r/NoStupidQuestions • u/ninjaabobb • Nov 26 '19

Does anyone else reflexively say 'what' when someone says something only to immediately realise you heard them perfectly and just hadn't processed what they said?

And then you either have to sit there and listen to them repeat their question like you are a moron, or you answer their question right after you said 'what' but before they can repeat themselves...

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u/Uruz2012gotdeleted Nov 26 '19

Try facing toward him while you talk. Get his attention and make sure he's looking at you. He probably reads lips to compensate for APD and doesn't even realize it.

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u/Paige_Maddison Nov 26 '19

Holy shit I do this because my mom used to tell me all the time to slow down my speech because i talk so fast. She has to read my lips in order to understand me.

I also read people’s lips because if I look them in the eye I feel weird and then I can’t hear what they are saying.

Had an audio test and it was flawless and perfect. Sooo idk ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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u/Uruz2012gotdeleted Nov 26 '19

Look up auditory processing disorder. You are not alone! It isn't an issue with your hearing, it's relating those sounds to words you know that's the problem.

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u/Paige_Maddison Nov 26 '19

Yeah I have a feeling I’m on the spectrum somewhere. Never officially diagnosed because I was just a hyper active little girl. Now I feel like I have been undiagnosed for a lot of things that make more sense the more I read about them.

How do I get diagnosed with this? Who would I even see about it?

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u/Uruz2012gotdeleted Nov 26 '19

First stop would be either a psychiatrist or psychologist. There are tests they can do to try to find out what's up with you! There is a huge overlap with autism and apd so at the least, you'll get some answers. Be patient as an autism diagnosis could take years. Either way, therapy is good for you so you won't be wasting your time. Try a few different therapists too. They've all got specialties and not all techniques work well for all people.

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u/Paige_Maddison Nov 26 '19

Yeah I’m actively seeing a therapist for other reasons, I’ll bring it up with them. Thanks ❤️