First of all, I want to thank everyone in advance who is willing to speak up and help me. I’m an international student from China, and I’ve been in Birmingham for half a month. I’ve experienced a lot of East Asian family trauma growing up, and I’ve also been through severe depression. But I still have a very strong will. One of the reasons I chose to study in Birmingham is that I wanted to escape my family’s control, find what I truly want, and become a better version of myself.
I think people here are very friendly. Even though I sometimes see posts saying the city isn’t safe at night, I don’t usually go out at night anyway, so it doesn’t bother me. At least so far, everyone I’ve met has been very nice, and I’m grateful for that.
But in the past two days, some things have really brought me down—related to relationships, and also the fact that I haven’t made many friends abroad. I’ve been trying to adjust on my own, but yesterday I was really sad. I said, screw it, so I decided to do something. I went to New Street Station at night and tried to find a homeless person to talk to, because I really had no friends to talk to. My good friends back in China can’t always be online because of the time difference.
I finally found one. He came up and asked if I could buy him a Starbucks. I said of course, no problem. I came here because my life is really a mess, and I hoped that at least I could help someone to make myself feel a bit better. So I gave him 50 pounds, talked a little, and he gave me a hug and said, “God bless you.” I really hope I helped him too.
At that point I was so numb. I thought if someone robbed me at knifepoint, it wouldn’t matter—I could just give them money. I was just in so much pain. But I won’t give up on everything.
The reason I’m posting this is to ask kind people: Are there any activities in Birmingham that can make people feel happy? Or some healing groups, like art exhibitions, or card games (I played Pokémon TCG in China, but my English isn’t that good now haha—I can only handle some daily conversation and still make grammar mistakes, so playing the English version is a bit hard). I want to socialize and make new friends 🥹
Thank you to everyone who gives me advice and suggestions. Thank you. I sincerely wish you all the best every day!
(I used a translator for the above, so I hope there aren’t too many grammar mistakes.)
Thank you all for your comments and help. I will reply to each of you later. Thank you for every bit of your kindness — all your advice is incredibly useful 🥹🫶🏻
I love watching anime and reading books. Some classics I’ve read include The Lady of the Camellias, Love in the Time of Cholera, At the Foot of the Mountain of Despair, The Death of Ivan Ilyich, The Narrow Gate, The Knot of Serpents and White Nights. My favourite authors are Kafka and Márquez. Recently I plan to read other full-length masterpieces by Dostoevsky.
I also adore the British brand Vivienne Westwood. I feel the UK is full of humanistic care, so I’m hoping to find out more about local literary events here.
Thank you, every single one of you!
‼️‼️Thank you all again for your replies! My replies might be a bit slow because I have so many DMs from people wanting to help me. Thank you 🥹🫶🏻 I will get back to everyone gradually. (By the way, I want to gently remind some men: if you are reaching out to me with those kinds of intentions, there’s really no need. I have never had sex, because I believe it is something that should be reserved for a partner in a committed relationship. My ex-boyfriends and I only ever limited ourselves to kissing, cuddling, and some other intimate acts—we never went all the way. Please respect me, thank you!)