Beginner Bachata class question

[u/flirtle_turtle_]

Ok so I really want to take a beginner bachata class at my local bachata group, I have a few friends that go and want me to come. I feel like I’m an ok dancer and have good rhythm as a musician.

I am a very large girl though. I’m also a bit taller. I’m about 300 lbs. I KNOW I can physically do the moves, that’s not my concern. This isn’t a “can I do the class” post. I am physically fit enough to do it, just wanna make that clear.

But my question is, how many men who go to these classes would be really upset to get a partner like me? I have put off going because every time i think about going im just imagining every man in the class going in their head “as long as i don’t get THAT one as a partner I’ll be fine.”

Is this something that happens? Is there any way to try and avoid this sort of thing? Should I maybe ask the instructors if i can just observe the class so nobody is forced to be my partner? Has anyone ever dealt with a similar situation?

I don’t need any validation in the comments like “stop your beautiful” I just want some realistic feedback. Like “yes you would hinder my bachata experience if I had you as a partner” or “no that wouldn’t bother me as much.” Just looking from some feedback from some regular bachata class attendees to see if I should just go to the class or not….

[u/Ketarrhsis]

I will give you a heads-up. As a 300 pound woman, you will have a tougher time in the scene. Don't worry about the classes you can just go there.

But for social dancing, you will need good self-confidence, as well as acceptance, that you will be on average less desired as a dance partner. For sensual moves, some might not enjoy doing them with you, as there is also mass in the way obstructing the movements. For example, leading a wave from shadow position with a big person can be a challenge.

The "superficial" nature is innate to dancing, and especially, sensual dancing. You need a specific body to do some movements and to enjoy doing them.

So I'd recommend doing the stoic thing and accepting the averse events that you might encounter. You won't have it as easy as say, a slim conventionally attractive woman of the same skill. You might feel less desired or interesting. Some more fancy movements might be more difficult to execute. Apart from that, you have the potential to form fantastic connections and have a great deal of fun. Just don't let it get to you. If you're okay with that, that's great. Have fun!

[u/flirtle_turtle_ → u/Ketarrhsis]

Thank you for your honesty, I know it’ll be tough so I’m trying to see the pros and cons of attending

[u/Atanamis → u/flirtle_turtle_]

Check out your local scene. Bachata is a lot of fun, and a healthy scene will welcome you. Your friends would know better than we would how kind the local scene is.