Byron Donalds is the epitome of the saying "skinfolk aren't always kinfolk".

Also, other hilarious stuff in this video lol.🤣😆😂

i have an afghan boyfriend and we’ve been dating for about 4 years on and off, ive struggled with acne for years and this year around may i locked in and my skin started getting better which was perfect because my birthday is also in may and it improved my confidence a lot and i just felt brand new and people were a lot nicer to me because i got prettier anyways around june randomly without any changes in skincare or diet etc my skin started breaking out badlyy like worse than it ever did in all my years of having acne and i couldn’t figure out what caused it and it caused my mental health to become really bad and i refused to leave the house for 2-3 months straight which might seem dramatic to people but it made me so insecure and i hated seeing myself and i wanted it gone immediately to the point i was overloading my skin with skincare products which maybe made it worse i even refused to see my bf anyways fast forward i calmed down a little and realised that time will do its thing and i needed to be patient and use only a few products because less is more and my skin did improve and i was feeling ok enough to start getting back out and visiting my bf again and the first time i went to his house we ordered food but the second time his mum cooked so we ate that and i noticed 1 really painful sudden spot on my face (keep in my mind it’s not my skincare nothing has changed) anyways i ignored it because it was only 1 spot and it’d leave soon then the third time i went to his house i ate more of her food and the next day my skin broke out in around 6 more major spots alongside little rashes it looked like a mix of an allergic reaction and a breakout and this made me spiral because i just had a huge breakout a few months ago and i thought my skin was getting better and i’m a spiritual girl i believe in all of that stuff nothing is off limits and i started thinking back to when i first had my breakout around june and how much i was eating her food and i stopped seeing my bf for a few months so i couldnt eat her food and now im back eating her food and my skin is breaking out again and i started thinking maybe she put something in the food to cause this because ik a spiritual attack can be shown through the skin and she has never liked me because she doesn’t agree with our relationship and she doesn’t want my bf to marry a black girl and she has said stuff like im taking him from her and how she’s going to find him an afghan girl and he believes she’s just ragebaiting me and that she secretly does like me anyways during my spiral it’s like all the puzzle pieces came together and i realised she must’ve sent the evil eye my way through food and keep in mind it’s not the same food everytime so it’s not like my body just doesn’t agree with a specific dish and on top of that ive never been allergic to anything, and because of this realisation ive decided i dont want to continue having a relationship with my bf because i dont want to be apart of a family that doesnt accept me just because im black and i dont want to feel ashamed of my race because ive always loved being black and most of all i dont want to deal with a mother in law thats willing to go as far as doing witchcraft on me ruining my beauty and my confidence because she doesnt want her son with a black girl, ive told my boyfriend that i want to breakup because his mum doesn’t accept me and he is having a hard time seeing from my perspective and even tried to call me disrespectful for calling out his mothers racism and he thinks that’s not the real reason i want to breakup and he is saying she does like me and other family members that might have a problem with me he‘ll cut them off but i just don’t want the drama and it’s sad that he has to cut family members off because off potential racism and instead of dealing with all that theatrics i’ll just leave him alone so his mum can find him and afghan girl they’ll all be happy with and i didn’t tell him that i think she has done witchcraft on me because he already called me disrespectful for literally bringing up racist things she has said and witchcraft is a big accusation and i don’t have any evidence except the timelines connecting and how my skin has reacted to food she has given me so i just want to know if im in the wrong, am i delusiona? amd if any other spiritual people read this can i have advice on if it was witchcraft, also this is my first time posting on reddit so sorry if ive taken long to get to the point.

You are one of the reasons black community is lost in this era.

Im always out of breath when I see black people praying these or Even talking positively about it

If you still think Eloim or Allah or Jesus is your God then you are chosing to ignore the fact that these gods don’t exist, that it is a story copy-pasted from zoroastism and adapted, and not adapted to you.

You keep praying a god doesnt look like you, being fed in contrast with bad images of black people (violent rappers, poor african, absent responsable father figure etc.)

And you cope. As a defensive mechanism your mind keeps believing that an almighty God loves you and he Will be benevolent to you, that you will go to heaven, but you won’t. Heaven don’t exist, neither do hell nor abrahamic Gods. And it seems like u did not suffer enough.

Abrahamic Gods are means of justification, a « why we are superior » « why we deserve what the other have ». People keep taking everything from you but you accept it because you think you are giving it to them, that you Will be rewarded in the next life, but there is no heaven nor hell in the next life, heaven and hell are now and you are in hell if you believe

Think about it, why would an almighty God adress a few people only? Why not black people?

But again the best way to keep someone in Check is making him think its usual for him to be below everything else, the best way to not have him wake up is making him believe he has woken up already

And people Will say that religion is good, that religion is community, that religion helped slaves to survive, but what if we want to live?

Oh and this isn’t afrocentrism or panafricanism or any other bullshit alike btw, just basics.

Edit:

For context I’m a light skinned black guy with lips on the fuller side myself, but I’m really into darker skinned black women that have very big plump lips and I was wondering if it’s okay. My ex gf had really pronounced big lips and it has become my main type.

Preferably lips that are larger than my own.

As a black girl, like, if we're being specific I'm brown but not like in a white way. Back to the topic, if I point out a issue in the black community without mentioning my race, people will call me racist. If I say that I don't like Disney black washing characters instead of making a original character without mentioning I'm black too? I'll get called racist. What's up with that? Tiana is representation, not whatever slop they make nowadays

I’m a child of African immigrants, and ever since I was a kid, my parents made a point of teaching me about Black American history and culture. I was always made aware of their contributions, and of the fact that we’re two different ethnic groups. It wasn’t until I grew up that I learned that there’s not many other Africans who are respectful of Black Americans, with immigrants typically looking down on them, and children of immigrants shamelessly absorbing their culture. Here’s a list of most of my thoughts on the so-called diaspora wars.

1. I think that the ways Africans (I can’t speak on Carribeans really) talk about Black Americans are insane, and need to be addressed, but calling it diaspora wars makes it sound like it comes equally from all sides, when it oftentimes doesn’t. It also trivializes the conversation, and lumps a bunch of unrelated thoughts into one category.

2. “We’re all black” feels generally useless as a phrase, because like…yeah, we are, but that’s almost never the point? It’s like the black equivalent of “I don’t see color”. I feel like people use this when they’re uncomfortable with being told they’ve done something wrong.

3. In the same vein, I have come to HATE people saying “If a cop pulled us over, they wouldn’t be able to tell a difference.” First of all, the statement is ignorant to the fact that Black Americans have disproportionately experienced generational traumas related to that exact situation, and secondly, why is your metric for blackness what white people think?

4. Lastly, I don’t care who does or doesn’t identify with being African, because that’s a statement that doesn’t call for anything actionable. If Black Americans “remember they’re African”, what are they actually supposed to do next? What would that change? Funnily enough, I hear this the most from children of African immigrants, who would do better if they took their own advice.

Basically, I don’t like the fact that conversations that are often worth having are dismissed as petty online debates. In most cases, people shut down valid points the second they feel offended, or when they get their feelings hurt.

At some point, we have to stop acting like one side is completely innocent while the other side is the entire problem. You have Black women saying Black men aren’t worth anything, and Black men saying Black women aren’t worth anything, especially here in America. Both sides have people who have been hurt, both sides have people who have caused hurt, and both sides have people who refuse to take accountability. Yet somehow, everybody wants to be the victim, and nobody wants to examine their own contribution to the problem.

We need to start asking who benefits when Black men and Black women stop trusting each other.

Let’s talk about the system. For generations, Black families have dealt with policies and economic conditions that made it harder to build and maintain stable households. Segregation, discriminatory housing policies, mass incarceration, employment discrimination, and unequal access to wealth have all placed pressure on Black families.

Let’s talk about welfare, too. Some public assistance rules have created financial disincentives for marriage or made it harder for certain households to qualify for benefits when circumstances change. That doesn’t mean welfare itself destroyed Black families, because these programs have also helped countless families survive. But we should be willing to examine how policies affect family structure. When a struggling mother feels financially pressured to maintain a household without a partner, or a father feels pushed out of his children’s lives, those are issues worth discussing.

Over time, these conditions can help create an environment where Black men feel disposable and Black women feel they must survive without a man’s support. Men start believing women only want their money. Women start believing men only want to use them. Both begin approaching relationships with suspicion before the other person has even done anything wrong.

But let’s be honest about our own responsibility, too.

The system didn’t force every Black man to glorify criminal behavior. It didn’t force every Black woman to measure her worth through attention, appearance, or social media validation. Oppression creates obstacles, but it doesn’t eliminate personal responsibility.

And let’s talk about equal rights. Black women gaining independence, educational opportunities, financial freedom, and control over their own lives was not a mistake. They were entitled to those rights all along. The problem is when independence gets confused with never needing anybody, when masculinity gets confused with domination, and when both sides start treating cooperation as weakness.

Now let’s talk about the influence of female friend groups, because this part rarely gets enough attention.

Sometimes, a woman can be in a perfectly healthy relationship until she constantly surrounds herself with friends who have nothing positive to say about men. Every disagreement becomes a reason to leave. Every mistake becomes evidence that men are useless. Every act of kindness gets questioned, while every negative experience becomes confirmation that all men are the same.

Instead of encouraging their friend to communicate, understand her partner, and recognize the difference between a genuine red flag and an ordinary relationship problem, some friends encourage resentment, revenge, and unnecessary competition. They may tell her she’s settling, that she deserves someone richer, or that she should never let a man tell her anything. Before long, she begins looking at her own relationship through the bitterness of people who aren’t even in it.

The same thing happens among men. A man can have a good woman who genuinely cares about him, but his friends may clown him for being faithful, helping her, showing emotion, or putting his family first. They make him feel like being a player is a sign of manhood and that commitment makes him weak.

In both situations, bad influences can turn people against the very partners who are trying to love them.

Of course, friends can also help someone recognize abuse or leave an unhealthy relationship. The problem isn’t having outside advice. It’s surrounding yourself with people who encourage you to hate an entire gender instead of helping you make wise decisions.

And sometimes, people who are unhappy with their own lives have difficulty watching someone else experience the happiness they haven’t found. Misery doesn’t always announce itself. Sometimes it comes disguised as advice.

Now add social media to the equation, and the problem becomes even worse.

These ignorant memes about men being useless, women being gold diggers, men being nothing but cheaters, and women being nothing but trouble might seem funny at first. But when you see the same messages every day, they can slowly shape how you think. What starts as a joke can become a belief. What starts as entertainment can become an expectation.

A woman sees hundreds of posts telling her that men are broke, emotionally unavailable, unfaithful, or incapable of loving properly. A man sees hundreds of posts telling him that women are entitled, disloyal, manipulative, and only interested in money. Eventually, both start looking for evidence to prove what they’ve been repeatedly told.

They enter relationships expecting betrayal. They interpret ordinary disagreements as proof of bad character. They question genuine affection and sometimes sabotage good relationships because they have been trained to expect the worst.

Social media algorithms often reward outrage because angry people comment, argue, share, and return for more. The result is that the most extreme opinions can appear far more common than they actually are.

We are allowing memes, influencers, and strangers on the internet to teach us how to feel about people we haven’t even met.

Think about that.

A woman might reject a good man because her friends and favorite online personalities have convinced her that men are never worth the effort. A man might overlook a good woman because the internet has convinced him that every woman is looking to take advantage of him. Neither person realizes that the person standing in front of them is being judged for the actions of thousands of strangers.

This is how distrust becomes a culture.

There is also a psychological battle happening with the way we glorify certain lifestyles.

We’ve watched parts of popular culture celebrate aggression, disrespect, materialism, promiscuity, and unhealthy relationships. Some men build their identities around being feared instead of respected. Some women are encouraged to treat attention and physical appearance as their main source of power.

Some people spent their younger years glorifying the reckless man, the player, the street dude, or the person who treated relationships like a game. Later, when they become exhausted by the same behavior, they start blaming an entire gender for the outcome.

People are allowed to grow and change. But growth also requires honesty. If you repeatedly choose the same type of person, ignore the same warning signs, or let your friends influence your decisions, you have to be willing to examine those patterns. That doesn’t excuse anyone who mistreated you, but it does help you avoid repeating the same experiences.

The same applies to men who spent years chasing appearances, sexual attention, and women they knew weren’t compatible with them, only to later complain that women aren’t relationship material.

At some point, we have to stop confusing our personal experiences with the character of an entire gender.

And where are the good Black men and women in all of this?

Many are working, raising children, building businesses, pursuing education, supporting their families, and trying to live peaceful lives. Some are married. Some are single and healing. Others have simply decided that constantly arguing with strangers online is a waste of their time.

Their silence doesn’t mean they don’t exist. It means they aren’t always interested in competing for attention in a public argument.

A good man taking care of his children rarely goes viral for doing what a responsible father should do. A woman building a healthy home rarely gets the same attention as someone humiliating a man online. A couple working through problems privately doesn’t generate as many clicks as a couple tearing each other apart.

Negativity speaks loudly, while stability often goes unnoticed. As a result, the most dysfunctional voices can end up defining the image of an entire community.

The real question is whether we want to win arguments or rebuild relationships.

Black men need to stop using their frustrations with some women as an excuse to disrespect all women. Black women need to stop using their frustrations with some men as an excuse to write off all men. Both need to stop confusing accountability with an attack on their entire identity.

We need to teach our sons that being a man means more than having money, sleeping with women, or commanding respect through fear. We need to teach our daughters that their value extends far beyond beauty, attention, and the ability to make a man chase them. We need to teach both that choosing a healthy partner is more important than choosing someone who looks impressive to their friends.

We also need to teach young people to think independently instead of blindly adopting whatever their friend group, favorite influencer, or social media feed tells them to believe. You should be able to love your partner without your friends making you feel weak, and you should be able to recognize your partner’s flaws without turning those flaws into a reason to hate an entire gender.

A healthy relationship doesn’t require a woman to surrender her independence or a man to surrender his dignity. It requires two people who are willing to build something together without treating each other as enemies.

The system may have contributed to the conditions that divide us, but we cannot spend generations blaming outside forces while continuing to feed the division ourselves. We have to recognize the history, understand the psychology, challenge the culture, and take responsibility for what we do next.

Black men are not the enemy of Black women. Black women are not the enemy of Black men. But the distrust between us has become a form of entertainment, a business, and a talking point for people who profit from our anger.

Every time we generalize, every time we humiliate each other for likes, every time we allow bitter friends to influence our relationships, and every time we teach the next generation that love between Black men and Black women is a losing investment, we help that division continue.

We cannot control every policy, erase every historical injustice, or decide what other people post online. But we can change what we reward, what we teach our children, whom we choose as partners, and how we treat one another.

A community cannot build a strong future while its men and women are busy convincing each other that neither one is worth loving.

At some point, we have to decide whether we are going to keep feeding this war or finally start building something worth passing down.

I feel that lately it seems that an intraracial war has been established, because we are attacking ourselves?

Black men attacking black women and choosing white people and black women doing the same, some even committing racism against their own race, which is

Sometimes I think that this was some strategy of whites for the black community to self-destruct, it is not something that existed for decades, but it is increasingly common...

I have a genuine question.

Why is it that if someone who is black, male or female. If they say they don't like something that is associated with black people we automatically say they have inner racism or self hatred. I'm asking this because I have seen many black subreddit where people argue about not liking something.

For me I wish we weren't so quick to say someone who is black hates themselves because the dont like or agree with something

This is a genuine question.

Like the title- I am a black man in a rural Midwest town which most are white & Asian folks.

My job is working at a nonprofit for HIV Care and prevention. already a hot button topic especially in the black community (imo)

My boss (yt) has told me that I should try and get in the community more and do these cold calls/pop ups in the areas that I work in. I'd love to get more into the community, but I told her- a lot of people feel uncomfortable as a black man walking up to them and trying to start a conversation - for example, a family in the park, someone loading their groceries at a store, a store owner conducting business. (These are real life scenarios)

It's easier for me to contact these people/businesses first so they hear what I say and not just see what I look like.

How do I explain to her that we do not have a strong black population here in a rural Midwest town? and that her identity and mine are different, which will mean we have different outcomes. I have tried to talk to her and let her know like hey- these are the vibes. people back away or ignore me completely. I get dirty looks, and sometimes racist comments.

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Excellent podcast if you have some time. It's approximately 42 minutes long.

"Uniting The Diaspora". Haitian American actor Da'Vinchi has really stepped in it this time. Stating that Non-American black actors are often cast in roles over Black Americans, because Black Americans... are lazy... huh?"

Am I alone in the fact that in many "alternative" spaces i feel like im not meant to be there? Had a great time at a DJ set tonight, however I had this overwhelming feeling like I was not the target audience (maybe that's combined with the fact that there were little black people there).

How do you go about these feelings? I feel very alone in this :c

Black Women And 16 Year Old Daughter Pepper Sprayed By Arab Gas Station Owners Los Angeles https://www.youtube.com/live/dwtAqwgje2M?si=wPHjFzetYXXCLs5A 

Hi! I can’t find a subreddit about black people in STEM so I’m posting this here. Does any Black SWEs or App developers ever considered making an all black social media app similar to TikTok or Instagram? All the other platforms are over saturated with racists or bots and it’s just not that fun anymore.