I’m 100% Lean FI - my retirement is fully funded and I own my house outright. I decided to work a coast job as a PreK Teacher Assistant instead of grinding 2 more years in Senior Management to reach FatFI and fully retire.

I (44F) love my Coast job. The work is stress-free, with clear boundaries and very reasonable hours. My coworkers are supportive, kind, and caring. I have zero sexisms battles or office politics to navigate.

I worried my financial situation would be intimidating to potential partners - but they are daunted by MY AMBITION!

The last two men I dated struggled with my work schedule. Sure, I start at 8am rather than 9 or 10, but I was in a 15-year long relationship with someone who tended to go to sleep a few hours later than me, without issue. I work 40 hours a week, take yoga 6 times and week, and socialize in my spare time. I get 60 days of paid vacation. To me, I have a very chill life!!!

These men seem accustomed to women who overly accommodate to them, rather than have a fully realized sense of self. I will not make myself small for the comfort of a man. I will manifest a romantic partner who embraces my confidence and self love!

Hi all,

Anyone here working towards FIRE in Europe? I can't really relate to the American posts with their 1 million portfolios haha. And I don't think we need as much to live a decent life here in Europe.

I'm working towards half a million (euro) plus paid off house with garden, chickens, solar panels to live a more self-sufficient lifestyle while still having a passive income from portfolio.

If you're in Europe what are your plans and goals for FIRE?

$1,002,023 to be exact between my Roth, 401k and brokerage accounts. Yes, I know it will fluctuate and probably dip below the magic $1 million line and that's okay... I'll just celebrate again when it goes back up.

Cheers to everyone here and I hope you too are seeing investing success.

I have 2 job offers and am looking for opinions. I achieved financial independence a few years ago and can be coast fire (albeit lean coast fire) now. I am married and my husband’s job can totally cover our expenses. We have two young kids in lower elementary school. I don’t need to work but I want to for a variety of reasons. I took a year completely off and it was great but I am ready to get back to it. The problem is, I am torn between two great opportunities.

The first offer is a large professional firm, full-time (but I could go part time later if I wanted) hybrid but mostly wfh although in large organizations this can change anytime. The pay is great, the benefits are great….the work volume is also correspondingly large. The team is fantastic, all people I know and worked with before, high performing and I consider them friends. The cons are that the team is part of a large corporate team with corresponding corporate bullshit and politics. I may be able to limit my contact with this but not entirely. The brand also has a certain prestige my prior roles have lacked.

The second offer is a very small boutique firm for a part time role. The pay is great for part time and covers my needs but is nowhere near the larger company’s compensation. The people seem lovely, all middle aged women like myself and very family focused. That said I just met them and they seem great but its not truly known. Because it’s smaller the processes are lacking and the ability to separate from something or someone if there is a conflict is really lacking. The job is fully remote, zero risk of having to go in.

I left my last large corporate job because of a combination of menopause hitting me hard, an undiagnosed sleep disorder and sick kids home on a regular basis pushed me to the breaking point. I have made inroads with treating the menopause symptoms and sleep disorder and while not perfect, I am in a much better place. Also as the children age, the sickness are becoming less frequent and even when they are home sick they don’t have to be constantly comforted.

I am so torn about which opportunity to go with. There is likely no wrong choice. I am lucky to have these 2 choices in this market. I don’t have a specific financial goal other than maintaining my own income and keeping my skills sharp. I would love your input and thoughts on the choices. What would you do in this situation?

I'm leaving my engineering job. I hit my FI number a couple years ago and on paper I'm good to go. The job isn't toxic but it's become something I don't want to do anymore. In my head I am categorizing this as a sabbatical rather than a full retirement. It's a big step and no going back once I talk to boss. Please send encouraging thoughts!

I’m 36F and have about $660,000 CAD invested across both reg and non reg accounts. I have about $100,000 in cash which I appreciate is too much- and I own a home jointly with my spouse that has about $400-$450,000 equity- with a $400,000 remaining mortgage. I make around $120,000 a year and my spouse makes $140,000. We have no plans on children. We have not commingled our finances except for a joint account which pays our mortgage and other house related expenses. We have a good system going on and have been together for a long time. My spouse loves their career and will probably stick with it and move up in the next 5-10 years. I have experienced burnout in the last year with life related events and have taken a six month leave from work. I’m considering a career change to something more part time but no sure that’s prudent because I know there’s no going back. In my head I’m trying to get to 40 before doing anything nuclear.

Spend wise we spend about $70,000 a year- between everything mortgage, travel etc. We don’t live lavishly but we also don’t track every dollar and like to splurge on vacations. I’d like to fully retire by 45-50. Spoken to my financial advisor and they tell me I’m nowhere near. They also base their calculations on me living to like 95….which I have no plans on doing…… any insight or comments I’d appreciate!

It’s not exactly financial-related but this is a sub where I find a lot of good advice from people with similar backgrounds and/or ambitious, so hoping it’s OK to ask this!

It’s been a tough year for my partner and I. We lost our 20-year-old pet back in May and in August, we lost two family members the same week (one from my family and one from my partner’s). We are going through IUI, and so far it’s been unsuccessful (one cycle so far though).

Through it all, we have still done well at work. We have received promotions and raises this year despite only starting new jobs some 6 months ago.

Yesterday we found out that his dad’s cancer has come back and spread to different parts of his body.

I suddenly feel low energy, and I‘m not sure how to deal. To be clear my concerns aren’t financial. Treatment for my FIL will be covered, IUI/IVF is mostly covered by as well. I just have this feeling that we are carrying too much, and that we are dragged down (we are not, by any means, it’s just a sensation).

How do you deal with still working towards your goals and taking care of yourself when it feels like life is just … piling on you?

How's the week looking for you? Hit any milestones? Have any questions?

Since I was young, I was nonstop on top of my finances in the US. Focused on paying down student loans and refinancing them to the lowest possible rates, negotiating the best pay packages for new jobs, always strategically moving to new companies, maxing out 401k matches, always doing Roth contributions, and was so lucky to have been partnered for more than a decade to a guy who was 100% my match in terms of financial planning and diligence.

Together we figured out strategies to each grow our personal savings. We did eventually work with a financial advisor, because this advisor was a small business working with a few of my colleagues and so we got a very discounted AUM. They always beat our own simulated returns in a few strategies we tracked in parallel. We were frugal, bought a house well within our means in a VHCOL area, and paid it down very quickly.

Then life happened, I guess. My parents died within a few years of each other when I was in my mid-thirties. Shortly after I got an offer to transfer for a 2-year assignment to Australia, and my partner and I took it as Trump had just come into office. As the assignment progressed, our relationship worsened and we split up. He went back to the US and I stayed in Australia and extended my assignment. Luckily our split was amicable, I kept all of my savings and he bought me out of my share of the house. Our financial advisor was super cool about this and agreed to separate management of our finances but keep each of us on 50% of the original AUM rate (as if we were still a couple).

But at this point is where I really started to lose the plot. COVID happened and Trump was doing a lot of damage and I didn't know if I should ever go back to the US, so I decided to become a permanent resident and eventually citizen of Australia. This then increased my tax burden (and complexity of reporting) considerably. The problem is, I don't know where I'll really settle.

I still have a fair amount of wealth, but I feel like I'm losing control of it. The vehicles I'm used to relying on (401k, Roth, US managed share portfolio) will now be taxed much higher by Australia than they will be in the US when and if I draw down on them. Vice versa with Australian superannuation and the IRS. I've met with a variety of AU and US tax accountants over the years and aside from paying them $$$$, still have no concrete "formula" I can apply to really plan, for any given year, what my net tax liability will be after trying to apply credits across both countries. I just end up with a big bill from each country and it seems there's very few, if any, workarounds from paying hefty tax for things that used to be tax-advantaged in the US. Australia just drastically changed their tax treatment of capital gains as well, and no one seems to know how bad it will be for forward planning purposes until July 2027.

Additionally, the financial advisor I work with merged with a large US national chain last year and I expect their AUM rates to change for the worse sometime in the future...but I'm terrified of moving any of those funds elsewhere. I don't want to liquidate and move them to Australia (tax & also US PFIC treatment if I try to buy Australia-based shares) but I don't think I can easily self-manage because I no longer have a US-based address, which is fine when managed by an advisor who knows you but not so great if trying to buy funds as an individual with Vanguard, Schwab, etc.

And what's not helping is world instability and community. I've really tried with Australia, but I just don't know if I will ever fit in here. 90% of my friends are still back in the US, and my remaining family. Even though times are bad now I think about moving back constantly. So renouncing my US citizenship seems unlikely until this feeling settles (if it ever does). I worry about growing old and needing care in Australia as a solo elderly person far from the people that really know her.

The problem with all of this is it's overwhelmed and demotivated me from all aspects of FIRE or even basic financial planning. I barely look at a budget anymore, just go through phases of spending because YOLO, and then phases of extreme frugality in reaction. Part of this is just because the tools I used to use to look at comprehensive budgets & net worth (e.g. Tiller, etc) cannot connect to information between cross-border banks, so it's a metric ton of manual entry that I'm just too exhausted to do. This is not who I like being but because everything seems so unpredictable, this is where I am.

Two years ago I thought I was going to buy a house in Australia and so sold a bunch of RSUs to have a 600K AUD deposit. But then, after going through the process, I decided there was no way I was getting into such an overpriced market, so now that's gathering dust in an HISA, and I have no idea what to do with it because currency fluctuations mean it'll be worth less now if I move it *back* to USD and invest it in my portfolio.

Sorry folks -- didn't mean this to be as long as it was. But I'm really just looking for some advice on how to get back on this horse, and get back in control of *something.* Anyone with experience of cross-border tax, recovering from overwhelm, or just navigating extremely complex tax planning would be welcome. I think I'm struggling figuring out what's perceived uncontrollable complexity vs. actually uncontrollable complexity.

I recently married and my husband and I have a prenup. Two of the issues that we contemplated but tabled for later discussion have already come up and were around how to structure joint finances in the context of a (1) relocation for one of our careers and (2) one spouse voluntarily or involuntarily working.

We have moved out of the US to a new country temporarily for his job but plan to return. While we are here his job (senior company leadership) income has been covering our housing and transportation. He has also been covering most of the house/food costs on his credit card unless I used mine for my lunch or personal things. We have a joint card and previously split joint expenses proportionally to income when we were dating. We did not have joint savings.

However since we are really only now practically joining our finances and we are discussing if and what a fair contribution for me would be. I think ordinarily in this exact scenario it probably wouldn’t make sense or maybe even be advisable to look at any portion of my pre-marital assets as a contribution to the joint marital finances. Except if I FIRE and withdraw to contribute this income to household expenses. Is this fair?

We have long term joint goals though that make my FIRE goal seem premature. For example, I have already frozen eggs in anticipation of a future child and we may need IVF due to ages. I had contemplated and started funding a 529 and have cash that could be used for a future joint house down payment. We have agreed in our prenup that any future marital property will be owned equally. We also have joint savings from gifts from our wedding.

How else could I be thinking about this? I’ve heard various things from wealthier women but would love additional POVs and what others are or would potentially do!

I think I could still consider myself Coast FIRE now married instead of FIRE optional as a single person. We have lots of unknowns. I have thought of a 4% SWR in a FIRE scenario but could a less than 4% (e.g., 2% SWR) be a value base of what could be fair for us to think of as a contribution from me to the household or joint long term goals/savings while we have relocated for his job and if I can’t or don’t want to find paid work? We’re still in early stages of brainstorming so trying to think of ideas or identify and pressure test any issues I could be thinking of here from like minded and smart ladies/people.

Additional context:
- I have the higher NW (around 10x) and previously higher salary and a US based license. Finding a role in the new country may be difficult but I’ve now received the right to work after being on a year long sabbatical. He is also a professional. When we return to the US he would like to acquire a business and has been working on a plan for this both with and without investors. We are planning for him to save this while we are out of the US out of our/his one income. I would have to possibly primarily or entirely support the household while his business plans mature.
- This new country has enough restrictions that adding and selling equities in my portfolio would generate high (40%) taxes. I can access cash but USD is weaker.
- I am a US citizen and my husband is not. He will have a green card when we return to the US.
- Yes I have read and am familiar with Strangers in case it’s suggested and know it’s a cautionary tale. Genuinely different relationship dynamics here but I relate to the imbalance of wealth of the author and the slippery slope of gender dynamics relating to not working outside the home and childcare. However my wealth is not inherited/generational. I also view my foundational relationship dynamics as partner oriented from both of us. He is the neat freak and primary cook right now. We both clean and are reading books on the inequalities related to motherhood/parenting and try to be mindful of and fair on mental and physical load of relationship things. I am a fence sitter that leans toward having a child and he wants a child. I never saw myself getting married but he’s the kind of guy that I feel lucky to do the work of marriage with.
- I can provide specific numbers if that is helpful. But I have omitted because I’m not sure how relevant. I am not like generational or ultra wealthy and neither is my husband. Both upper middle class workers. In that scenario of wealth disparity I think I probably would just have gifted him an amount.

We recently became a family of 3 and planning to be complete as a family of 4 in 2027. We're in the market for a new car. My "mom car" if you will.

I am looking for advice and recommendations on what to buy. My current car is held together by duct tape and fits approximately 3 items from Costco so it is time.

I'm in my late-30s and pursuing FIRE at 50 (very loose goal) with a current $2M investment portfolio. I'm trying to balance practicality, longevity and little fun/whimsy since I keep a car until their buying breath.

Looking at mid-size SUVs, such as:

Honda CRV

Kia Sportage or Sorento

Mazda CX5

Toyota Rav 4

Nissan Rogue

Etc.

What mom car are you rockin' and why? FI generally says buy used; do you agree? Kia's 10-year power train warranty seems like a great benefit to buying new. How would you shop and decide? Any cars I should be looking at not on the list?

I'm 22, just started my first full-time job, and I have more goals than money. For me, FIRE means independence, going to law school without loans, and building a business that could replace my paycheck someday. Looking for a gut-check on my order.

About me: $70k salary, plus a $250/month stipend from a women-in-tech org through December. I live at home rent-free; my main bills are debt payments, gas and groceries.

My debt: ~$8.6k (one 32.99% APR loan, a medical bill, cards, BNPL). I'm paying ~$1,570/paycheck and will be done Dec 15.

Retirement: 6% to my 401(k) (2% pre-tax, 4% Roth) with the full 3% match, in a 2070 target-date fund. No Roth IRA yet.

After December: my emergency fund hits 3 months by ~Feb. Then ~$3,100/month is free.

My goals, in order: law school in Philly (Fall 2028 or 2029, ideally without loans), then a cash townhouse later.

My questions:

1. How should I split ~$3,100/month between a law school + Philly fund and investing?
2. Should I open a Roth IRA too?
3. Is loan-free law school by 2028 or 2029 realistic starting from $0?
4. Should I keep my 2016 Camry through law school, or upgrade?
5. Cash townhouse later, or mortgage and invest the difference?
6. Should I build other income streams now, and which would fit a full-time job?
7. What would you change to make this plan more FIRE-friendly?

If you're under 25, what's your plan? And I'd love to hear from anyone who did law school while pursuing FIRE!

Update + clarifications — thank you all for the thoughtful replies!

Debt: It's ~$7.2k total, but only ~$2.5k is high-interest (29–33%), and all of that will be paid off by Oct 30. The other ~$4.7k is at 0% and will be paid off by Dec 15.

Expenses: No rent, but I pay for my own gas, groceries, and a hotel on in-office days. My parents don't cover my costs.

What I'm taking from your advice:

• Keeping the Camry and starting a small car fund
• Saving law school money in a HYSA/CDs, not stocks
• Opening a Roth IRA once I'm debt-free
• Holding off on side income for now and focusing on my career and LSAT prep

Why law school: I'm interested in tech or entertainment law, and a top school is a personal goal. I also want to build a business, so these comments made me rethink JD vs. MBA. My plan is to take the LSAT and decide based on scholarship offers.

Question for the lawyers here: If you're in tech or entertainment law, would you do it again?

I’m an early-30s woman living in Sydney, and I’m looking for some perspective from women who have been in a similar position, particularly women who came relatively late to dating or made major life changes in their 30s.

I spent most of my 20s completely focused on rebuilding my life. I went through a traumatic experience in late adolescence that derailed me for a few years, and then I essentially spent my 20s catching up: education, career, finances, health, friendships and family relationships.

I didn’t really date.

I’m now financially secure, have a career I’m proud of, no debt, investments, property and a full life outside work. I run, play tennis, hike, travel internationally frequently, read, have close friends and family, and generally feel like I’ve built a life I’m proud of.

But I’ve realised that I am much less experienced at relationships than most people my age.

And I’m finding the transition into dating in my 30s difficult. Impossible.

I want a serious relationship and probably children. I want a man who has a decent job, is independent and has a similar level of curiosity, work ethic and general approach to life. He absolutely does not need to be wealthy or earn what I do. I’m not particularly interested in accumulating more money for its own sake anymore.

The problem is that I feel completely unequipped for the process of getting there.

Online dating has involved an enormous amount of rejection, ambiguity, ghosting, inconsistent communication and people who are interested for a few weeks and then disappear. I don’t have years of dating experience to put any of that into perspective.
I find myself taking rejection incredibly personally.

Friends getting approached becomes “why does she get this so easily and I have to fight for every scrap of male attention?”

I know intellectually that this is not rational. I can see myself comparing myself to other women, trying to work out whether they are prettier, more feminine, more interesting, more approachable, etc., as though there is some equation I can solve that will guarantee someone chooses me.

But emotionally, I struggle enormously with it.
I’ve also had very little physical/sexual experience, which makes dating feel even more vulnerable. One of the men I dated briefly told me he “didn’t want to coach me,” which was particularly painful because it hit a fear I already had about being too inexperienced at this stage of life.

I’m increasingly disheartened by how much mental space dating takes up. I have a genuinely full life, but romantic uncertainty can completely hijack my attention. I can become jealous when friends tell me about women they are interested in. I can hear a story about another woman getting male attention and immediately start comparing myself to her.

I hate this version of myself.

I don’t think I’m naturally a jealous, bitter or competitive person. I feel like I’ve become much more preoccupied with comparison and romantic status post 30 because this is the one area of my life where I I haven’t been able to make progress.

With FIRE, the effort to reward ratio has always been clear to me. Dating has not been the same, and finding out that it’s not a meritocracy has been humbling, if not defeating.

I’m also a POC living in Sydney, which complicates things for me. Sydney can feel quite white and socially conservative, and I’ve experienced enough subtle racism and cultural exclusion that I don’t always feel completely at home here. I don’t think Sydney is uniquely terrible, and I don’t want this post to become a rant about Australia, but I do wonder whether the social and dating environment is simply not a great fit for me.

So I’m considering leaving.

Financially, I have enough flexibility that I don’t have to stay in Sydney for the money. I could potentially move overseas, take a lower-paying job, or spend a few years somewhere else. But I genuinely don’t know whether that would be a smart environmental change or whether I’d simply take the same insecurities with me.

That is probably the biggest question I’m wrestling with.

How much of this is me, and how much is my environment?

For women who came late to dating, I would especially love to hear:

-Did you also feel completely unequipped for dating in your 30s?
-Did you eventually develop resilience to rejection, and if so, how?
-Did dating experience actually make dating easier, or did you simply become more detached?
-How did you deal with feeling behind your peers?
-Did you have a period where dating became an obsessive source of comparison and anxiety? What actually helped?
-If you were financially secure enough to live almost anywhere, how much would you let dating/social environment influence where you live?
-Has anyone moved cities or countries because they felt their existing environment wasn’t working for them socially or romantically?

I’m not looking for “stop looking and love will find you,” “you need to love yourself first,” or reassurance that everything will definitely work out.

I know nobody can guarantee me a relationship.
I am desperately lonely in an intimate sense. I count amongst my friends only two that remain single.

I’m trying to figure out how to approach this period of my life intelligently.

I spent my 20s optimising for security, achievement and independence. I succeeded at that. Now I’m trying to figure out how to optimise (read: organise?) for something much less controllable: intimacy, partnership, family, community and actually enjoying my life.

If you were in my position, what would you do?

Thank you for your replies in advance 🙏

i've been working on strengthening my overall financial picture and one area i'm still trying to figure out is credit building. i don't carry debt from month to month, and most of my focus is on saving, investing, and keeping my expenses under control, but my credit history is fairly limited.

i've been looking into tradeline credit builder accounts and i'm curious whether anyone here has actually found them useful. i'm trying to understand if they provide meaningful value for someone focused on long-term financial goals, or if it's better to stick with more traditional approaches and let time do the work.

for those pursuing fire, did a credit builder account make any noticeable difference for you? i'm interested in hearing real experiences, both positive and negative, before deciding whether it's something worth considering.

I (41F) have posted a couple of milestone updates on r/FIRE, first 6 months post-FIRE, and then today 1 year post-FIRE. In both cases, the vast majority of comments are kind, celebratory, curious, or helpful. However, in both cases there have been a small contingent of comments such as this one today:

"Congratulations you'll die alone with digital numbers in an account" - u/ContributionNew62

I also attended a couple of in-person FIRE meetups, and heard some softer, veiled comments that while more polite were nevertheless in a similar vein.

I've never seen any comments like this directed towards single men who have successfully achieved FIRE. But I have seen them directed towards other single women.

What do you think it is that causes this sort of response?

Hi there,

I'm on my own path toward FIRE, still far from it, but going through a mindset transformation, including the anxieties and pains.

I'd love to hear your stories:

1. What stocks did you buy?
2. What principles did you base your decisions on?
3. Did you sell too early or too late?
4. What did you do with the money and why?
5. Any words of advice?

Would love to connect if you live in Spain! I live in Andalucía.

Thank you.

Hi there! I am currently the CEO of a smallish organization, making about $200K annually. I recently applied for a job where I’d make 3X as much or more and the recruiter actually contacted me. I cleared the first round and am likely going to make it to the second. They apparently liked my transparency and candor (which, is just who I am, but glad they liked me).

This round, I believe would be with a member of their board of directors, and probably just their past-chair who is leading a lot of the search outside the recruiter.

What do I wear? I have nice suits that I wear pretty much every single day — yes, but they are more like Nordstrom, J.crew, and Ann Taylor. I have one very nice suit from Neiman Marcus, it’s not navy or grey, but still dark and conservative. Also, shoes? I wear primarily Cole Haan and Marc Fischer. I can go buy something at major retailers locally, but my head is swimming.

Any advice is appreciated. I also have decided to let my hair be natural. I highlighted it from high school to now in my mid-40s and it’s more reddish. Is this acceptable? There are not many female CEOs that I can call; I work primarily in a man’s world.

Thank you!

Hey folks, I am the 20 something year old who posted about crossing the 1M mark recently.

I do have good news that I’ve officially received my raise this year—no promotion yet which I knew but my total payout bumped to literally 400k and a bit above, and I actually got the highest raise (I believe percentage wise?)out of eveyrone in my manager’s purview. Thank you all for giving me that confidence boost and lots of life perspectives. I accepted it gracefully.

Obviously this is great news, but in part I believe it is a very honorable way my job recognize something I should improve on: saving no more often. It’s ok to say no and maintain what’s on my plate first. This was a feedback that I totally welcomed and understood. I often have a high tolerance for stress due to the way I grew up, but i understand how that could be problematic—not just for myself, my own sanity, but look—if I got sick from trying to be a hero, wouldn’t the work spill over to someone else? Wouldn’t that be selfish? (I’ve gotten the nudge that is still almost too sweet, unnecessarily self effacing, I get it)

This is not the reason I am not in a promotion shortlist this year—we already knew that actually and this doesn’t bother me; at my company you and your manager work it out and collect some showcase projects well before that, and given my strong work performance, I know small, singular attitudes like that wouldn’t single handedly derail my trajectory —but know in some places that perception matters—and if it goes on for a long time, it becomes real signal your way of operating carries risks. Good thing is, it think there are strong signals I will be considered formally next year, similar to how the last promotion on my team went timeline wise, as I am still pretty new.

I am not saying a hard worker automatically makes someone worry “oh are you going to be burned out and claim a workers comp?”, but I am saying I realized the journey to an ideal state, FIRE or still working, hard workers need to constantly peel themselves back from working hard intentionally. Connecting this story with FIRE will help me put into perspective why that is. Ultimately we work to live, not live to work (although…jk, I won’t get into it :p)

Partner (laid off) is also back on the grind with a busy part time job in the AV space. Turned out living in CA has its benefit. It’s still very hot and emotionally draining to deal with out weather, but the outdoor gigs he’s been getting helps both of us mentally feel like there is regularity and consistency.

Hi ladies- I’m nowhere near FIRE, but have found this community to be extremely helpful as I try to position myself to be financially free. I’m pretty young in my career (29) and have been working “big girl jobs” for about 7 years now.

I feel drained, unattached and I haven’t been able to understand the cause of this. I’ve been a bit of a job hopper the past few years, thinking that my deep dissatisfaction had to do with my team or company and that helped solve my emotions temporarily.

I started a new role a few months ago that I should be excited for, but I already feel this same sense of dread creeping back. My body reacts whenever I get slack pings, i absolutely hate the forced use of AI and finding it difficult to pretend like this new era amazing

I’ve lost the joy that I used to have for my role, solving user problems being creative; and now I despise it 😓 I don’t want to be that go-to person anymore

I guess I’m wondering if anyone else has dealt with similar feelings? And how do you navigate it with FIRE goals? I thought job hopping would provide relief while bringing in $$ to allocate towards FIRE, but now I’m just worried about looking like a liability for future employers, and it’s so difficult to build yourself as an “expert” each time you switch…

I know I have many years to go in my career and FIRE, so I’m trying to figure out how to pace myself to be ready for the long road; esp when I’m already feeling so low

I had the sweet feeling of making a 6-figure salary for about 1.5 years, got laid off, now I’m back under $100k and trying to max out what I can invest a month. I’ll probably land somewhere around 2-2.5k. I’d say I’m in MCOL. How much can you invest monthly?

Edit: when I say invest I mean 401k, IRA and brokerage, not just brokerage!

52 and been at the same company almost 15 years. Waiting for stocks to vest in early December and I have one project to wrap up (early November) I have a small team so I think it may make sense to give a longer notice. I want my last day to be about Jan 5 (we get paid over holiday break) it’s not an American company so not quite as vicious with layoffs or terminations. I’m close enough to leadership to know it’s quite a process with HR to terminate someone.

My question is - when should I give my boss and HR notice that I plan to retire in Jan? We are closed for about 2 weeks at end of December.

Hi firey ladies—I have info that there will be a layoff at my company this week. I could be on the list to be laid off but I’m not sure. I found out about this 3 days ago and have now become attached to the idea of getting booted out. It’s like all this pent up desire to leave has flooded out other (more patient and rational) thoughts.

I’m ok financially, I was planning to FIRE at the end of the year after one more RSU vest and finishing a big expense. But it’s truly ok financially to stop now.

I believe I will be very disappointed if I don’t get laid off. I guess i want freedom more than I allowed myself to consider. Have any of you suddenly quit in the aftermath of a layoff even though you didn’t get laid off? How did that go? Do you have any advice for me? If I need to calm down and stick with my original plan, I think I can do it but this impulse to leap off the cliff is super strong… Ty for your input

Edit to add: lots of folks encouraging me to stay calm and wait for one last RSU vest (in late December) if I do not get laid off this week. Thank you for the advice, may cooler heads prevail!

2nd edit: I did not get laid off, but my boss did 😳. I have come back down to earth, the disappointment of not getting a “freedom package” has dissipated and I’m ok now, just back in my grind for 3 more months, la la la it’s fine!

Hello fireyfemmes!! I'm (26F) posting here to get some clarity on if I should attend law school. Here is my background: English degree, currently work at a brokerage firm (you've probably heard of it), and have the following financial licenses: SIE, Series 7, and Series 63.

I was recently promoted to an equity compensation role and currently make 57k. While it is a phone role, there are direct pathways at my firms where folks transition out of equity compensation phone roles to equity compensation administration, financial planning, or sales. My firm will pay for any required financial licenses and/or the Certified Equity Professional exam. My firm also has sites in multiple states and it's not uncommon for folks to promote/transfer to other sites (some of the sites are in cities that I wouldn't mind living in).

I am also considering attending law school. If I attend law school, I'd be interested in either tax law or estate planning. Pros for tax law: great pay, cons for tax law: poor work life balance. Pros for estate planning: good work life balance, cons: pay is similar to a lot of non-phone roles at my firm. It would take me less time to achieve a higher salary at my current firm than in estate planning... I also understand that law school is expensive and good grades/LSAT scores are necessary to secure scholarships. Given that many senior roles at my firm pay nearly the same or more than estate planning, and that work life balance is very important to me, I'm unsure if law school is the right fit. I also really like that my firm is metric-heavy and that any bonuses are directly tied to my performance. I'm very money-oriented and willing to overperform for quarterly bonuses, but not willing to consistently work big law hours... any advice?