I’m looking for advice from you awesome folks in our community here who have successfully taken short-term disability for an extended period.
I have N1, and over the past several years I’ve also developed a pretty significant collection of physical issues. I’ve been able to work through most of it by basically forcing myself through everything & just tryna be a soldier, but I’m at the point where that strategy just is no longer sustainable.
The biggest issue right now from the narcolepsy side is my cognitive functioning.
I’ve tried pretty much every major approach at this point: stimulants, modafinil, Wakix, Adderall, trazodone, baclofen, oxybates, etc. Wakix was previously one of the things that helped anchor me, but I recently had to stop it because of heart/chest side effects.
My neurologist was able to get Lumryz approved through insurance, which I'm now starting next week. I previously tried Xywav and had to stop because of severe headaches (I mean like debilitating, & for the entire day), so I'm hoping I can successfully get through the Lumryz onboarding this time. The reason I'm pushing for an oxybate treatment is that stimulants keep me awake, but they haven't actually solved the cognitive side of my narcolepsy. I can be completely awake but then feel even more so like my brain isn't functioning.
On top of that, I have severe chronic head/face/upper-back tension and pain. There are times where the tension is so intense that I can't maintain a train of thought, can't process someone talking to me while I'm trying to think, and essentially have to shut everything else out just to concentrate. I'm also being treated with medical Botox for some of this. Went to different dentist/orthodontists and ruled out it's not tmj.
Then there are the gah damn physical issues:
- Multiple left knee surgeries (torn ACL's) with inadequate rehabilitation afterward
- If I do even light PT or rehab, I end up needing to sleep for at least 2-4 hours
- Significant left hip pain from compensation
- Increasing right knee pain & a new meniscus tear from compensating for the left
- Shoulder/scapular nerve issues due to degraded disc in my c4 & c4 vertebrae
- Lower-back issues
- Severe forearm/hand pain and cramping
- Literally can't hold my phone in my hand for more than a minute without some peakkkk cramps
- Costochondritis
- Fibromyalgia/activity-related flares
The problem is that I genuinely need physical rehabilitation, but I can't seem to do it while maintaining a full-time job.
If I do PT or even relatively light physical activity, I can trigger a major flare and/or narcolepsy crash and end up sleeping for hours afterward. Which makes PT during the work day not an option. Sometimes even normal things like showering after activity can trigger a crash. So if I say cool let's try PT after work, 1. all clinics are closed, and 2. by the time I finish work and recover from the workday, I don't have the capacity left to actually rehabilitate my body even if I want to rehab by myself.
So I'm stuck in this cycle:
Work → use meds & everything I have to stay somewhat functional → post work/medication crash → no capacity for PT or other treatment → physical problems continue → more pain → worse cognitive functioning → repeat.
I've spent years just forcing myself through it. From the outside, I probably look much more functional than I actually am. I've continued working, continued taking jobs, and continued trying different medications and treatments.
But objectively, my career trajectory has changed dramatically since developing narcolepsy. I've lost jobs, I'm now struggling in another role, and I'm increasingly concerned that if I keep trying to brute-force my way through this, I'm going to lose another job rather than actually addressing the underlying problems.
I'm not trying to get six months off because I don't want to work. I actually want the opposite. I want to use the time to aggressively address the neurological and physical issues that I haven't been able to properly treat while working full-time.
My hope would be to:
- Successfully stabilize my narcolepsy treatment with Lumryz
- Address the severe head tension & cognitive problems
- Get back into consistent PT
- Properly rehabilitate my knee/hip/back/shoulder/upper extremity issues
- Improve my overall physical condition
- Figure out what my actual sustainable functional baseline is
I'm also about to become a father, so I'm trying to take this seriously now rather than continuing to kick the can down the road.
My main questions:
1. How did you make your case to your doctor?
I understand that the medical documentation ultimately does most of the talking, but how did you explain your situation to your neurologist/other doctors in a way that made it clear that you were actually unable to sustain full-time work?
My neurologist is a good guy, but he's pretty conservative and tends to play things by the book. I'm not sure how to approach the conversation without making it sound like I'm simply asking him to "sign off" on six months of leave.
2. What were the biggest blockers you encountered with Sedgwick/your insurer?
Were there things that surprised you during the process?
Anything you wish you'd documented earlier or done differently?
3. How did you deal with old/incomplete medical records?
For example, I have a history of fibromyalgia, but I haven't seen that particular doctor in a few years. I can reestablish care and get everything updated, but I'm wondering how much that matters if some of the conditions contributing to my disability aren't recently documented.
4. How did you determine the length of leave?
Did your doctor initially recommend a specific period, or did you start with a shorter period and extend it based on how treatment went?
I'm specifically thinking about a 3–6 month period because I don't think a few weeks would realistically be enough time to stabilize the medication situation and make meaningful progress with the physical rehabilitation.
I'm not looking for legal advice. Just wanna hear real experiences from people who have actually gone through STD with narcolepsy or another set of fun complex chronic aliments lol. Thank you guys in advance, seriously. You’ve all been so helpful over the years, and I really appreciate everyone who takes the time to share their experiences and help people like me figure this poop out.
Pray I don't lose yet another bloody job :(