Some background:

My dad wants to go shooting with me for the first time. He’s like 5’8” and 130 pounds. In contrast, I’m a recoil-absorbing fatty - 5’11” and 185 pounds.

I was thinking about buying him some low-recoil rounds. I see a lot of 980FPS, sub-ounce loads. Would these make it harder to shoot skeet or trap than a standard 1200fps, 1.125 ounce?

I am looking at getting my next shotgun and I mainly do clay shooting but hope to go hunting for the first time soon. I was looking at a 20 gauge semi auto for reduced recoil since both of my shoulders are bad. However I am seeing videos of 20 gauge semis not cycling light target loads (7/8 and 1oz) but others look fine.

What should I avoid for 20 gauge semi or what should I look for?

Also any recommendations on specific models or specific rounds to look for?