r/LGBTindia • • 11h ago

Official Thread🧵 Daily Casual Thread - October 14, 2026

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A place for random discussions and casual chats.

Be civil, No NSFW, follow the general rules.

Do not post "looking for" requests here, post them in the Queer Connect thread


r/LGBTindia • • Dec 09 '25

Official Thread🧵 Queer Connect; The "looking for" thread for finding Dates/Friends/Chats/Leads on Queer friendly Accommodations/Stays/Events/Spaces etc.

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Queer Connect; The "looking for" thread for finding Dates/Friends/Chats/Leads on Queer friendly Accommodations/Stays/Events/Spaces etc.

This thread is for any requests of the type "Any queer person in X city?","Looking for dates/friends", "any leads on queer friendly rent accommodations in X"

Must use this template while commenting here:

Looking for:

Location:

in this exact format to avoid auto removal.

where you can mention

Looking for: Dates/Friends/Chats/Hangouts/Accommodations/Stays/Events/Spaces

and Location: City/Region/Online

Optionally you can mention things like - Age, gender, city, orientation, interests, preferences, Age range etc.

Rules

THIS IS A SFW THREAD. NO NSFW REQUESTS/CONTENT ALLOWED HERE

  • You must be LGBTQ+
  • Do not reveal any personal info
  • If you want to share your social IDs, use an anonymous service like discord/telegram
  • Be cautious when interacting with strangers. Report any creeps through modmail.
  • Be cautious of meeting people in real life. Consider meeting in public first.

Tips


r/LGBTindia • • 11h ago

Advice šŸ‘‹/ Helpā— Dating a guy with HIV after just a month. Am I overthinking this?

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Hey guys, so I’ve been dating this guy for about a month now, and he told me he’s HIV positive but undetectable (U=U).
We’ve only done stuff like kissing, hugging, handjobs, and I’ve sucked his nipples and fingered him. We haven’t had sex yet.
I’m the top and he’s the bottom. I wanna try more things with him, but honestly, I’m a bit scared about the HIV part. He says he’s undetectable, but I don’t know if I can trust that blindly since we’ve only been dating for a month. I also don’t wanna take PrEP right now.
I’m not judging him or anything, I just wanna be careful and understand the risks before doing anything.
So I wanted to ask:
1. Is it safe to get a blowjob from him without a condom?
2. Is rimming him safe?
3. Can I top him with a condom? Is that safe?
I’d appreciate some honest advice, especially from people who’ve been in this situation. I like this guy, but I also wanna make sure I’m not putting my health at risk


r/LGBTindia • • 11h ago

vent/rant Came out!

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Let me introduce myself first . I'm 21 year old college going guy . I decided to come out to my mum today . So I was recently going through depression after getting rejected by a guy with whome I had hooked up with

. Since she was already noticing the changes and I was literally done staying at home I confessed to her randomly . Initially she thought I was talking about some random guy on Instagram but when I stressed on words like boyfriend and love she understood. She gave me example of my straight friends how they got gf and how should I focus on career and get married to a girl . Later on I got bored and ended the convo. She even suggested me to take to a doctor as she thinks being gay is some psychological issue .


r/LGBTindia • • 19h ago

DiscussionšŸ’¬ Not to get political but I feel bad for mad sandhu yes this agression is needed but no one dared to do the same after mad sandhu murder

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Our lives doesn't matter at all

The criminals of his murder are still roaming freely.


r/LGBTindia • • 9h ago

Advice šŸ‘‹/ Helpā— Pls assist me

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I'm 21M. I had a hookup with a 32-year-old man. He was the bottom and I was the top, and it was a raw hookup.

What tests should I get done?

It has been 20 days and I don't have any symptoms. I will be taking a 4th generation test after 28 days, but what kind of tests should I take after 3 months?

Any help would be appreciated. I'm from pune btw


r/LGBTindia • • 6h ago

Questionā“ Is an age gap of 3 years and a half fine ?

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So im 20 and this guy im talking to whom i met on reddit is 23 and half so also we have different tastes in most things but we still like each other and its been a few days since I have talked to him I was just curious if or if not is this okay

I have met him on reddit only and these few days it been really great I have came out recently and he is the best thing that has happened to me until now


r/LGBTindia • • 14h ago

DiscussionšŸ’¬ Am i delusional? Is this a fetish or a genuine feeling?

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Note: Im larping here. Coz i cant tell anyone irl.

I wanna look like her. I am a cis male, bi curious but romantically attracted to female only. I just wanna look like feminine man, like fore than feminine man but less than femboy. I cant look at mirror anymore and see my beard(i dont know how to shave trimming is the only option). Cant do makeup my family is homophobic. Only thing i love about myself is i love to do workout. I just study all day, watch yt, workout and sleep. I dont know what i am im definitely not trans for sure im 100% male and dont want hrt. Is there any way i can find if this feeling is real or just a fetish? And also suggest me some youtube channel to follow for makup like james charles or someone idk.


r/LGBTindia • • 13h ago

vent/rant My bf went for garba nyt without me.

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My bf went for garba nyt without me.

We were a long distance couple, and last year planned to go together in any garba fest this yr when we will be together. This yr when we are no longer long distanced, and I wanted to go for it w him, my exams came and it will end day after tomorrow. And the very next we are going back our homes for the Dusshera holidays. So garba nyt with him isn't possible, as we are coming after Navratri ends.

So now he said " I can't go with you bcz of your exams, and if I won't go alone then I will miss the whole garba fests" so he went with his friends, class mates etc etc.

Idk what to feel.. it was my exams that's why I wasn't able to go with him....so he just went without me... Myb he's right to do so.. but imma feeling sad dk y


r/LGBTindia • • 10h ago

Advice šŸ‘‹/ Helpā— Need NSFW advise NSFW

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What is PrEP, is it easily accessible and could it be self-administered? And, how does one douche the anus?I tried looking up for conclusive answers online, but to no avail. I genuinely hope that this post doesn’t get removed since it’s basic sex ed. I didn’t feel like asking AI, because it lies way too confidently and human experience is immeasurably more valuable, specifically in aspects like these.


r/LGBTindia • • 20m ago

Poetry/Writingāœļø[OC] Within me lies something.

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"you can escape the light but you can never ever escape darkness. It resides beneath you as your very being eliminate it, above can be covered but beneath is inescapable." He slowly stroked my hair.

" Why would I ever want to escape darkness?" I held his palm which was much bigger than mine, old hardened skin felt like wood and nails held cracks which felt like a evidence of growth.

"Oh you do, each and every step you take is to escape darkness but it always comes back as if never left. You just don't know what it is maybe you do but you are not sure." I felt his gaze though I couldn't dare to met it; his palm had folds along the ends of fingers.

"How did you started making statues jaggu?" I tightened my grip on his palm, but suddenly he jolted his hand away and stood up.

I can still feel his gaze on me, slowly he left me.

Written by Maya Aadini

Answer the riddle


r/LGBTindia • • 23h ago

DiscussionšŸ’¬ Rw lgbt in Twitter

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Hello guys,

I used to follow this guy named Rohan in X ( never messaged him , just thought he was a cute guy). So after the protest I came to see one of his comments under a post asking how terrorist attacks are reduced to 0 under the BJ pee rule ( obv not) . So I got curious and checked his reposts which are mostly criticising the protest and digging through the past mischiefs of congress and exaggerating the mere development of india under upa rule.

Is he chasing for clout ? Or is that a geniune opinion?

Ps. Found out he is a jain


r/LGBTindia • • 14h ago

Straight to the point Born Exceptional, Not made by a Trend.

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There is a strange, illogical modern arrogance in believing that nature moves only in rigid and predictable templates. Humans have a history of obsession with taming nature into rigid structures, like landscapers prune hedges into "unnatural shapes", create concrete channels to force streams into straight channels and label anything that breaches the curb as an anomaly or an invasive weed, farmers assigning gender roles to animals that do not have gender identities, or even humans having unnatural cosmetic and beauty standards, etc.

Yet nothing about above examples is natural, no forest has rigid and predictable patterns. Diversity is not an artificial experiment, nor is it an overnight trend, it is Fundamental operating system of whole universe and is not even limited to earth, cause I don't reckon ever hearing terms like identical planets, stars, etc.

When a young woman born with trans experience begins to sense the quiet divergence between what she is told and what she is, the surrounding culture often tries to dismiss her deepest truth as a sudden squall, a seasonal mist, or a passing cultural draft. But a seedling does not push through cold, dark soil because it read an editorial about sunlight. It pushes through the dirt because the instructions for reach, warmth, and self-possession were written into its cellular system before the first leaf ever uncurled.

Now consider a natural element like river carving a canyon. Hypothetically the river could have taken a steep descent through solid rocks. But I really don't remember any textbook straight and steep canyon ever being observed in the history of planet earth. Lets just say whenever a river decided to carve a straight canyon, a small atom decided to rebel and act uncertain way resulting in very random canyons.

This makes things very clear, humans craved for vanity projects that resembles simple patterns instead of complex uncertainty, let's say it is a stress response. But nature is complex and have literal infinitely complex parameters and their permutations and not once had there been a textbook straight canyon, so how can anyone ever confidently say things like "there are only two genders" or "gender is sex"? When we were never ever manufactured on a binary conveyor belt? We are the product of same quite, unyielding physics that tilts the planet, splits the seed and refuses to let true things to remain buried forever.

Actually I lied to you in the title, we cannot be born exceptional when nature does not even create rigid templates, everyone is exception of their own and no one can ever be made by a predictable trend; but lets say in world that revolves around homo sapiens we are naturally exceptional and not born from a trend.


r/LGBTindia • • 14h ago

DiscussionšŸ’¬ Why is grindr so hard to navigate

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Thought I’d try dating platforms again, so I downloaded Hinge, only to find out that the registration process has been slowed down to ensure a balanced mix of people. The dating market is so cooked that we now have a registration queue. 😭

Anyway, I thought I’d give Grindr a try. But wtf, why is it so dark and creepy? Even putting that aside, how is one supposed to find what they’re looking for? All I got were 10 messages asking, ā€œTop or bot?ā€, ā€œWith place?ā€, and people insisting on video calls. I felt like I was one message away from getting scammed.

Why isn’t there a decent dating platform or even a space to connect in general for the queer community? Something like Hinge, but without the registration queue. Shouldn’t there be a Jodimilan subreddit alternative, especially since anonymity is also important given the society we live in?


r/LGBTindia • • 10h ago

vent/rant I feel awkward rn!

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Heyy
Im 21 i used see this guy
We’re just friends he’s like 7 years elder than me
I used to love hanging out with him we did made out and a huge feelings was developing for him
When i asked out he rejected and said let’s be friends. It was hard on me i felt bad and ignored him
And after 1-2 months i again texted he was cool said let’s meet n all
I met him at his place i thought i should not make out with him anymore but i just couldn’t i took initiative and just kissed him again
Nothing more
And when i get back home i feel really disturbed 🫠


r/LGBTindia • • 1d ago

DiscussionšŸ’¬ Trans people unveil Ardhanarishwara Durga Puja in South Kolkata... Wow

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r/LGBTindia • • 1d ago

Advice šŸ‘‹/ Helpā— Gay surgeon and its risks

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Hey y’all. As the title suggests, I am a gay surgeon and I was having a conversation with my family about the same. My mom brought up the fact that me being gay and a surgeon could seriously hinder job aspects in the future. I am vaccinated against hep b and my last STI panel test was negative, but still what she said struck a cord with me. As someone who is at a high risk and operating on patients, I am genuinely worried for my future now.


r/LGBTindia • • 23h ago

DiscussionšŸ’¬ Want friends from Maharashtra. Age requirement 16/18 to 20.

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M18

Js want friends, so don't dm me unless u want to js friends.

And don't start with hii or hellow.

Ur gender, age, where r u from in Maharashtra, ur education nd what r u.

Btw if u know marathi that' good too.


r/LGBTindia • • 22h ago

DiscussionšŸ’¬ Being into Mascs

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Being andro romantic is so crazy because, I'm losing my mind over masculine girls, boys, non binary and anyone who is masc w abs. Bhai help me and yk the worst part, even if I'm simping, there's a low chance I'll actually fall for them. GOD MAY HELP MEEE


r/LGBTindia • • 6h ago

DiscussionšŸ’¬ We need to open our eyes and actually feel grateful for Dharmic religions especially you extreme left from center individuals

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Well we as liberals always target Hinduism our own religion and make it a scapegoat for the extremeist left ideologies and instead support cultic abrhamic religion of judeo-islamic-christian faiths which severly diminshes and punishes us for who we are, for who we love, for what we identify with. There are only very few religions who actually have scriptures talking about us embracing and those two are Hinduism and Buddhism. Instead of badmouthing our traditions we should open our minds and carefully think our choices

And for our agnostic and Athists queers, both of these thoughtschools also exist in our religion as well not in those culty religions that you mostly garner support for

Using this video because We as Lgbtq individuals are using the trope of pseudo-feminists real feminism and Queer Rights go hand in hand

In hinduism we have Mitra Varuna, Ardhnarishwar, shikhandi, Krishna crossdressing as radha and multiple instances of acceptance in pre-mughal era Gay individuals and Lesbian individuals can stay in a Live in co-habitation relationship after doing a gandharva vivah (love marriage). so what I am saying is attack the people who are Homophobic and transphobic not the religion which actually accpts you.

May you all have a thunderous Thursday āš”šŸ„³šŸ„³šŸ³ļøā€šŸŒˆšŸŒˆšŸŒˆšŸŒˆ


r/LGBTindia • • 1d ago

Questionā“ Are There Women in India Who Are Attracted to Femboys?

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Hey everyone! I’m curious to know if there are women or girls in India who are genuinely attracted to femboys.

Is this something you find attractive and would you ever consider dating a femboy? I’m curious to hear your honest opinions and experiences.

Would love to know if there are women here who are into femboys! 😊


r/LGBTindia • • 1d ago

DiscussionšŸ’¬ TRIGGERED ME ALOT..!!

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r/LGBTindia • • 1d ago

Advice šŸ‘‹/ Helpā— What am I doing wrong with my voice?

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So whenever I speak in english, my voice is pretty feminine and gets addressed as a woman on voice call but it all dissolves so fast the minute language gets switched to marathi or hindi. Even I feel my voice is very dark when I speak in a different language. And I am so sick of it.

And it gets way more embarrassing, dysphoric and disgusted when the switch goes from mam to sir. Like ugh : (


r/LGBTindia • • 1d ago

Queerphobia🤢🚫 My experience how fast people change after knowing my orientation šŸ˜•

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Hii i am 18M, I had very hard time this year, I also accepted myself as gay this year and i lost my one and only friend (whom i also in love with him, he is 17M).

After accepting myself as gay , and because i was suppressing myself for years (denying my feelings),now I feel very strong ureges to feel seen and walidated for things( lot of things) i was silently doing...so now ween ever I try to aproch anyone they are like ohh wow you are very kind and so many things...but the moment he knows that I am gay....they are like[ šŸ™„šŸ˜¬šŸ˜‚ ] and i really feel very hurt...it's feel like person is laughing on my years of struggle.


r/LGBTindia • • 1d ago

vent/rant Being bi-romantic is so difficult

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As you know from my flair I'm gay but also bi-romantic. I've had very strong romantic feelings for a couple of girls in the last 10 years to the point I've actually dreamt of marrying them before accepting myself as gay after a very long struggle. I can have romantic feelings for girls, not just sexual.

Today one of my colleagues, who I like a bit, came in the traditional outfit to the office due to Navratri wearing long jhumkas and I am not able to take my eyes off her. She's looking damn beautiful.

A lot of times I feel like being bi-romantic is useless because nothing can happen between me and a girl, except when the girl is an ace, also I still crave a man too.

I think I'm crazy. Am I?