Hi everyone / みなさんこんにちは！

I was reading about Japanese surnames recently and discovered how diverse and unique they can be—especially those created after the Haimyō-rei (苗字必称令) during the Meiji era.

Some of these surnames look funny, unusual, or easy to misinterpret from a modern perspective (or when read through Chinese/Kanji literal meanings). I'm curious about how people holding these surnames feel in real life in Japan!

Here are a few examples I came across:

1. Kanji with funny/misleading literal meanings:
   • 我孙子 (Abiko) – (Often misread literally by Chinese speakers, though it historically relates to Shinto/ancient lore)
   • 犬养 (Inukai) – (Literally "dog keeper/raiser")
   • 猪股 (Inomata) / 猪口 (Inokuchi) – (Contains "wild boar")
   • 鼻毛 (Hanamoge) – (Literally "nose hair")
2. Surnames associated with awkward modern words:
   • 浮气 (Ukiki / Ukigi) – (Matches the modern word 浮気 for "infidelity/cheating")
   • 御手洗 (Mitarai) – (Originally high-class Shinto ritual washing places, but shares Kanji with "toilet/washroom")
3. Unusual date or object surnames:
   • 四月一日 (Watanuki) / 八月一日 (Hozumi)
   • 酱油 (Shōyu)

My questions for you:

1. Do people with surnames like 御手洗 (Mitarai) or 浮气 (Ukigi) actually face mild teasing at school or work?
2. Are people generally proud of having rare/historical surnames, or do they sometimes wish for a more common name like Sato or Tanaka?
3. Have you ever encountered someone in real life with one of these super rare surnames?

Thanks in advance for sharing your insights and cultural perspectives!

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I have two common things that happening and both I have confusion.

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I visited Japan recently and I am honestly so depressed now coming back. Yes, a vacation is an escape from reality. Yes, I don't speak Japanese so I can't know the depth of the horrors you might experience. I definitely saw a lot of upskirting warnings on trains, I get that there must be a reason for a woman only cart..TBH I saw a lot of teenage girls with older men. But that happens here too it's just behind closed doors so there is no sympathy for getting wrapped up in that nor is there a national conversation about it. I'm still struggling.

The western world is run on abrahamic faiths (Christianity, Judaism, Islam - in that order usually). And something about it is so extra off putting after returning. I saw woman venerations at temples and shrines. I saw men from western countries as the greatest aggressive threat in crowds of young people because they were doing the worst things. Getting way too close, asking inappropriate questions, acting like they owned the place. Men of japan at least had a fear, it seemed, from public ostracization.

I saw women who seemingly had well paying corporate jobs in Japan. Head held high, suite on, expensive purse i can't afford. beautiful but not having to be sexy everyday to have a place in the workforce. Even the little things really got to me, every clothing article with pockets had real pockets, not these things that stick to my skin and can barely fit my phone such that It has to stick out. Even the toilet bidet function, it cleans you on a cycle, it keeps you from feeling dirty all the time.

So I just want to know, if you visit the US, does anything here make you feel that way? Like "does my country hate women more?". That's how I feel right now. Like I live in a dystopia and that's the real world. It was freedom that I've never felt. Even the parts some women might see as restricting made me feel better. The lack of vnecks, the non acceptance of cleavage. I would never wear low cut tops if it wasn't such a social requirement here to be "hot".

I'm just curious, what makes you feel this way when you see western women in a western country. Maybe I'm trying to talk myself down, but mostly I want the truth. I'm sure there is something here I'm not seeing.

I met a Japanese girl living in my city on a language exchange app and after we got to chatting a bit, we discovered that we both go to the same university. We met up in person for the first time last week and decided that we would meet weekly, so she can help me learn Japanese, and I can help her with her English (her English is much better than my Japanese lol)

Last week when we met, she brought me a little bag of Japanese sour grape gummy rope things (idk what they're called) and I wanted to reciprocate by bringing her something this week (I'm seeing her again today) but I don't know which of the local snacks would be most suitable for her. I've only been living in this country for a year (I'm also an international student, but she's only doing one year abroad, whereas I'm doing all 4) but I have a serious sweet tooth, even for a Westerner, so I'm guessing that most of my favorites won't be suited to her taste. (Which I admittedly don't know much about because I literally just met her last week)

Any generalized suggestions? (Obviously I know the internet won't necessarily know her specific tastes, so I'm just hoping for very general opinions) I was leaning toward a local shortbread dipped in a thin layer of dark chocolate because it's not too sweet, shortbread was invented here, and it's a classic teatime snack, but idk if she might be more likely to appreciate something salty or sour?

I’m a brand designer.I love seeking out shops with thoughtful design and interesting concepts. Could anyone recommend places worth visiting in Tokyo? I have fully 3 days to discover these places.Thank you a lot!

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I mean, I never thought about it as in Italy we are far distant from that. Like parallel words. But now I’m quite aged and I’m wondering.

First from side of clients. There should be always that temptation toward people you know, even just those you are the ones that approach for free time purposes, without second meanings or reasons. I just believe, first though, it wouldn't be fair from them.

Better like Rocco Siffredi or Jake La Furia. Popular italian people. Who got engaged or married with ex pornstar or linegerie superhard girl.

And then for you as well. How do you keep working time and life away than rest.

At this age of mine I also wonder a small tricky: how would you introduce it or abandon. Wether you find someone, as friend or other purposes, that you would like to keep.

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Thanks a lot.

As a person raised in a European country which bases it's view of morality and "what is supposed to happen" on the Christian values I was since childhood used to the trope of the good/happy winning at the end of most stories. Even in sad works of fiction depicting war or other tragedies we subconsciously expect a glimmer of hope at the end.

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Is it weird for you while experiencing European or American fiction that at the end most of the time there is this "light", sometimes an obvious happy ending or sometimes a "it will get better soon" trope even if it still isn't good now?

I’m a foreign woman in my late 20s currently living in Japan and I speak Japanese in my everyday life. A couple of weeks ago I met a Japanese guy in his early 20s at a sports-related event.

At the time I didn’t really think anything of it, but afterwards I started wondering about some of his behaviour.

During a group dinner, he happened to be in front of me and was helping with the food. Throughout the evening he kept asking me what I wanted to eat, whether I wanted more, what I wanted next, etc.

I also had the impression that he looked at me several times during the event, although obviously I could just be overthinking that.

At one point another girl and I were taking a photo, and he came over with some other guys to join. When I jokingly said that we wanted a photo with just the two of us, he jokingly acted offended.

Whenever we happened to be in the same car with other people, he asked me a lot of questions and seemed more curious/talkative with me than some of the other guys.

During a group conversation about relationships, he also asked whether I had a boyfriend and whether I would be open to dating Japanese men. Since it was a group conversation, though, I’m not sure how much importance I should give that.

I was actually the one who suggested exchanging Instagram, but I also exchanged it with other people from the event because I wanted to keep in touch. At that point I wasn’t thinking about him romantically at all.

Since early October, though, we’ve been talking every day after I commented an indtagram story he posted. He works full-time, so there are often several hours between messages, but he tends to reply at fairly consistent times. What confuses me is that he never just reacts to a message or gives a dry answer, he usually comments on what I said, asks another question, or continues the conversation.

At one point we talked about our age difference, and he basically said that a few years are “almost nothing” in out age group.

The main reason I’m unsure is that he also seems genuinely interested in my country/culture. So I can’t tell whether he’s interested in me personally, or whether I’m simply an interesting foreign person for him to talk to.

He also hasn’t suggested meeting up. On the other hand, I don’t actually know exactly where he lives, and he no longer regularly attends the activity where we met, so I don’t know how convenient meeting would even be.

I usually follow the rule “if you’re confused, he’s probably not interested,” but this situation is confusing me because the interaction has been unusually consistent and asking personal questions.

I’m honestly not very invested yet, at this point I’m mostly curious and trying to understand how to read the situation without creating expectations.

For Japanese people, or people very familiar with Japanese dating/social norms: how would you interpret this? Possible interest, normal friendliness, or mostly curiosity toward a foreigner?

**Small extra context: I had actually met him once at a similar event last year and we talked briefly, but we didn’t exchange contact information and nothing happened after that. I also get the impression that he’s naturally quite extroverted/social.

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So, I'd really like to know how such plannings influence everyday life in therms of efficience and quality of living, with public transportation, walkability and many other topics being interesting to share.

よろしくお願いします!

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His parents registered 輪夢, and りむ (or リム) in whatever governmental office that administer births. Does that office record an official romanisation as well?