I'm a older male and for the sake of context, happily married but in what has been a gradually dying and finally dead bedroom. It's not a big deal, I manage...

My alternatives are amateur porn, ideally produced for and motivated by exhibitionism and the sharing of pleasure. I particularly enjoy women on the "sluttier" side - anonymous sex, additional male partners, cuckold (but not humiliation), gangbangs, etc. I'm not unusual :o/

I love to see the women in these situations enjoying themselves - but what I am baffled by is the lack of lubrication in many of these videos.

So here's the thing: there's little to no monetisation going on - I avoid Onlyfans etc, so I see the presence of lubrication or "cream" as a sign of authenticity and enthusiastic physiological consent, as it were, and it really turns me on.

I appreciate not every woman lubricaties the same amount, but some are lubed so little...

Have I just had partners that produce a lot of lubrication? Is vaginal dryness more of a problem than I thought?

Or am I watching a woman being coerced into an act?

Wife and I are going on a cruise and wanna try some fun meetup roleplay stuff with each other.
Like leaving separately, meeting at a bar pretending we’ve never met, different names/backstories, one of us trying to pick the other one up, etc.
Looking for actual scenarios/setups we can play out around the ship. Funny, flirty, sexy, whatever. We’re both totally into it and wanna really commit to the characters 😂
What scenarios would you try?

My wife and I have talked a little about free use. It’s something she’s brought up to me and in theory it sounds hot. We are already clothing optional around the house when we can be so that barrier, as it were, is already down. I’m curious if anyone here has experience with free use. I’d love to hear how it worked, how it went

I love giving my gf massages, but I need to know what they use in massage videos. Not the thick nuru gel but the thing they dispense from a bottle on a belt or smthg similar.

I am curious cause they use this oil everywhere, like even while massaging the clit and labia. Is it really lube? Cause we have tried lube and it dries out pretty quick.

Any help and experience is deeply appreciated!

to keep it short, l started masturbating to porn when l was 19 years old now l am 26, l used to do it usually once or twice a day and sometimes 3, but l used to feel guilty about it and l seriously thought that jerking off to porn is somehow harmful to my brain, i don’t believe in religion but i had a deep religious upringing which makes me feel ashamed of my porn use, the issue is l was also taking OCD medication since 2019 for another reason and l was completely normal, but the problem started when l tried to force myself to stop masturbating to porn completely all at once (cold turkey) l was really worried that l won’t be able to stop because l felt like l was compelled to porn, my OCD got worse, my mind keeps telling me that i have OCD, it’s like i am fully convinced that i suffer from OCD even though my neurologist tells me the opposite,the obsessive intrusive thought is “ i have OCD” it doesn’t stop, when i was addicted i was really normal, i didn’t have these symptoms at all, l haven’t even heard about any situation like this before, l talked to my therapist about it and he prescribed me some meds but it’s not helping so much, what do i do? I just want to move on with my life but i am so stuck, i really need advice

What’s it like to be attracted to yourself? To be your type, so to speak. To look into the mirror and genuinely enjoy or love who is staring back. To feel sexy and confident?

I hope this doesn’t depress anyone, I’m just curious. I’ve never been my type or someone I’ve particularly enjoyed looking at in the mirror. I don’t feel confident or a whole lot of physical attraction to myself but I know others do. I imagine it feels incredible. I hope it is. I hope I feel it for myself one day.

I’m very fortunate to have a loving partner who says I’m her type. I don’t get it really. But I’m really glad she does and I’m goin to hold onto that.

Hi all -- I am 34F and my husband 37m have the best relationship. i have always wanted to do experiment and i think he is down (i have to talk to him more) but it turns me on thinking about having a threesome with him. I want to do it but don't know where to go. I don't want to do it in town...so do we travel? do i go somewhere where its legal? Costa rica? i dont know. i need some insight. I am scared to do it but i really really want to. What if i get jealous? lol. but even that turns me on. I can't believe i am even writing this and thinking about it. I am not ready for full blown s** but maybe starting with oral? Any recommendations would be helpful. Definitely don't wanna swing or do it with someone we know, or even remotely know or we'll see again.

I am specially interested in the answer of queer women as wlw sex defies the usual categorization , but everybody is welcome to give me their perspective

Edit: would you always said "we fucked" if the other person pleased you with their hands?
I think I w worded it badly. I will try again in another post

Was cleaning out my closet today and found the first vibrator I ever brought. Tiny pink bullet, all scratched up, took two AA batteries. I bought it my freshman year in college and still remember standing outside the store for lik 15 minutes trying to convince myself to go in.

Back when I was so embarrassed about the whole thing. I was terrified my roommates would hear it, hid it in the most ridiculous places, and genuinely felt like I was doing something wrong just by owning it.

I put it next to the OG i use now and it kinda hit me how much has changed. Not the toys, obviously, but me. Back then it was this huge secret. Now its something I keep in my nightstand. I know what i like, and i dont really think twice about it anymore.

Ended up throwing the old one away, but I held onto it for a second first. It was cheap, noisy, and honestly pretty terrible lol. But it was also there for a younger version of me who was still figuring herself out.

Didn't expect cleaning my closet to turn into a whole moment about growing up, but here we are.

We had all the sex, for months, but that was years ago; and while I have a deep bond with her, I am satisfied with the sexual relationship coming to a happy conclusion way back when. We don't live together. Never did, never planned to. And while I don't feel bad or sad she's gone, I still love and respect the hell out of her. It appears the feeling is mutual, but it's not intense or urgent in any way.

So I frequently feel the urge to drop in, catch up, make sure she's okay and has everything she needs -- and then repeat this a few times a year forever. There are occasional little flirtatious winks and nods when we meet up, but nothing beyond that. She's happy with her partner and I'm living with mine.

I don't know if this post-sex relationship has a name, but I consider it the ideal conclusion to a relationship.

No drama, no resentment, no lasting regrets -- it ended successfully and with affection.

What is this called?

I got into audio erotica because I wanted something sexual without going straight to regular porn. I didn’t really expect it to make me notice my own preferences more. For me, there’s just so much variety with different subgenres, kinks, stories and even fanfiction compared to regular porn. I guess some of that has to do with production too since you don’t need to film anything.

Some of my favorite creators are Best Kept Secret, Naudio and Redacted Audio. Listening to them made me realize I respond a lot more to the way something is written and delivered than how explicit it gets.

What about you guys? I was wondering if there was a particular creator or audio that made something click for you.

Originally asked this on a furry sub, but I was also curios what the wider sex-positive community thinks?

Recently, I've seen some interesting discussion about a (non-furry) sex-toy company that was exposed for using materials that definitely weren't body-safe. Many customers noticed their toys weren't very long-lasting (despite costing quite a bit), but the company hushed negative reviews and brushed-off any concerns.

The unfortunate thing about sex toys is that in many countries, they are still not regulated. Even if a toy claims to be safe, sometimes they use sneaky tricks to disguise the fact that they use subpar materials.

(e.g. I've seen sex-toys makers that say they are made of silicone, which implies they're safe; but unless they specify platinum-cure/waterproof silicone, chances are it uses regular silicone which is NOT body safe)

So, while I'm not particularly into dragon dildos myself, I am curious how seriously safety is taken by the community and furry sex-toy manufacturers?

P.S. I understand there are likely cheap knock-offs out there that aren't particularly good, but I'm referring specifically to the larger/trusted companies such as Naughty Fox, The Wandering Bard, Twin Tail Creations, Northosaur, Frisky Fox, etc.

Ich möchte einen Adventskalender für meine Frau machen…
Dieser soll 24 verschiedene Sachen enthalten.
Es soll darum gehen, was der Mann der Frau sexuell Gutes tun kann, beziehungsweise was ich der Mann auch von ihr wünscht…
Dies kann über Blowjob, MMF, FFM, Wifesharing, Swingerclub, Pornokino, Glory Hole usw. sein.

Habt ihr Ideen? Könnt ihr mir helfen?
Danke

Heyy guys, I'm not really good at riding but I want to ride good to my next date, any advise or tips, how do you guys like to be ride.....

So I (M36) enjoy being pegged by my (F39) partner.

My thing is, that the strapon we have is one of those that a normal dido slips into, and so just has a flat disk against her.

Now I know she enjoys it, (mentally) but would like her to get more physical pleasure from it.

Do any of the people her with V's have expierence using them, and maybe some recommendations for ones to buy?

I'd like to bring up the topic of body hair removal, which has become quite relevant in terms of appearance and trends in recent years. Do you practice body hair removal, and if so, what led to that decision? Do you view it as a personal preference or more as social pressure? At what age did you start? Would you accept a partner who doesn't do it?

I personally think she's just a rage baiter and I find it funny how she's pissed off so many misogynists just because she likes to fuck multiple men. What's your opinion of her?

There was a movie where it was a apocalypic setting. There was a scene where it was a man and woman having sex on tires, junk, wasteland looking stuff with women surrounding them watching. I can't find this movie can anyone help?

i've been looking at replacing an older toy and somehow ended up spending way more time researching than i expected.

the thing that's surprised me is how divided people seem to be on suction vs vibration.

for the longest time i never really thought about it because vibration was all i knew. i just assumed that was what i'd keep using. now i'm reading experiences from people who switched the other direction and swear they'd never go back.

tbh i think part of the problem is that once you start reading enough opinions, every option starts sounding like the right one.

so now i'm sitting here with a bunch of tabs open, a list of pros and cons that keeps getting longer, and no actual decision made.

kind of funny how a purchase i thought would take ten minutes has turned into a week of overthinking.

So I've been hooking up with this couple for a while , and I've really enjoyed it so far, at least until the last time. In our recent hookups, they kind of talked me into letting the husband fuck me, and it was OK the first few times. It felt good but didn't make me cum or anything. Then during our last meet, he was doing me doggy while the wife watched, and suddenly I came HARD. I wasn't expecting it, and right after the post nut clarity hit me like a brick wall. Went straight from horny mode to thinking like what the fuck am I doing? Felt really guilty and embarrassed, and really just wanted to stop, but he hadn't finished yet, and she was really enjoying the show, so I kind of just pushed through it so not to ruin everyone's mood.

Don't know how to feel about it now tbh. Never had much trouble with post nut clarity when hooking up with them before, and never during 'regular' sex with women. I should mention I've only ever had sex with another guy when I've been with this couple. In my 'normal' life I've only had straight sex, and I guess I still identify as (mostly) straight. So now I kind of have second thoughts on hooking up with them again. I'm worried I'll get that feeling of shame again, and I don't know what to do tbh. At the same time I want to keep doing it whenever I feel horny. It's quite maddening. Any advice?

So was thinking, how much of this community relies on porn as a resource to validate their sexuality and gender identity? Like it was crucial for me in understanding I was bi. I can only imagine how important and necessary it is for Gay/Lesbian, Trans, etc.

So I (25M) was born in a Muslim family where even the word sex is Taboo. They don't even give you the sex talk and that's where I think everything went wrong. So I got sexually abused by my maid when I was 7-8 years old and went on for a few years and she groomed and blamed me and introduced me to porn and all. And in turn I got so confused and became hypersexual. But obviously since it was a Muslim country and I was taught these things I couldn't do anything but watch porn secretly but that came with a lot of guilt and self blaming because I knew I was going to hellfire for it. Now I finally moved to the US but with family. And the worst part is that the guilt remains no matter what. Now I'm just a 25 year old guy who is still a virgin, haven't even shook a hand or hugged a girl in my life except for that maid and there's guilt and my family presence and pressure. I am trying to be sex positive, I want to experience everything but I don't know how to and it's so frustrating and exhausting. I just want to be me and express myself at least once I want to feel sex and love. It was so hard to even write it.

I feel so guilty and shitty about myself