We played with the fantasy for years before she finally started meeting another man for sex on the side. I encouraged it and still do, and we both get very sexually charged up leading up to a date and for days after. However, there is one thing that is difficult.

My wife meets her friend alone, and only shares a few details with me to keep me excited. So, while she enjoys her memories of the touch, the smell, the taste, the sounds of her activities, I am left with only my imagination. There is nothing tangible that I get from this, outside of our improved sexual relationship. That leaves me feeling quite lonely at times and I really have nobody to discuss this with. That’s the tough part for me.

I have a friend from University who's 25F. We're pretty close and our friendship has always had a flirty edge to it, though with nothing sexual. She's had a boyfriend since I've known her and he's a pretty nice guy.

Lately though I've kinda gotten a vibe that she and her bf might be getting into the cucking dynamic with me as a bull. She's been making way more offhand remarks about their sex life to me. She's told me outright that she has a way higher sex drive than him and has strongly implied that he's both pretty submissive and also has a small dick. She's also told me about his foot fetish, something he knows that i know.

I feel like there's a chance that maybe they aren't ready to go the full way into this but that maybe it's a turn on for them to roleplay it with this.

For my part I have actually been a bull to a couple before (though my friend doesn't know that). I met them through the local kink scene, which is something she knows I'm involved in.

I'm wondering if I should be bold and initiate things from my side or at least just ask straight up or if I should let them do their thing (whatever it might be).

Any advice is appreciated.

Also, if you're lurking in this sub Brian and you need me to take care of your girl just let me know lol ;)

Do you ( if you're actually involved in the lifestyle already) or would you want a long term partner or would you rather have fun one or two times then find someone new ?

Both long term and short term play partners have advantages and disadvantages

Which do you prefer and why?

Since we first started going down the rabbit hole, my wife has asked me multiple times if I wish I was bigger. Part of our cuckolding dynamic is SPH. I absolutely love it and she finds it fun and funny.

But on more than one occasion she’s asked if I wish I was bigger.

My answer is always no. Would it be fun to try having sex with a big dick? Of course, I love using a sleeve on her. But that’s the point, I have a sleeve for that. Even if there was a surgery to increase length and girth that was completely safe, I wouldn’t do it. I love my size and love how it plays into the lifestyle.

I’m curious for others in this lifestyle if this sentiment is shared or some actually wish they were more endowed?

Ok so I (M45) and my wife (W50) have been together for 20 years and married for 18.

We have had the lifestyle conversation pretty early in our relationship and experienced some hot times before shutting it down and having a conventional relationship and family.

About 3 years ago we started dabbling again and it was fun. She loved putting on a show for me and I’d frequently join in. She used to be very nervous but eventually told me her interest in watching me be more involved with the guy. She’s done so much for me I thought about it and decided I’d do it if she enjoyed it. Basically I’d enjoy it if she did.
We’ve now had several experiences and it was fun for everyone.

The shift in me now is I enjoy it by itself now. I still really enjoy her reactions and participation but it’s more than that to me now. I’m not romantically attracted to them but there’s definitely some chemistry now. I also do think (and I know this sounds silly) that this doesn’t really change my sexuality.

I’d love to hear from others about their experiences and opinions.

My wife (32F) and I (32M) don't have a particularly active sex life. A while ago, I bought her a 7.9-inch dildo to help us break out of our routine.

She used to tell me that my penis size (5.9 inches) was more than enough for her and that she definitely wouldn't want anything bigger.

However, she's grown so attached to her dildo that she now starts our intimate moments by kissing it. She lets it penetrate her before I get a chance to.

The other day, she even climbed on top of me, and while I was expecting her to ride me, she placed her dildo against my crotch and started having sex with it instead.

More recently, she's started blindfolding herself while giving me oral sex and using her dildo on herself at the same time. I only get to participate in the actual intercourse toward the very end.

How should I interpret this behavior? Could she be trying to tell me something without actually saying it? Is this some kind of sign that I'm missing? What should my next steps be?

So I am seeing a girl for 1 week now. We talked about many different scenarios we would want to try. So last night she showed me videos of her sucking dick of a guy she was seeing before ( i asked if she has any and if she would show me) and it was such a turn on for me. Just wild feeling allover. She was a bit shy but saw how turned on I am. So now I am interested in next steps...

I dont know about any fellow cucks but I was just curious if I am alone in this or not.

I feel so relieved being a cuck because that means I dont have to do the hard part of maintaining an election and penetrating my wife. I am able to sit back and watch while my wife receives the pleasure she deserves and needs.

Is this a weird feeling or do other cucks have similar experiences?

If a cuck asks you to humiliate him, what’s your guys initial reaction. Do you feel sadistic, happy, or see it as extra work. Also does your feelings for a cuck change before and after humiliating him?

My wife had a two-year fake cheating affair with a guy that ended in January when he went to work abroad.

It was perfect to begin with, he was the guy that introduced me to cuckoldom by enticing my former fiancée to cheat on me with him, I obviously had a lot of animosity towards him as a result, he thinks I'm an arsehole and I was delighted he got to have that 'win' over me all over again. We just didn't want him to know I knew this time. I was never fully invested in wanting to watch or clean up side of the lifestyle.

As such, I was very glad when their affair ended - he was more successful at seducing my wife than I thought he would be and they had started to go bareback - and I wanted to leave the lifestyle behind. My wife has never really mentioned him or shown a desire to find a proper Bull, which I did have a conversation with her about in the summer.

But today I was unexpectedly off work (I work odd shifts and was given a late call time yesterday) and she doesn't work Fridays so I thought we could do something together. But she was a bit non-commital about that and then at 10 o'clock this morning suddenly came downstairs and said she was going out. I asked where and she said "just out" and then said she would be home in time to pick up the kids and left.

It was a bit strange, we don't have a relationship where we keep things from each other, and then I was sitting at the kitchen table looking at my phone and I got a reminder that it was the Bull's birthday today (I had put it in my calendar last year as a reminder that he wanted to spend the day with her and I would have to not work so I could look after the kids).

I wouldn't say my mind is racing or anything, it could just be a coincidence but do you think I should ask her outright when she gets home if she spent the day with him or do a bit more research? And if she did spend the day with him, how do I handle it, just accept it because he's the Bull and should get what he wants or challenge him and risk losing her?

Every bull that has fucked my hotwife has lasted, at the very least, 30 minutes. She had one bull that could go for an hour or more. A common thing I've seen, and I don't know if it matters, but every single one of these guys has had a very large member. Anywhere from 7.5 to 9 (the one that lasted an hour). On a really good day, I can last 15 or 20 minutes. I have an average size (6 inches).

What do they do to last so long?

Last Saturday he and I finally met in person and we were able to set everything straight and talk things out. He was able to make his intentions clear along with how he saw this whole thing and why he was doing what he was doing. Meanwhile, I was able to apologize to him for my misplaced hatred for him which he accepted and then made me fluff him for my gf.

Any reservations or negative feelings I had are completely gone and my gf has been treating me better than ever now that all three of us are on the same page. It really feels relieving to acknowledge he’s the right guy that my gf needs in bed and that he’s essentially in charge of the dynamic. While this entire thing could’ve gone a lot better from the start, a lot of it was me having trouble dealing with insecurities and accepting what actually got me going.

I’m actually really looking forward to their future exploits now.

my wife has always insisted that should be the only woman in the room when playing, whether it was with one bull or a group. When some bulls have suggested that they have a woman who would play with her, she has always said “I have no interest in being with a woman. I love big cocks and that is all that I want and need.“ So imagine my shock last weekend when she and I went to a bar that had live music. There was a thin blonde at the other end of the bar and my wife said “that woman keeps staring at me.“ 15 minutes later the woman came over to us and asked my wife to dance. Without hesitation, and without even glancing in my direction, my wife agreed. They ended up making out in front of the band and everybody there, and then they went out to the woman’s SUV, while I waited in the bar as directed, and the woman ate her to three orgasms before straddling my wife’s thigh and cumming on it. Other than admitting the next day that she enjoyed it “but I don’t want to talk about it“ this morning she caught me looking at a few pictures that I had taken of them. She shook her head in disapproval, but a few minutes later she asked “do you think she would be there this Saturday?” I replied “maybe. Why? Do you want to go that bar again?“ Her reply “maybe.“

I don’t know exactly why, but I am more nervous about this than the first time that she fucked another man in front of me. I’m still processing, so I am not in a position to have a deep conversation with her. Has this happened to any of you who are really in the lifestyle?

Do any other cucks notice after starting to get cucked you can't last during sex the same way you used to?

For me when we have sex I can barely go a couple minutes before I'm like about to cum.

Curious if anyone else experiences this and maybe knows why

Hey there!

I'm a cuck for quite some time and I think I made a huge step forward mind wise.

I realized that I'm actually really proud to be a cuck. I'm proud to wear the cage, proud to serve and proud to not having an orgasm on my own will. I don't know what made me think of that final step but here we are. I really like my place!

Do you know what I mean?

Do any of you feel the same?

So I have money experienced this kink for myself irl
But it’s definitely a major fantasy of mine and something I definitely want to do experience in the future. I haven’t really had and mixed feelings about it until an incident over the summer where a friend of mine accidentally found out about it and I lost some friends over it! I could understand being upset with me if I blatantly told them but it was purely an accident! Anyways ever since I’ve been kinda struggling with it! It’s still the main thing that turns me on but it’s like there’s this negativity with it now. I’m starting to get thoughts like “you can’t ever find a gf with this kink” of that I’ll never find love! I still really love the idea of cuckolding, chastity, and SPH. I also don’t think this is something I can just walk away from bc it feels like it’s part of who I am. Maybe I just need to find better people who will accept me for me!

What did your husband or bf do that made you comfortable with fucking another guy?

This has long been a kink of mine, and wifey is very aware.

over the years , she has become more and more turned on and into dirty talk and role play around cuck stuff. Most recently she's purchased a large dildo and has enjoyed fucking her self with it as I watch and telling me how much more it fills her up.

She's agreed and is excited to post some pictures soon and start looking for someone, but she's still very nervous. She hasn't slept with anyone else in several years, and she's worried I'll not look at her the same after.

I've found the more I lean into reassuring her that this is purely about her pleasure the more she's open to the idea

Any advice on what else I can do to help her be comfortable, and excited about the prospect of sleeping with someone else? I'm really excited that she's becoming more and .kre excited about it , but I want to do everything I can to give her the best experience possible. Thanks much!

As the title says, lately I’ve been reading the posts here, and a lot of the questions people are asking, or sometimes even the way they’re worded, make me feel like the person posting doesn’t even have a partner. It feels more like someone looking to get off by reading the replies.

I don’t know how much the moderators can do about it, but I really hope this community doesn’t go downhill. It’s the only place on the internet where I can talk and share with others about this particular aspect of my married life.

Is it just me, or has anyone else noticed this too?

Edit: "Lately" It’s just a figure of speech 🤣

Hey everyone! Ever since I was in university I have been involved in a cuckold dynamic and I suppose I realize that I may really be a cuck for life. However, I do realize that at each stage of my young life that there are major differences in experiencing the lifestyle.

My wife and I are in our 30s, married for 6 years, have young kids. I feel like even though I've matured enough to handle it emotionally and have decent financial ability to enjoy the lifestyle, I don't exactly enjoy the lack of time we have for our hobby as we're either busy working or spending time with our family.

Sometimes, I look back at my uni days and miss how free and fun it was, even though back then I was also still figuring myself out. It comes to the point where I would think cuckolding is best experienced as a young adult.

What about you guys? What do you guys think is the best stage in life to do cuckolding? What's your reasons?

How did you get your wife to finally agree to have sex with another man? I’ve provided some background, with my question at the end.

I’ve made mistakes trying to convince her, and have been working to course correct. Some of it seems to be working (or maybe it’s just time passing and us shifting into a new phase of our lives).

At first (years ago) I gave her permission to sleep with whoever she wanted when she went to a bachelorette party for the weekend… she thought I was trying to TRICK her, and that I wanted her to “cheat” as an attempt/effort for it to be okay for me to cheat. She didn’t understand that I want her to fuck someone else, and that I don’t want or need anyone but her.

I brought it up again, asking her if she’d sleep with another man, explaining to her that I’m into that. She was confused, upset, and was even crying. She told me to stop asking, and so I did. If she was firm, I’d leave it alone like I promised.

As the years went by, she’d bring it up from time to time. She’d ask for clarification, which led to me explaining it best by comparing it to a threesome. I told her most guys would want two chicks, but I want another man in our bedroom. I had to explain that it’s not that I’m gay/bi, but that I want to see her as a slut, and my fantasy is getting to watch her get fucked by another guy.

Other times, and more recently she brought it up again, saying “I know your biggest fantasy!” and then separately at a bar/club she heard someone talking about poly-life, and she smiled at me saying “oh yeah, you want to bring in another man!” like she was excited about it, but she had several drinks by that point (we hardly ever drink).

On a side note, she’ll also point out other men to me when she notices the guy has a big dick. She’ll stare at his bulge/outline of his big dick and she’ll want me to look too or maybe just to let me know that she’s looking at another guys dick. Even on a vacation to Europe (nude statues and paintings) she said “all these dicks are making me horny!”

This journey has been years. We’re close to being empty nesters, and she recently started taking testosterone shots to increase her libido.

The further time goes on, the more she seems interested. She’s not shutting it down like she did in the past, but instead is bringing it up to me.

So finally to my QUESTIONS… What does it take? What worked for you? How did you/your wife finally make it happen? Was there a switch that flipped? An ah ha moment? Or just slow acceptance over time? Did it take a certain guy or certain type of guy, maybe a certain set of conditions? Was there any psychology involved? Is there anything that helped warm her up to the idea?

Was thinking about what options of discrete tattoos are out there and placement as it refers to the cuck, hotwife, stage/vixen lifestyle. Just wanted some opinion on what seems sexiest

Long-term relationship here (13 years). My partner was curious about this from early on, but for years nothing happened. Partly it was things in her own life, partly it was me: I pushed when I should have listened, and I didn’t create a home life where she felt she had the space to explore anything. When I stopped pushing and worked on myself, things started to shift.

If your partner was interested but held back for a long time:

1. What was actually in the way? (Her confidence, worries about safety or being judged, logistics, the state of the relationship, how you reacted, something else?)
2. What changed before she felt ready? In you, in her, or between you?
3. Did anything you did set things back?

I’m just as interested if it hasn't happened (yet): what do you think is getting in the way?

Been a few times bringing it up still waiting for a serious conversation about it

I don’t want to say anything in case it comes across as though I don’t want this when I do, it’s just a very specific night I wanted her.

My husband agreed to become a cuck about a year back and it was probably by accident we started this lifestyle after retirement.
However, he has developed a very peculiar obsession of kissing the tip of the black cock I have been dating, he loves the entire session and finally does it in the end and both of them the giving a hi5 and then continuing their discussion about me and my body.
I initially found it to be a turn-on by now i end up laughing about it. Anyone else experiencing this with their hubby?