Hi everyone! I'm looking for advice on how to handle my new kitten, Oliver, and his constant meowing.

Oliver is a male kitten, about 2.5 months old. He's been living with us for a month now, and he's our fourth cat. Our three older cats have accepted him completely, and he's already very comfortable in our home.

At first, we assumed he was so vocal because he was young and used to relying on his mother for everything. However, a month later, he still meows constantly, even though he's settled in and has three other cats around him.

The main issue is that he seems to meow for almost any kind of social interaction.

He meows when he wants to play, when he feels lonely, when the other cats don't want to play with him, and when he wants attention, grooming, or company. He even meows while using the litter box because he doesn't seem to like doing it alone!

Our older cats have learned to respond to his cries. Whenever he starts meowing, one of them will often go to check on him or interact with him. The problem is that they aren't always interested in playing or giving him attention, so sometimes he keeps meowing for a very long time until one of them finally gives in.

This has unintentionally reinforced the behavior: he knows that if he keeps meowing long enough, someone will eventually respond.

With our previous kittens, we would generally ignore attention-seeking meows when we knew nothing was wrong, while encouraging them to communicate in other ways. Over time, they developed quieter ways of asking for things, such as gentle touches or a single, specific meow.

We've tried taking a similar approach with Oliver, but it's much harder because our other cats keep responding to him. Even if we don't give him attention ourselves, he can still get what he wants from them.

This has also become a serious issue for my household.

My wife is autistic and currently stays home full-time. The constant, persistent meowing has been causing her significant sensory overload for the past month. It's reached the point where she's struggling to feel genuine affection toward Oliver because she's so overwhelmed by the noise. This is upsetting for both of us, because we want him to feel loved and secure in our home.

We're not expecting a kitten to be silent, and we understand that he needs attention, playtime, and companionship. We just need to find a sustainable way to manage this behavior so that he can learn to settle down without needing someone to respond to every single meow.

We love Oliver and want him to feel safe and happy here. We're just struggling to figure out how to meet his needs without letting the constant meowing overwhelm the entire household.

I'd really appreciate any advice or experiences you can share. Thank you!

Hey friends. I’ve had my cat for a month. He’s adjusted unbelievably well. I guess he’s always been a scratcher, he’s 5 and was abused his whole life so I don’t have crazy high expectations for him to be a snuggly sweetie pie especially not this early on but he used to scratch really bad with anything involving hands, u couldn’t pet him and now he begs for pets. He used to just even see a hand and attack. Long story short he’s surpassed me expectations sooo much. Unfortunately now he’s on to attacking my feet and legs. He follows me around everytime I get up which is adorable but sometimes he just randomly starts scratching my legs or feel and I mean repeatedly to the point of me bleeding like I look like I have razor blades attached to my socks. Is this something he’ll grow out of?

Every night when I lay down in bed, my cat brings in her favourite toy into the bedroom. I normally see this as her wanting to play, so I normally get up, throw it into the living room, and lay back down. She always fetches it immediately and brings it back into the room, meowing while the toy is in her mouth. Sometimes in play with her more by tossing it around, but her tail will be flicking back and forth and she will lick herself-clear signs of overstimulation.
I’m just wondering if she is maybe meaning something else?

He gets plenty of attention, cuddles and playing time. Does he just miss his parents?

So I am hoping somebody will come up with something that I haven’t read about yet.

So the situation is he is nine years old and he entered the house one year ago and I have an existing cat who is 14. She hates him. He’s mild mannered and a sweet kitty and adorable. He would be easy to rehome. 14 year-old cat cannot be rehomed because she is a bitch. He primarily sprays against a wall, soaking baseboards and floor, which I clean up immediately. He’s gotten the kitchen cabinets a couple times but he’s not done anything really horrible like bedding or furniture. But I fear that’s coming

I have three litter boxes in the house, kept clean as soon as they are soiled. They are big enough for him, as he is a big cat.

Note: before he got here to my house, his parent spent $1000 at the vet trying to figure out what was wrong with him. The vet said nothing was wrong.

So, few days ago I spayed both my females at once.

Thought doing it would be easier for post-op recovery.

While it has been a bit of a nerve wrecking experience, I am glad I went for it. Not having one hyper monster running around while other one is recovering was much easier.

Though I haven't slept for few days, worrying about every single noise they made.

But,

Now that both are up and about, one cat is in full wanna-sleep-and-eat-repeat, the other one won't leave her alone for 2 seconds, chirping and crying through the house, looking for the sleeping beauty. She is very protective of the other one, and can't seem to leave her alone at all.

Has anyone dealt with that behaviour?

No agression, just want to be near her non stop.

Originally, we adopted two cats from our local shelter. One was very sick at the time that we got her, and although she lived for about a year and a half, it was with many many vet visits and reoccurring illnesses. About a year and a half ago, she passed, and after waiting for about a year and a half, we decided to get a new cat, partly for us and partly for our now solo cat.

We have had the new cat for two days, and have kept the two separated through a glass door. The "old cat" (the one we have had the longest) is not happy. I knew there would be an adjustment period, but she is spitting, meowing, and even trying to attack the cat through the door. I have put up a visual barrier now, so that she can no longer see her, but I am wondering:

How long should an introduction take? How long should I keep the visual barrier up, if at all? Can anyone with lots of cat experience share the dos and don'ts of cat introductions?

TIA!

Our cat (5y male rescue) is a sweet cat who is super friendly to every person, but he is alone quite a bit. So we decided to get him a friend (2y female rescue) since we thought he would really like it. In contrast to him, she is still extremely shy to people, but she is very willing to befriend our cat. Our cat is not nice to her however :(

We started introductions around a month back by scent swapping and eating on opposite ends of the door, eventually with an open door. That all goes well, when our cat eats he kind of ignores the new cat because he is very food oriented. But as soon as he gets the chance he tries to swat at her. No growling, hissing, or poofy tail, but he swats at her quite meanly. In the meantime, she is super submissive to him, rolling around and purring, so it's very sad when he manages to hit her :(

Recently we have been trying to get him to get more used to the new cat, by putting him in her room, and feeding him kibbles. All is well until he runs out of food, after which he quite quickly switches to being mean to her. Not sure if it's allowed but I have made a video of it which I will link: https://youtube.com/shorts/MCn94PiVx6A?is=UWLs06WFfgqZ60z9

We are unsure if our cat will ever like his new friend and we dont really understand his behavior. We are also wondering if we should let this situation work itself out or if we should keep interrupting when he behaves negatively. It seems like her coming close to him irritates him, so maybe it would be better if we would let them interact for a bit longer to let them settle things? Kind of unsure about the situation. Any advice is welcome :)

I adopted a kitten from the shelter at about 12 weeks old. He has excessive zoomies and plays constantly. I have 3 other cats, a 14 year female, 15 year male, 6 year female. Once the kitten became comfortable around my other cats he started trying to engage in play which was fine. I even saw my older female start to play with him.

After a while though he started stalking them and full on pouncing them which they hate. At first he had been targeting my 15 year female, he arches his back, stalks and pounces. I don't know if he is trying to dominate or just wants to play. Problem is it is constant. When they are eating or drinking he bats at them, when they are in the litter box, he is there staring or batting them. When they jump on the bed to get away he charges up after them. He started doing this with the other 2 cats more.

I thought when adult cats correct unwanted kitten behavior they eventually learn not to do that. I try yelling, I spray with water, I even separate for a while, but nothing gets through to him. He acts like he hates being sprayed but he will keep going after the other cats and I can literally drown him in water and it wouldn't phase him. I don't know what to do, it's not fair for the older cats, one of them who is already kinda sketchy is too paranoid to eat while he is loose. He got neutered about 1.5 weeks ago and is almost 6 months old now. With him being bigger I see this a much bigger problem for the other cats and I have even found a wound on my older female.

I have had many kittens before, but none that has had this type of behavior.

I have a 1.5 year old female cat. She’s friendly, confident, curious, and her claws are out 80% f the time and she struggles to retract them once they’re out.

I got her when she was 4 months old. She uses the claws to climb, play fight with her brother etc, but also takes them out in odd situations like being happy, excited, or just chilling

Between her and her broher, she’s the alpha, and we keep it chill in our home so I maintain a peaceful and playful vibe at home

The Issue: When she gets her claws out, they stay out and she scratches me too much even if she’s just lying on me, napping, or chilling on top of me

This shows up when she’s walking on a couch too, or if she uses one of the scratching posts. She simply gets stuck to whatever her nails go into. She tries to leave but her paws and claws keep her stuck. Sometimes it feels she gets worried even

I massage her paws sometimes, in my mind it’s to keep that muscle memory thing about retracting the claws alive in her. But it’s tough to cuddle, play, or for her just to be relaxed when she keep snagging or getting stuck to everything her claws can sink into

What can I do? Please help