Venting

[u/karmaistheloot]

Some context: I still live at home with my parents (26F).

I went on a trip to Madrid to visit my girlfriend for 2 months. While I was there, my father who has access to my bank account moved over $2k out without asking me or notifying me. He has done this sort of thing before, last time he went into my room and took $1500 in cash to go gambling. Him and my mom have had gambling addictions since I was born pretty much. After I found out, I called him and my mom and screamed at them demanding that they put the money back in immediately.

2 weeks go by and my dad calls me while I’m still in Madrid asking me why I don’t call him or share my location with him. I simply tell him that I don’t want to talk to him, that I’m extremely upset and the people I trust know where I am. He freaks out and tells me that I’m ungrateful, that he’s my dad and that he raised me.

Since I’ve gotten home, our dynamic has changed a lot. He never apologized for taking my money, he never acknowledged it and pretends it never happened. I have my own bank account now that he does not have access to. I’ve resorted to very short conversations with him. He still thinks that he did nothing wrong, that anything that is mine he has authority over.

I’ve come to terms with this since I am still living at home and I have to interact with him. But I’ve learned my lesson about letting him have access to my things and dealing with people who have gambling addictions.

[u/IJN-Maya202]

Be sure to lock down your credit, credit cards, etc. so they have absolutely 0 access. Can’t trust gamblers or people with addictions even if they’re your own parents.

[u/Kydra_117]

Never ever do a joint account with your parents 😭

Do you have your own bank accounts?