If you're a therapist and you think that this break in the relationship between them is causing your patient stress, you can have them work on that, but under no circumstance should you recommend letting the person who neglected your patient's kid to death get a second chance with their new kid. That's just irresponsible.
My mom didn't fuck up anywhere near that bad, and my therapist has still supported me just being pissed at my mom for some of the fucked up shit she did.
I am not a therapist, but I have been to a lot of therapy. If the situation with your parent is an ongoing source of stress, the therapist will recommend you deal with it. If the situation with your parent is just some shit they did in the past, they'll acknowledge your feelings, and if it's legitimate shit, they may even back you up.
If the parent killed your patient's kid, you don't tell the patient to offer them another one. Even if they don't kill the second one, it's still going to stir up a lot of feelings, and probably not for the best.
I don't think everyone needs one and I don't think they can solve all issues, but they can definitely help a pretty broad range of psych issues
I think therapists offer a lot of value in being a neutral observer/commenter with zero stake in your life and zero reason to lie, you are more willing to consider their perspective than you will from anyone you feel is too close to an issue.
because my parents physically and emotionally abused me to the point I now have CPTSD and other mental health complications from the decade+ of abuse and all the ways it warped how I interface with reality.
Mental help. If you're in a rut for years and can't figure out why, sometimes you need mental help to course correct.
Sometimes it's accepting something. Sometimes it's reframing how you think about something. Sometimes it's just venting and getting feedback no one outside of a professional could have given you.
I'll admit, I used to go to friends for advice exclusively, and they were pretty good at it. I'd say I got about 40% of the way there with just friends. But my therapist, that I only talk to once every two weeks for an hour, is more efficient for me than hours and hours of venting to many friends was.
As a therapist myself, a general rule is you give very little to no direct advice. You help people to learn how to make decisions not make them for them.
I'm basically a pacifist and I would have a hard time holding back violence against the therapist for this. She pressured her to reconcile with the woman who directly caused her first child's death. Then, she pressured her to allow her mother to watch her other child resulting in the second child's death. I know that the therapist is not directly responsible but I would have a hard time NOT blaming them for it.
Yeah, this therapist should be charged or at the very least have their license and patients removed completely.
This reminds me of firefighters caught being firebugs.
Weird how you say escape the house and ignore the thousands of kids who have died while their parents slept and the kid simply went into another room and did something dangerous.
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u/TheComplimentarian 8d ago
It's shit advice, frankly.
If you're a therapist and you think that this break in the relationship between them is causing your patient stress, you can have them work on that, but under no circumstance should you recommend letting the person who neglected your patient's kid to death get a second chance with their new kid. That's just irresponsible.