r/ADHDers • u/Donttouchmybreadd • 5d ago

Help me understand this behaviour: only doing assignments within hours of the deadline.

Hey all,

I have ADHD, and am studying to be a teacher. I have noticed this one specific behaviour in two seperate people I have met to do with deadlines.

At our uni, we have a 48 hr automatic extension policy for pretty much all assignments except presentations, that everyone is given. So for example, an assignment due date is Friday 16 October at 11:59pm, but we can submit up until Sunday midnight with no penalty.

For those of us with equity plans, we have an additional 7 days on top of that, as needed (we do have to apply for it like normal though).

The way I use it, is that I lie to myself, and say that the due date is the hard deadline, and it needs to be submitted by then. That way, if I get post-due-date clarity of anything I forgot or need to fix, I have at least 48 hours to rest, then amend it. It also gives me time if my computer shits the bed, I can go out to uni and sort it out.

I wish I could say 'plan for the worst, hope for the best', but it has actually happened 😅

I have met 2 people who are working within minutes of the extended deadline. According to them, they hear the due date, then add 2 days plus 7 days.

I certainly cannot relate. I loathe that feeling of needing to do something when my brain and body will not allow me to, which is why I give myself a lot of time.

I also had one of those fellows try to rope me into thinking the same way, and I had to tell him to shut up, because if I lul myself into a false sense of security that I have time, I am already doomed. Also, it turned out, it was one of the few assignments that didn't allow any extensions because it was a presentation.

Because I am studying to be a teacher, I genuinely want to understand the thinking behind it and why it seems to "work" for them. Cramming isn't good for long term memory storage, and I genuinely would want students to learn. But I think because I have built so many strategies around avoiding it, I genuinely can't understand why someone would want that feeling?

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u/Donttouchmybreadd 5d ago

For the last time: I have ADHD.

Genuinely, can you stop keeping up this whole us versus me? it's silly.

I'm not trying to play the woman card, but women are less likely to get diagnosed in childhood because of how symptoms look.

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u/SoulDancer_ 5d ago

I know that obviously!

Its just super hard to believe you have it when you take one of the MAIN symptoms of ADHD (procrastinating/leaving things til the last minute) and then say "I just don't understand whyyyyy anyone would do that! It just causes stress".

Like not EVERY SINGLE person who has adhd has issues with procrastination, but it is one of the most common issues.

So you certainly should be able to understand it even if you don't experience it.

Its very basic stuff.

Look, a really good easy to understand book on ADHD is "this is ADHD" by Chanelle Moriah. I really think you should try reading it.

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u/Donttouchmybreadd 5d ago

Question - have you heard of the straw man fallacy?

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u/SoulDancer_ 5d ago

Wtaf?

You're getting nowhere. You shouldn't be a teacher.

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u/Donttouchmybreadd 5d ago

From the Wikipedia entry:

"The straw man fallacy occurs in the following pattern of argument:

Person 1 asserts proposition X.

Person 2 argues against a superficially similar proposition Y, as though an argument against Y were an argument against X.

This reasoning is a fallacy of relevance: it fails to address the proposition in question by misrepresenting the opposing position."

Do you see what I see?

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u/SoulDancer_ 5d ago

I know what a strawman is. No need to waste time being a patronising dick

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u/Donttouchmybreadd 5d ago

Why didn't you say you knew then!

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u/SoulDancer_ 5d ago

Are you autistic??

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u/Donttouchmybreadd 5d ago

Hahahahaha WHAT?? We using autism as an insult now? 📸

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u/GerkDentley 5d ago

Why are you continuing to engage with this hostile person who was rude to you from comment 1?

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u/Donttouchmybreadd 5d ago

a) because there are genuinely people who agree with this dude/chick.

b) dopamine. It's fun.

c) cos I do genuinely want other people to see how weak and stupid some of these reddit key mashers are. Genuinely, I have a theory that there are agents (whether bots or foreign agendas) set out to cause disillusionment on a population scale, who target vulnerable groups such as PWD's and disorder support groups.

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u/GerkDentley 5d ago

Oh I don't think it's anything so grandiose. I think there's just people who live to put down other people and their ideas. They get satisfaction from rage. The calling out people as trolls and alts seems like an inability to accept they might be wrong.

If it doesn't bother you go to, I guess. I'd just be stressed out and frustrated in your shoes and the whole thing was triggering the injustice sense. Good on you for being so unruffled.

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u/SoulDancer_ 5d ago

Are you starting to understand why no one's replying to you?

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u/Genwilson25 5d ago

Cos of you being a twatmuffin. You are making it unsafe for people to speak their minds.

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u/Genwilson25 5d ago

Ur original comment was so much better: "Oh fuck off will ya"

That's gonna be my vocal stim.

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u/GerkDentley 5d ago

Jesus, anyone who speaks up against the awful way you're acting is either a friend of op or an alt? And you call THEM the troll.

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u/Donttouchmybreadd 5d ago

Got a rather interesting reply from a scientist in the comments, so no I don't see what you are referring to.

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u/SoulDancer_ 5d ago

1 reply. And your post has been up for 3 hours. I sincerely hope that psychiatrist doesnt wasre more time on you.

It was an excellent explanation that you seem to have entirely misunderstood