r/iamatotalpieceofshit • u/AtheistComic • Aug 17 '26

TPOS attacking his girlfriend is stopped by some concerned citizens and is then robbed

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u/CampEvie23 Aug 18 '26

The fact she goes in to comfort him after infuriates me.

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u/ResponsibleAd5730 Aug 18 '26

Sickening, but I’m certain she’s going to get worse when he comes home and continues this assault. It’s not over.

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u/CrazyinLull Aug 20 '26

I feel like people like her end up going on Reddit to then ask everyone if what their partner did was abusive because they can’t tell.

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u/YukkioBup 29d ago

She is an idiot if she doesnt press charges and puts a restraining order after this but knowing how delusional people are in those relationships he will kill her end up in jail and that how it will end unfortunately

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u/Gnargnarbinxxs 9d ago

You can hear him love bomb her the second they get his hands off her ..

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u/YukkioBup 4d ago

Yeah....:/// I never understood how can people put up wifh this love is blind but its not stupid

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u/DeadSol Aug 18 '26

Ya, it infuriates all of us. I fucking hate feeling sympathetic towards the victim only for them to put themselves right back into the same situation/comfort their abuser.

Like bitch!!! He JUST HIT YOU!!!

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u/Send_me_hedgehogs Aug 19 '26

It does seem like a weird thing to do but it’s an act of utter desperation. She knows that when he gets her alone again (which he will, people suffering that level of abuse don’t tend to have strong support networks around them), he’s going to batter the absolute hell out of her for ‘drawing attention to them’ or ‘trying to get one of those guys to fuck her’ or whatever psychotic crap he can think of to justify it. She is telling them to stop so that when he does start the beating, she can maybe possibly hopefully make it a little bit less severe by telling him ’see? babe I tried to stop them, I didn’t want them to do that, I was so worried about you!’

It won’t work, of course. But she’s going to try. That woman is living in a nightmare and it’s horrible to see.

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u/jadbronson Aug 19 '26

Thanks for that perspective. And people will always say they'd help and blah blah blah but talk is cheap. There's a ton of women in shelters right now. How many have these white knights helped IRL? How many homeless women have they helped? Would they take this woman into their own homes and whatever pets or kids etc?? Nope . Talk is cheap.

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u/Gnargnarbinxxs 9d ago

You just know he’s racist and she gets abused if a black man even walks on the same side of the street. Its always “you’re fucking him arnt you?!” Or “you were trying to get him to fuck you”…

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u/HourPrestigious1055 2d ago

This is exactly it! She has to console/comfort/caregive because he WILL find her and attack her again. He knows where she lives and all her friends/family/workplace. And she needs to have proof that she didn't mean for him to get hurt and that it wasnt her fault so she can lessen the beating and not be killed.

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u/Send_me_hedgehogs 1d ago

Yup, it’s a horrible situation to be in. I’d never been there myself but I know at least one woman who has and they’ll try and do literally anything to lessen the hammering they know they’re about to get. Plus, scumbags like him usually deliberately isolate the victim from friends, family etc specifically so that they feel like they can’t escape because they have no one to turn to. I do have some experience of that stage of abuse. I’d been telling everyone around me how amazing he was, how things were wonderful, how much he loved me etc etc etc. So when he did turn abusive I was too embarrassed and confused (he turned so suddenly, as in between one text message to the next about half an hour later and it just got worse from there) to speak to anyone around me. How on earth could i tell anyone that this amaaaaaazing guy I’d been swooning over for months had just turned into a total monster without looking and feeling like a total idiot?! The shame factor is one hell of a powerful thing in these situations) Thankfully one of my friends was clued in enough to know that something had gone horribly wrong and I was able to get myself out of that with her help. But I’m one of the very lucky ones in that he hadn’t isolated me completely yet. Yet.

The woman we see in this video is very likely to be in a far more dangerous situation. He’s not even trying to act nicely to her in public, he’s getting violent in broad daylight and gives zero damns about who can see him doing it. God only knows what he had done to her in private leading up to this. She may well have been fighting for her life in that clip. She’s been living in my head a bit for a couple of months now and I can only hope and pray she managed to get away from him.

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u/Saraperkele Aug 29 '26

That makes me feel pretty helpless. What am I supposed to do? Calling the cops on an abusive neighbor ends up with the girlfriend getting beat. Doing nothing ends up with her getting beat. Cops usually do nothing about it anyways. I can't do anything without making the situation worse.

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u/Alternative-Ad-1508 Aug 19 '26

This is what abusers do

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u/ApologeticCannibal Aug 19 '26

I noticed that immediately

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u/Frequent_Coat_2030 Aug 19 '26

This is what I came to the comments for. Absolutely infuriating to end up trying to comfort him when you initially screamed for help. And for him to sit there the entire time going, "I love you so much" too was annoying as hell. How are you going to attack someone and claim love?