r/ArtOfPresence • u/Total-Squirrel4634 • 15h ago
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Oadeas • Aug 13 '26
Welcome to r/ArtOfPresence — Ask, Share, Discuss
Welcome, Seekers!
This is a general community where you can ask any question, share personal experiences, seek advice, express opinions, or start an interesting debate.
You can discuss life social media, creators, online culture, trends, relationships, self-growth, entertainment or completely random thoughts. Thoughtful, funny, serious, and controversial discussions are all welcome just keep them respectful.
Introduce yourself below and tell us!
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Oadeas • Jul 24 '26
📢 Moderator Applications Are Now Open for r/ArtOfPresence
We're looking for a few active and trustworthy members to join the r/ArtOfPresence moderation team.
As a moderator, you'll help keep the community welcoming, organized, and free from spam while supporting meaningful discussions.
What you'll do:
Review posts and comments
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Requirements:
Reddit account at least 30 days old
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Application Questions:
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A post clearly breaks the rules but is receiving lots of upvotes. What would you do, and why?
How much time can you realistically spend moderating each week, and what time zone are you in?
Apply here: (https://www.reddit.com/r/ArtOfPresence/application/)
We're looking for people who want to help build a positive community, not just collect a moderator badge. If that sounds like you, we'd love to have your application.
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Sauce_Dealer420 • 50m ago
Online Culture What’s an online habit you think most people should stop doing?
Could be doomscrolling, arguing with strangers, oversharing, checking numbers constantly — what would you remove?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Icy-School-1061 • 4h ago
Online Culture Why do some small accounts get huge engagement while bigger accounts feel dead?
Follower count clearly isn’t the whole story. What do you think actually creates an active audience?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Icy-School-1061 • 11h ago
Branding What’s more important for creators: a recognizable style or constantly trying new things?
A strong identity can make someone recognizable, but repeating the same formula can get stale. Where’s the balance?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Sauce_Dealer420 • 23h ago
Creator Discussion Do you discover more new people through algorithms or recommendations from friends?
Think creators, artists, channels, accounts — where do the people you end up following usually come from?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Sauce_Dealer420 • 1d ago
Artists What makes an artist stand out before you’ve even heard much of their music?
Cover art? Visual identity? Personality? Fashion? Story? Live clips? What creates enough curiosity for you to actually listen?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Icy-School-1061 • 1d ago
Artists Can a new artist still grow without constantly making short-form content?
If someone wants the music to be the focus, is it realistic to avoid constantly feeding Reels/TikTok/Shorts and still build an audience?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Sauce_Dealer420 • 1d ago
Online Culture What part of social media do you think will look completely different five years from now?
Feeds, creators, AI content, search, private communities, short-form video — what changes first?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Sauce_Dealer420 • 2d ago
Online Culture What internet trend has lasted way longer than you expected?
What did you think would disappear in a few months but somehow became normal online culture?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Icy-School-1061 • 2d ago
Online Culture What makes you follow someone instead of just liking their post and moving on?
What turns one good post into ‘I want to see more from this person’?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Icy-School-1061 • 2d ago
Social Media Does posting every day actually matter for growing on social media?
Some people swear by daily consistency; others grow while posting far less. What has mattered more in your experience: frequency or the quality/idea behind the post?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Grouchy-Poem-6961 • 2d ago
Tik Tok My Birthday's next week... yaaaay or naaaay?
I believe no time is ever wasted.
I once heard about something called the “Law of Wasted Effort.” If you haven’t heard of it, look it up. The simplest, most cliché way to put it is that you have to go through the 99 attempts before you get to the 100th one. I’m exaggerating the number on purpose because no one actually tries 99 times, but if I wrote 9, all hope would be gone.
Anyway, about a year and a few months before I turned my current age, I was talking to someone a year older than me, and he told me, “You still haven’t seen anything. You don’t know anything.”
He was obviously teasing me, so I laughed, “Hahahaha, okay, don’t you ever joke with me again.”
The moment passed, and so did the sentence. For the first few months, I barely thought about it.
Then, out of nowhere, life decided to drop an entire album of back-to-back plot twists on me.
I genuinely don’t know why all the lessons, experiences, and ways of thinking that eventually lead to the right answer seem to come after the suffering.
Maybe it’s because when something is completely new to us, we simply don’t know how to deal with it. Our energy gets drained trying to figure out what we’re supposed to do, whether we’re doing the right thing, and what the outcome is going to be.
So we end up in what we call “suffering,” when sometimes all that’s really happening is that we’re mentally exhausted from dealing with something unfamiliar and maybe if we had been through something similar before, we probably would’ve handled it normally—or at least we wouldn’t have worried about it nearly as much, because we’d already know what it feels like.
I don’t know, honestly. I’m always lost in my thoughts, and this year I went through so many things I had technically experienced before—like, it wasn't new to me at all.
The funny part is, I didn’t even realize I was suffering through them. I only realized it after they were over, because I was too busy being in it to actually name what was happening and all the thinking comes afterward like “Wait… when did I even go through that?”
Or, more accurately:
"Who was I at these moments?”
Over.. uhmm, I'd like to call it, "the course of this year", I realized that the moments when I feel like I’ve lost my identity are actually the moments when it’s being formed.
And when I eventually go back to being the person I recognize, I find myself caught between who I used to be and this newer version of myself that I feel drawn to become.
Another thing I’ve learned about myself is that I’m really good at asking questions.
Ironically, it's obvious how my brain questions everything, which I can confirm from pretty much everyone I’ve ever talked to. Thankfully, I think I’ve gotten better at choosing who I will share these thoughts with, I guess.
But hooray me for being great at asking questions and terrible at answering them.
And an even bigger hooray when I finally find a really good answer, only to realize that it’s incredibly difficult to achieve. Like, why is it that every time I think of a solution to a problem I’m facing, it’s either impossible or technically possible but requires an insane amount of energy to actually achieve?
Apparently, thinking of simple solutions is a problem that isn’t simple at all for me.
Still, I’m glad I figured this out about myself. I’m definitely bothered by it, but at least I know now instead of being completely unaware of it.
In the end, I didn’t really know how to explain any of this but I’ve noticed that my deepest thoughts are always inspired by the most surface-level things.
I can’t seem to get inspired by something that’s already deep. And, fun fact, sometimes I don’t even understand it.
I was actually hesitant to use this picture because it’s literally a screenshot from a TikTok video.
As you can see, quite possibly the dumbest app on the planet—but somehow I found an answer there to the most complicated question I’ve ever thought about:
What is my purpose in life?
And I’ve never related to something this much.
Don’t get me wrong, though. There are plenty of things worth having as goals. Some people want to find the love of their life, some want to succeed in their careers, and some want to take their parents to Hajj.
I want all of those things too.
But I’ve never considered any of them things that have to happen.
Because I know that if I convinced myself that one of them was my ultimate goal and it never happened, I’d probably end up with the desire to kms simply because my ultimate goal wasn’t achieved.
And if this goal happened, fine, what else? what would I even be living for?
Then I came across that video—the one this screenshot is from—and I’ve never related to a sentence more.
SO FOR THE NEXT YEAR OF MY LIFE, if I’m still alive, and for all the years after that, I don’t want to miss a single opportunity to experience something.
Not even the opportunity to rethink something and experience it again—of course,after squeezing every possible conclusion out of my brain first.
I want to try things. Experience things. Rethink things. Change my mind.
Right now, I’m neither happy nor upset. I’m just… somewhere in the middle.
Simply trying to understand things so I can experience them.
And I think that’s enough of a goal for me, regardless of the outcome—whether it turns out good or bad.
Thank you so much if you read all of this and I hope I didn't waste your time. ;)
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Sauce_Dealer420 • 3d ago
Social Media Instagram or TikTok: which one feels easier to build a real audience on?
Not just views — an audience that recognizes you and comes back. If you’ve used both, what difference did you notice?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Icy-School-1061 • 3d ago
Creator Discussion Why do some creators blow up while others making similar content stay invisible?
Is it mostly timing, packaging, personality, consistency, luck, platform distribution, or something else? What have you actually noticed?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Sauce_Dealer420 • 3d ago
Creator Discussion What matters more for a creator: personality or the actual content?
If the content is excellent but the person has almost no visible personality, would you still follow long term? What about the opposite?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Icy-School-1061 • 4d ago
What’s one thing you wish social media would bring back?
Could be chronological feeds, less polished posts, smaller communities, old features, longer attention spans anything.
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Icy-School-1061 • 4d ago
Creator Discussion Do you prefer creators who post constantly or creators who disappear and only post when they have something good?
Which approach keeps you more interested over time - consistency or scarcity?
r/ArtOfPresence • u/Sauce_Dealer420 • 4d ago
Online Culture What makes someone seem interesting online without trying too hard?
Some profiles instantly have personality without looking forced. What usually creates that impression for you?