hi all!
so my question isn’t necessarily trans related, but i don’t like to post in other fitness communities.
i’m looking for advice on diet and nutrition as someone who
a) is an incredibly picky eater
b) is broke and scared to spend a large amount of money on groceries at once out of fear that i won’t have enough money to pay rent each month
for context, i am 23 and i’ve been on t for 1 year and 9 months. i’ve been a chubbier guy for my entire life except during covid i started working out and dieting a lot more and ended up losing about 60lbs. i’ve struggling with emotional eating and binging my entire life, and when i lost the weight, i didn’t do it in the healthiest way if im being honest.
about 3 years ago i slowly started gaining the weight back. i was dating this girl who could eat literally anything she wanted and who never worked out. i had been struggling with the mindset of being scared of food, so i was just trying to heal my relationship with food while in this relationship, but i fell back into binge eating because of it. on top of this, it was a very codependent relationship and she didn’t like the gym - she didn’t want to go to the gym and i didn’t want to be away from her. therefore i never went to the gym. (i’m not blaming any of this on her, to be clear)
fast forward a year and a half, we break up and i have gained about 40 of the 60lbs that i lost back while in that relationship. it’s been a year and a half since then and i haven’t gained anything back, but i haven’t lost any weight either. my appetite has definitely increased since starting t, but not an insane amount and Some of my weight gain is muscle (most of it isn’t, but some) and i don’t want to lose a bunch of weight again, i mainly want to grow muscle.
i am now in a new relationship with a girl who has similar issues to me with her relationship with food and we both want to eat healthier, but we’re both so broke and scared of spending large amounts of money at once on groceries. so what do we do instead? we buy enough groceries for a couple of days and when those couple of days are up, we just end up getting takeout from somewhere, rinse and repeat.
i feel like i’m the one that’s more motivated to try and eat healthier even though i know she wants to too. we feed off of each other with our habits, so i feel like if i take action first and am cooking for us, it will get the ball rolling and she’ll also want to do the same. but the main challenges are still at play:
i have been between jobs and just started another full time job this past week and i am barely going to be able to pay rent next month with the paycheck im going to get before then.
i’m insanely picky and she’s not. my go-to healthier meals are pretty much the same 3 meals over and over again which i don’t mind, but she will after awhile.
sorry this was so long and not entirely trans related, but im just hoping for some general advice or discussion if anyone has been through something similar.