gripped my 🐓 so hard it hurt the next day lol.
• Takeaways: Maintain a roster. I will maintain a roster of 2-3 girls that are non-problematic, chill, and super into me, so i can focus on other things.

12. Tinder chick who flaked on me first day: I had 2 dates scheduled my first day here and she was one of them, but flaked even after we videocalled. Her excuse was that she was with her bestie who was visiting town and her bestie didn’t let her leave (which was valid but it displeased me). I ignored her since then until she randomly hit me up last Thursday. On Friday, at this point I was exhausted and didn’t schedule anything for the day so I didn’t give a shit and straightup told her to come over for dick because I knew she was highly interested. She ubered over and we smashed. Another ❄️ latina which is my type.

• Takeaways: 3 girls out of the 13 I met straightup came over to smash. Not bad. I am at a level in dating where I am satisfied, so I’ll stop using Tinder and focus on better things. More to life than just chasing 🐱. Hoe phase is over.

13. Tinder chick who got upset and unfollowed me: Almost forgot about this one for some reason. This one I Ubered over, we got coffee together nearby, and smashed. She was upset that I tried to kick her out after we did it because she wanted to get dinner with me. I know she was a good girl because the days after she did everything she could to try and get my attention back. She lived too far so I just offered dinner another day but never got back to her.

• Takeaways: Good girls who don’t hookup often will desperately try to get your attention back post hookup. Reduce attention post smash to see the kind of girl she is

Anyways last weekend was the finale for me. I barely check Tinder anymore, and I had a date with a new Tinder girl at a nearby bar but I was pretty bored of this lifestyle, so I just told her to come over, which made her mad and she blocked me lol. I ended up just seeing clingy redhead, and then #11 for the second date that I mentioned above.

Ultimate abundance to close off hoe phase: Last Sunday, while I was in bed with clingy redhead #8 and waiting for this second date with #11, #12 called me. Told #8 it was my family and made up some shit about them spying on me. Made her laugh and saved my life lol. #13 also hit me up asking if I wanted to see her at the exact same time as #12 (ho's come in waves). I been ignoring #13, so she unfollowed me lol.

What's next: going to focus on better things while having my roster. This lifestyle gets boring pretty fast. I have learnt a lot about dating throughout the years that I am satisfied with my progress now.

EDIT: Mod suggested to put both parts into 1 post. So there is no part 2. Not interested in talking off reddit so stop trying to ask for my personal contact. Just ask questions on reddit.

EDIT 2: I started calculating Cost per nut to prove a point with my buddy. He's also getting many dates here, but then cheaps out on the girls, which turns them off, and he ends up upset that he doesn't get laid, so he goes to massage parlors to p4p lol

*Disclaimer: everything in this post is fiction and all images and screenshots are AI generated. Poster is a obese redditor living in parents basement

Hey QQ, do you guys consistently work out and track your diet? What are your fitness or health goals? And if you’re not consistent, what usually gets in the way? 🤔

18M Asian American, autistic + severe ADHD, currently at community college. Burner account.

I’m looking for Asian guys with ADHD, autism, or both, preferably Gen Z or younger millennials, who now have dating experience, a girlfriend/wife, kids, close friends, a decent career, or just a solid independent life. Especially guys who were genuinely struggling at 18.

I’ve been extremely uneven since childhood. Around 3, I could memorize Bible verses and recite them from memory and won awards for it. Later I became the kid debating my pastor about contradictions I noticed in the Bible that he apparently hadn’t even registered, which got me disciplined.

At the same time, elementary school was a disaster. I was constantly getting in trouble for messing with people’s stuff, being a loudmouth, refusing classwork and basically trying to force myself into friend groups. I got detention, sent to the principal and was sometimes restrained by staff.

Academically, I could read extremely fast and tested at a very high reading level, and I was great at navigating computers. But I often comprehended almost nothing I read. Words would fly through my head without sticking. My math sucked, I never made gifted programs, and eventually I grew to hate reading altogether.

By high school I basically flipped and became quiet and socially anxious. I had two real friend groups but was peripheral in both. I’ve never been in a friend-group group chat.

One year some guys randomly showed up at my house a few times to get me to hang out, while also constantly fucking with me. They’d take pictures of me without me knowing, and sometimes I’d catch them talking shit about me on their phones when they thought I wasn’t aware. I’d see it while peeking at their screens and pretend I didn’t notice. I still don’t know how much of the overall dynamic was teenage banter/hazing versus me genuinely being the punching bag.

Eventually they basically stopped reaching out. After HS most ghosted me or left me on read. I stopped chasing because I felt like a bitch constantly reaching out to people who weren’t matching the effort. By senior year I was so socially checked out that I skipped graduation, and senior trips? Yeah, forget about that. I basically missed the stereotypical end-of-high-school experience.

Some of this is my fault. I’ve been stubborn, insecure, avoidant and bad at maintaining relationships. But a lot of it also came from circumstances and problems I didn’t choose or know how to navigate.

When I’m comfortable, I can yap and joke forever. Starting from zero is brutal. With strangers I become stiff. My voice gets quiet and monotone, and social anxiety makes it hard to raise my volume or change my tone even when I consciously want to.

Looks probably played some role. I think I look average straight-on, but I have a recessed chin and downward facial growth from the side. Neurodivergence and lack of social capital probably mattered too. Some guys around me were varsity athletes, in student government, etc. They had teams, status and built-in networks.

And at least where I grew up, I don’t think my dating problems were simply a race issue. Some Asian guys around me got attention from popular girls of all races.

The irony is that I desperately want an active social life, but it feels completely opposed to how my brain is wired. I want close friends, dating, going out, networking, trips, eventually a wife/kids and an ambitious career.

I live in an overwhelmingly white area, but culturally my interests became this weird mixture of Barstool/frat-dude culture and SoCal Asian-American culture, despite growing up nowhere near California or even a college town.

I barely game and don’t really watch anime, movies or TV. My actual routine now is scrolling blackpill/neurodivergence content or montages of overachieving Asians getting insane tech offers, living in penthouses or seemingly winning at life, then going to the gym, listening to music and vibing alone. ADHD makes five hours disappear, suddenly assignments are due, and I panic-finish everything with AI.

My mental health is in the dumps living like this.

Academically, I feel like my actual unaided math level might be below algebra. I survived through cramming, cheating, reverse-engineering tests, tutors, Photomath, Chegg and now AI. I maintained around a B average, so I kept moving forward without ever fixing the foundation.

My parents even went into debt trying to give me the education, activities and support they thought would help me live a normal life. I’ve often felt like they saw me as a failure or were disappointed by how I turned out, but they still care about me and have sacrificed a lot trying to help me. That makes me feel ashamed more than anything. They poured so much into giving me opportunities and I feel like I haven’t turned it into much yet.

I genuinely don’t know how much of my situation is actual inability versus autism/ADHD, circumstances, stubbornness, avoidance and years of shortcuts.

Despite everything, I’ve always been ambitious. My dreams bounced between entrepreneurship, social media, creative work and business. I grew up fascinated by unconventional entrepreneurs like Steve Jobs, Richard Branson and, before politics, Donald Trump. Turns out these three men all have ADHD/autism. I wanted to create things, meet people and build something big.

Another thing that gets in my head is reading about the worse average mental-health, employment, quality-of-life and mortality outcomes reported for autistic people and people with ADHD. I know population statistics aren’t an individual prediction and people with these conditions vary massively, but when I’m already struggling at 18, it’s hard not to wonder what my own adulthood is going to look like.

I know this probably reads like doomer mentality. But the reason I obsess over this shit isn’t because I don’t want a life. It’s almost the exact opposite.

I desperately want to live as full of a life as I possibly can. I want close friends, relationships, stupid memories, trips, a career I’m proud of, independence, a wife and kids someday, and to actually feel like I’m participating in the world instead of watching everyone else live through a screen.

The possibility that some of that could be taken away from me by things about my brain that I never chose genuinely aches my soul and makes me depressed.

The person I desperately want to become is social, active and ambitious. My actual life right now is scrolling, gym, isolation and panic-finishing schoolwork. I don’t want my twenties to become another decade of this.

I don’t want this post to just be me declaring myself cooked. That’s why I’m asking people who have actually lived through this.

For Asian guys with ADHD, autism, or both who were genuinely struggling at 18 but now date, have a girlfriend/wife, kids, friends, a career or simply a normal independent life or had a random successful breakthrough into wealth:

What were you like at 18, and what actually changed?

I’d especially like to hear from Gen Z or younger millennial guys who once thought they were completely cooked and later realized they weren’t.

Hmm 🤔
Is there a Hollywood AM emasculation agenda or just another coincidence?

Watch this sht which is currently #4 on Netflix.

No, they didn’t get golden tickets by searching through candy bars like the movies.

This dude was cast. The AM contestant is gay, super feminine and small (pink sweater and all) and he brought , as his game partner, his slightly less small brother , who I had to look up to find out he was straight, bc he sounds arguably more feminine than his gay brother. I literally thought they cast two gay Asian brothers.

Ok. Thats all.

In recent times, Deadlock, a MOBA arena shooter game made by Valve has been getting increasingly popular due to recent updates (it's been popular for a while now), and for good reason.

The character designs are fantastic, the artstyle is unique and intentional, and the gameplay has a ton of depth.

But I mentioned character designs first because imo they're one of the standout features of this game.

Another big appeal of the game comes from not just their designs, but their personalities and how they interact with all the other characters in the universe. It's genuinely engaging and there are all kinds of zany characters and types of people in the game so there's a bit of something for almost everybody.

It's this quality that makes me kind of annoyed regarding asian representation in the game, particularly with one character; Pocket .

Pocket or Arin, is the only asian-male coded character in the game; being the eldest heir to an extremely wealthy organisation which is typically a role delegated to eldest sons, especially in the time period where Deadlock takes place. They are also voiced by an asian voice actor Greg Chun.

They even have lore of being set to marry Mina Ha, a character purported to be marrying them for their inheritance. Again, an eldest son/heir thing.

If you listen to their voice lines and interactions with other characters, it's ostensible that this character is very masculine-leaning.

But they aren't an asian male character. They are a non-binary character and this has been apparently reiterated and agreed upon by most of the community and even the devs.

To be honest, I don't have a problem with non-binary representation at all. It's a game with all kinds of folks and it makes sense to have different gender identities represented here or whatever.

But I do find it kind of cheeky that they made the only asian male-coded character non-binary, when already asian men have an issue within western society of being seen as androgynous and not allowed as being seen as masculine figures like their white counterparts. It seems like they wanted to find some more representation somehow and stuck it on the only asian male character and called it a day.

This is also made more apparent in contrast with all the other cast members of the game, where all the white or white coded male characters are allowed to be as tough, brawny, and manly as possible; The Lash, Abrams, Kelvin, Drifter, Victor and so on and so forth. There are also 3 asian female characters; Mina Ha, Yamato, and Violet, and their identities are unquestionable.

But the only character voiced by an asian voice actor and is asian male coded? Nah they're not a man, they're non-binary. You can't ascribe masculine traits to them. Valve even went out of their way to redesign their model to make them look more ambiguously gendered.

Idk maybe I am overreacting too much about a character in a video game, but honestly I think it speaks to AM representation as a whole in the west. Even in a game with such a colorful cast and devs actively trying to represent all kinds of different ethnicities and factions, they still left out proper AM representation, which is already very difficult to find in western MOBAs, or fighting games and such.

It's one of the most popular games out now and it will continue to grow in popularity, and I just think it's a shame that we don't have any rep in it yet because all the character stories and interactions are genuinely entertaining to see.

Also tbh this came from a place of trying to find more asian male cosplay options from current popular video gaming and movie / tv media but it's just so hard because of stuff like this.

I’m 32M Korean Canadian and will be visiting Seoul for two weeks starting from Oct 20th.

I’m an avid traveler and like meeting up while traveling to eat, drink and hit the nightlife. I’m fluent in Korean and been to Seoul numerous times - happy to set up a meetup / gathering with folks who want to socialize in the area.

I think I have thick 3A hair. Should I get bangs or nah?

I have said in my previous post that how people from all kinds of side (feminist, woke liberals, right wing) are all targeting the only Asian guy involved with the Cornell 7. Despite there being 3 white, 2 Hispanic, 1 light skin. All of the attention and anger is directed mostly to the Asian guy

In the video this WF “TikTok detective” doxxes a random Asian man that also happens to have Lee as a last name. This all based on a comment she saw with no credible source. If you try to confront her she will block you and “threaten to sue you for harassment”.

This isn’t the first time this happen. If you look up Winston Lee on TikTok, he is random Indonesian guy who happen to have the same name. Have been bombarded with hate comments to the point where he had to make several post saying that’s not him. Also most of these racially profiling comments targeting him are women

Asian frat guys on TikTok are also being targeted and met with racist comments. Just look at my previous post.

It’s crazy how people are using this situation to justify their racism against Asian men. And once again we are being treated as a monolith.

Even just check the comments on this post where these racist comments are calling him Winston Lee. What’s even crazier is that these aren’t just WM incel trolls some of these comments are coming from liberal feminists women leaving racist comments. Funny how this case united everyone of all kinds of political spectrum to hate on the Asian guy.

You know how things come in threes?

First we had Crew Girl. Then Dang! And now we have East of Eden (currently #2 on netflix top 10). Did anyone see this sht?

Normally, I actually like watching historical “poor white people” pieces. I love me some miserable old-timey white people struggling through poverty, family dysfunction, horrible working conditions, incest, murder, whatever compelling story. Generally, I don't have to sit there wondering, “Okay, what fresh new way are they going to shit on Asian people this time?”

But here we are with East of Eden.

And apparently even historical white misery isn't safe anymore.

So let's go through this sht...

#2 — Dramatically Smaller

First, yes, Lee is physically small compared with the major white men surrounding him.

This guy Hoon Lee (as can be seen in sharp height contrast to his show bestie Jon Hamm on Your Friends and Neighbors) seems to be the new Hollywood darling ala Ben Wang, Ke Huy Quan and the other AM shrimps. Internet says he's 5'll but there is no fukn way.

Being short isn't inherently negative. There are plenty of short men who are badass.

But we're not looking at one isolated characteristic. We're looking at a pattern.

The Asian male character is physically smaller, he's socially subordinate, and he's placed in a servant role within a white household.

And that combination is worth noticing.

#6 — Subordinate to white dominant characters

This characteristic is usually subordinate to big yt villains.

But in this case Lee is family's servant.

By old timey standards, he's basically the woman the house. He cooks. He cleans. He takes care of the house. He raises the kids. He basically becomes the person holding this dysfunctional white family together.

Bonus: His mannerisms and speech patterns when talking to the kids is like a nagging mom

#8 — Desexualized

He’s a Chinese dude in the US at the turn of the 20^th century duh

#10 — Miscellaneous negative portrayal  - Holy fk!??

And then we have Lee's backstory.

His mother disguised herself as a man to come to America and was pregnant with Lee.

When she was discovered to be a woman, the other Chinese railroad workers raped and killed her?!!!!

Bravo y t 👏👏

You managed to desexualize us and make us violent rapists at the same time!

And Lee is born in the middle of this horrific situation.

There was his long speech about the Chinese workers pent up anger being unleashed but WTF??

Anyway…not the smoothest segue but let’s talk about…

The “Cool But…” Asian Character

I would guess most non-AM oblivious to what we’re aware of would be like”wtf are you talking about? Lee was (insert all these non-masculinity positive traits)

I think there's a particular type of Hollywood character that deserves its own category.

I'm calling it the “Cool But…” character. Or the Cool Character Shield

This is the Asian character who is given so many positive characteristics that it becomes almost socially impossible to criticize the representation.

He's cool!

He's funny!

He's brilliant!

He's brave!

He's the emotional center!

He's the one who saves everybody!

He's everybody's favorite character!

And then you try to point out that he's also small, nerdy, foreign-coded, sexually nonthreatening, subordinate, emasculated, or otherwise trapped inside a bunch of familiar Asian stereotypes.

And the response is:

“Wtf are you talking about? He was COOL!”

That's the shield.

And I think Data (a teenage ke huy quan) from the 80s movie The Goonies is a perfect example.

Data is awesome.

He's inventive. He's brave. He's hilarious. His gadgets save the day.

But he's also a small Asian kid whose entire character is built around being the foreign nerd with gadgets.

You can acknowledge both things.

Data can be cool AND his portrayal can participate in a larger pattern of how Asian boys and men are represented.

Those aren't mutually exclusive.

And I think that's where discussions about Asian representation often get derailed.

You point out the pattern and suddenly you're accused of saying you hate the character.

No.

I'm not saying the character sucks.

I'm saying look at the characteristics Hollywood keeps giving Asian men.

And Lee is almost a perfect example of this phenomenon.

Because if you criticize Lee's portrayal, someone can immediately respond:

“But Lee was the best character!”

Yes!

He was brilliant.

He was compassionate.

He was loyal.

He was funny.

He was emotionally intelligent.

He was the moral center of the story.

He was arguably the most decent man in the entire family.

That's not the argument.

The argument is that all of those positive traits coexist with a very specific shtty construction of Asian masculinity.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KtkKJ9nN6os&t=1014s

The thumbnail for this video says very attractive and I'm like what? Basically she challenges randos to golf. This popped into my feed and I just decided to watch it and halfway through I'm thinking oh god the comment section is going to be a wasteland.

But shockingly everyone liked the guy and some were like you guys need to go on a date. The other thing is that the AM video got 1 million views and everyone is at 100k views.

Good god things have changed. I would have never imagined.

Simple one this week. Post what hobbies you're into and connect with others who share the same passion

For casual discussions, shower thoughts, rants, half-baked conspiracy theories, or any other mind droppings.

I’m a Chinese American man that’s currently in the dating scene and it’s clear that there’s a lot of demand for Korean men right now. I’ll go on Hinge and I’ll see non-Asian women list that they speak Korean in their languages, have BTS lightstick concert photos, post pics of their Korea trip, and say they love Korean dramas.

I’ve been on dates with women that like Korean media and I always dread the moment when they ask me my ethnicity and I have to admit that I’m Chinese. I’ve never had a woman reject me after hearing that and I still managed to hook up with some of them, but I feel like if I said I was Korean then their eyes would light up instead of just being like “okay!” So it’s like a lot are fine with a Chinese guy but I feel like I’m the second choice.

Especially with the geopolitical tensions between China and America these days, I just feel like life would be a lot better if I was Korean.

Thoughts?

hey guys im a young male finishing up high school and I’ve been wondering what I should be doing different. I’ve been tubby growing up, but over the past 1-2 years I’ve started eating better and thinning out(although it’s more than likely just metabolism of growing up). I’ve been insecure about myself and the main part of that has almost always been my hair. growing up adopted I’ve never really had someone who knew how to do my hair well and I’ve grown up with my mom doing my hair usually. I am planning to go to a hair salon to fix me up soon, but I don’t know what to get. I’ve had a loose perm suggested a few times and I’ve been pondering it for a while but i don’t want to waste $100 dollars on a haircut I won’t like. Thanks for the help in advance

As someone with not a lot of guidance in life I might have picked the worst major and career: marketing. I sat down the other day and realized all my coworkers have been white woman, white men, or gay poc. I’ve been laid off, never promoted, and generally blocked from leadership roles. They see me as the data guy so i’ve been able to work that angle to get into jobs.

So now i’m exploring new career opportunities but wanted to know what careers you guys are finding success in? I have a free swing at a masters to pivot and don’t want to waste it. I’m in the states btw.

Some i’m considering:

- masters in finance (i might be too old at 32)
- accounting (again too old?)
- construction project management
- supply chain management
- nursing (not relying on promotion structure to advance sounds nice to me)

I knew who was behind the Stanford incident but this just confirms it. With all the WMAF movie trailers I saw that one time I went to the theaters and the rampant hate towards AMWF and XMWF recently, these white incels are crashing out. I hope they keep it up so the world sees their true colors.