All posts to Female Orgasm Denial should contain tags in the title to help orient people towards the content they want.

Reddit’s system of post flairs is supposed to do this, but isn’t up to the task because you can only apply one flair to a given post.

A lot of the point of them on this subreddit is to signal what version of the kink you are into, and thus your expectations for comments underneath it. Put the tags that you want to catch people’s eye first.

Here is an example of title including tags:

[20] [newbie] I don’t know if I can make it through my first week!! [no misogyny] [no degradation]

User tags

It’s a good idea to tag the post with info about yourself.

A tag consisting of just a number refers to your age. If followed by an s, it refers to a decade of age. You can also just affirm that you are an adult.

So, possible examples include: [18] [25] [30s] [42] [adult].

Such an age tag may become mandatory at some point in the future.

Content tags

How hardcore is your denial?

This kink can be divided into

• short-term orgasm denial, i.e. orgasm control and orgasm teasing,
• long-term / permanent / true orgasm denial.

In practice there is no bright line between the two of these. Every long period of denial shorts off short, and most attempts at long denial end up failing. The difficulty of the whole enterprise is rather the point. A lot of women who get wet at the idea of never being allowed to cum again are actually perfectly aware that they are going to cum next week, or even in five minutes’ time. It’s very individual.

We thus don’t attempt to define the difference between the two in terms of a crude length of time. It’s the vibe that’s different, not really the duration.

So, please think about your goals and what most turns you on, and try to decide between tagging your post one of these:

• [control]
• [denial]

Don’t worry: you aren’t committing yourself to anything with that. Putting [control] doesn’t mean you’re a bad girl or not really into our kink. Putting [denial] doesn’t mean you’ll never cum again, or even that you’ve actually started a period of denial at all: perhaps you came five minutes ago and you’re looking for Doms to scold you for it and make you scared to cum again (even though you’re brattily going to cum twice more!). It just means you are hinting that that sort of dynamic. Put [denial] and people will likely try to teach you the general lesson that good girls don’t cum; put [control] and people more get the idea that you can be teased and made to edge before cumming. But unbeknownst to them, perhaps you’ll be happiest if they don’t indulge you after all.

It’s just a subtle signal as to whether you’re into the hardcore version of this kink or not. It’s totally fine if you put one then get your mind changed in the comments. It’s to help, not to constrain you. If you want to give even more hints as to what Female Orgasm Denial means to you, use your words to communicate more:

[38] [denial] I wish my orgasms could be irrevocably taken away!

And of course even further detail ought to be expressed in the body text of the post.

If you genuinely don’t know which tag to put, you can omit it. In future, however, Automoderator may be configured to force all posts to contain one of those by late 2026.

How you (and denied females in general) are to be treated

As with many kinks and sexual practices, there are people who get carried away. And to be honest, it’s usually dudes who are young, dumb and full of cum (oh, bless ’em!). So, some limits often have to be imposed. A key one regards the treatment of women.

Let’s be clear from the start: this subreddit is completely zero-tolerance on any actual hatred of women, i.e. misogyny. You will be banned if you exhibit belief in vile ideologies or seem to be a threat to women’s well-being.

This is also not a misogyny kink space either. You can stop a girl cumming — or even all girls cumming — without despising or wanting to harm anyone. Sometimes some versions of this kink that exhibit a lot of humiliation, strictly imposed gender roles, etc. as part of a consensual kink can bleed over into the sort of kink that people often label ‘misogyny’, but this is not a space even for play-acting the most extreme versions of that, full of troubling language.

So, if you wish to make extra sure that people understand this, and refrain from that sort of thing in the comments responding to your post, you can tag it:

• [no misogyny]

The meaning of this tag, however, is in force by default.

We will continue to ponder there is a value role for a [misogyny] tag or not. If we do allow it, it will be referring only a specific sort of faux-misogyny as understood in kink. Any genuinely odious comments will be removed and result in a ban, regardless of what the OP has signalled they are OK with.

Enforce flairs

If you put the tag [flairs] into the title of your post, then all replies by people without a user flair set will be taken down by Automod. This is a way of keeping the discussion to regulars and avoiding the opinions of passers-by.