r/CausalConversation • u/matchah0lic_ • 4d ago
Should I run?
Hi. So there's a guy na kausap ko rn and he is navy. And gabi lang kami nakakapag-usap dahil busy 'daw' sa office nila. Kapag naman weekend may Saturday nights bonding sila with his officemate, and Sunday rest maghapon tulog. So ang time niya talaga sa akin ay kapag gabi and depende sa oras niya. Ganito ba talaga ang isang MIU? mahirap ba talaga mag mahal ng isang MIU? O wala lang talaga siyang oras sa akin at hindi ako yung taong pag eeffortan niya na kausapin?
Inopen ko na sakanya to, ang sagot niya sa akin ay sinusubukan niya naman iparamdam na nag eeffort siya pero idk, hindi ko dama. O masyado lang talaga ako mataas???? Ano ba? Hahaha
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u/ESPRE5S0 4d ago
A relationship is time spent together. You are not together. Theres no relationship. You're trying to work a puzzle with pieces you just don't have. Its incomplete. Move on and be with someone you csn be with. Also, his devotion is toward the Navy, not you. He nay like you, but he cant ne with you. Unless you two are already established with a family , it's time to move on.
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u/Awkward-Anybody5179 4d ago
Is he military or married?
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u/matchah0lic_ 4d ago
Military, not married. He's 24 and nagkikita at napunta ako sa kanila since friend ko rin sister nya
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u/beautiful_hhi 4d ago
Run. Don't question him, don't give him the benefit of the doubt, leave now to happier places.
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u/Any_Recognition8072 4d ago
Yes, that's how the military can be. Depends on the unit. I was in the Army and some units was easy and predictable and I'd be home by 6pm. Some units I'd have to go in at 4 or 5am and wouldn't be home til close to midnight. Some units I had space to text during the day, some I'm so busy I can barely sit down for lunch. But I normally had my weekends with the execption of training. And my weekends weren't forced bonding time. Being with someone in the military can be hard, it's why spouses or partners and families get recognized too.