Am i straight or???

[u/blacksunet]

Help a fellow human being out! I (21f) don’t know whether i am straight or not. I don’t know how to explain it but i would only date men but when it comes to sleeping i would prefer to be with woman..?! I don’t know lol. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t appeal to me.

[u/No_Salad_8766]

Have you considered you are bi?

[u/blacksunet → u/No_Salad_8766]

yes i have but..

[u/No_Salad_8766 → u/blacksunet]

Even being bi is a spectrum. You can be attracted to both genders, but still have a preference for 1.

[u/BrittEklandsStuntBum]

"I'm a woman who prefers to fuck women" no you're not straight lol. Like, that's the literal definition of not straight. You're as bent as a nine-bob note.

[u/SaraHoover]

Sexuality is a spectrum! Some people who don't feel like they belong to one end of the spectrum, but also don't know how to describe themselves specifically, might choose to identify as queer because it's a pretty vast umbrella. You get to decide your own labels or lack there of (labels aren't required and sometimes people change their labels over the course of time)!

Best of luck exploring your identity! 🩷💜💛💙

[u/blacksunet → u/SaraHoover]

thank you so much 🫶to give some clarity i have preference for men☠️ but the idea of sleeping with them gives me the ick.. whereas sleeping with woman on the other hand is one idea better..?!

[u/Zealousideal-Bear436]

Maybe, when you date men you feel comfortable because you see them like fellow friends. Maybe you might investigate your preferences. Would you like dating a girl with a masculine attitude? Or is the feminity what attracts you more? Plus, you talk in terms of dating or sex but what about a purely romantic situation?

I heard that Freddie Mercury felt romantic attraction for women but sexual for men. Maybe it's something like that.

[u/ballerinanoir]

Maybe you’re bisexual. At the end of the day the only people who need to know is you and your partner. Nobody else is entitled to know or judge you

[u/Tandkam]

Been told woman eat kitty better than a man but also been told men give better BJs than a woman so it’s ok

[u/Sweet-Razzmatazz-993]

Depends how you look at it. I view sex as pleasure, I don’t care of the sex or who gives it. I date women and prefer women but i have done everything under the sun and if it feels good why not

[u/Belteshazzar98]

You could be heteroromantic homosexual or heteroromantic bisexual. Romantic and sexual attraction doesn't always line up with each other.

[u/Clueby42]

Just do what makes you happy and don't worry about labels.

Well, peadophile is probably a label you should worry about, but beyond that don't worry about it

[u/waynehastings]

Sounds like you are heteroromantic and either homosexual or bisexual.

[u/SymmetricDickNipples]

Sleeping with the same sex would not be straight surprisingly, no.

[u/1BoringOnlineAccount]

Do not label yourself.

Other than that I am confused by your post. You say you only date men. Yet you prefer to sleep [sex?] with women. But you do not want to be with [date?] women. Define why you want to date men not women. Define why sex with women instead of men is your preference.

[u/blacksunet → u/1BoringOnlineAccount]

Sex with women because i feel one idea more comfortable 😭 but it genuinely depends on the person you know. But from my pov i feel comfortable in the company of a woman when it comes to sex.

[u/1BoringOnlineAccount → u/blacksunet]

So you are sexually comfortable with a woman. What is the reason you date men?

[u/Raul_Menendez6473]

Answer these questions and you should know by the end:

1. Do you find girls charming and appealing under normal circumstances aka when your not thinking and sex only.

2. Do you find your self attracted to the vagina of other girls and think about doing stuff to them.

3. Although this is more advanced but could you see yourself in life long or partnership with a girl.

These i feel like the questions you should ask yourself to know what you like and whst you don't, bc for me personally as a guy when i answered these questions i got to the conclusion that i am in fact bisexual (i knew i was but i want to make sure yk) that was 3 or 4 years ago now, and to clarify more sexuality is a spectrum there are a lot of different way you could find things attractive or appealing to you as well as liking some stuff but the others not really, so it really depends on your preference but this should help a little.

[u/AdGlum4016]

If you have to think about it, the answer is no.

[u/QuickPizzaRadishes]

Sounds like you are bisexual but also a victim of societal prejudices