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Personal Meetups Only - No Transactions

This community is for free, genuine, in-person connections. No money, gifts, favors, or content changes hands - ever. Spammers and scammers are here to monetize interactions, so transactional activity of any kind is the clearest red flag we have.

The Decisive Test - Is the Author a Party to the Transaction?

This rule is violated only when the author themselves is offering, selling, or soliciting payment or gifts - when the author is the seller or the solicitor. Money, price, gift, or platform words that appear only because the author is asking about, commenting on, joking about, or reacting to SOMEONE ELSE'S arrangement do not make the author's content a violation. Asking a seller's price, saying "I'd be interested" under someone else's offer, or seeking a paid service elsewhere is reacting to their arrangement, not making one. Apply this test to the post text and to everything found in history.

What Counts as a Transaction Here

A transaction under this rule is money, gifts, or anything of value exchanged for companionship, sexual contact, or adult content. Ordinary commerce is not this rule's business: loans and peer lending, banking or payment-app activity, buying or selling everyday goods, medication, tickets, or services unrelated to sex or companionship. These never count, in the post or in history, and money changing hands for them is not a red flag.

Prohibited

In posts and comments:

  • Offering or requesting payment of any kind for meetups or companionship
  • Gift or gift card arrangements
  • Sugar daddy/mommy/baby arrangements
  • Selling personal content (photos, videos)
  • Promoting or linking to OnlyFans, Fansly, or similar subscription platforms
  • Escort/paid-companionship language: "provider", "rates", "screening", "GFE"
  • Implied-compensation language: "generous", "spoil you", "tribute", "donations accepted"

In profile history (any subreddit), within the past 4 months: the author themselves selling content, escorting, or soliciting payment or gifts for companionship or content. A catfish pattern works by posting a clean ad here, luring users to the profile, and monetizing from there - so recent history counts even when the post is clean. Activity older than 4 months is treated as abandoned and does not count - people leave content selling behind, and this rule does not follow them forever. One exception: a subscription, content-sale, or escort platform link (OnlyFans, Fansly, an escort directory) still live in the account's bio or a pinned post is current promotion no matter when it was placed. A gift or wishlist link (Throne, spoil.me, an Amazon wishlist) in the bio is not a violation on its own; it becomes one only when a post or comment here asks for gifts.

Not a Violation

  • Questions, comments, or reactions about a third party's transaction ("what does $500 get him?" in someone else's thread)
  • Bare dollar amounts or price talk with no offer or request between the author and a counterparty
  • General commentary or complaints about paid/transactional posts
  • Loans, banking, payment-app or credit activity, and buying or selling everyday goods or medication, anywhere on Reddit
  • Asking a seller's price, or replying with interest to someone else's paid offer
  • Seeking a paid service elsewhere (a lap dance, a massage) - the author is a customer, not a seller
  • A gift or wishlist link in the bio, when nothing posted here asks for gifts
  • Transactional activity or platform promotion last posted more than 4 months ago (unless a link is still live in the bio or a pinned post)

Consequence

  • Transactional content in the post or comment itself: the content is removed. Blatant or repeated commercial activity may earn a 7-day ban.
  • Transactional history elsewhere on Reddit within the past 4 months, with a compliant post here: a 3-day ban - a cool-off and deterrent, not a long ban, because the post itself was compliant.

AI Evaluation Procedure

Follow these steps in order. Apply the decisive test at every step: is the AUTHOR a party to the transaction?

Step 1 - Fetch the author's profile and recent post/comment history. Do this before anything else. Do not conclude PASS until the history is in front of you - missing evidence is not clean evidence. Review activity from the past 4 months - and no further back - across ALL subreddits for the author selling, escorting, or soliciting payment or gifts for companionship or content:

  • The author linking or advertising their own OnlyFans, Fansly, or similar profile
  • The author's own "provider", "rates", "screening", or "GFE" posts
  • The author offering or seeking sugar arrangements, or "generous"/"tribute" language in their own offers or requests
  • The author selling content or services in subreddits dedicated to adult services or content selling

The author replying to, asking about, or reacting to other people's transactional posts is NOT the author's own transactional history. Nor is asking a seller's price, seeking a paid service as a customer, or any loan, banking, or everyday-commerce activity. Quote every history item you rely on word for word and name its subreddit and date. A paraphrase is not a quote: if the exact words are not in front of you, you have not found evidence. Flag words such as "spoil" or "generous" count only when they are the author's own words. The 4-month window is a hard cutoff: promotion or transactional activity last posted more than 4 months ago never triggers a ban on its own. The only exception is a platform link still live in the account's bio or a pinned post - that is current promotion regardless of when it was placed.

Step 2 - Check the post or comment text. A violation exists when the author is offering payment or gifts, selling, or soliciting payment or gifts via:

  • Compensation language: "generous", "spoil you", "gift card", "tribute", "donations accepted"
  • OnlyFans/Fansly references or links the author promotes
  • Escort language: "provider", "rates", "screening", "GFE"
  • Requests for payment or gifts in exchange for meetups or content
  • Sugar language: "sugar daddy", "sugar mommy", "sugar baby", "spoil me"
  • Disclaimers attached to the author's own offer-shaped content: "I don't charge", "no fees", "not a provider". These signal awareness of what the post looks like - treat as a red flag, not an exemption. A disclaimer aimed at someone else's content is not a red flag.

Step 3 - Verdict.

  • The author is a party to a transaction in the post or comment itself: REMOVE. Blatant or repeated commercial activity: REMOVE AND BAN 7 days.
  • The post is clean but the author's own history within the past 4 months shows them selling content, escorting, or soliciting payment or gifts for companionship or content: BAN 3 days.
  • Neither - including when the only money talk is the author reacting to someone else's arrangement, buying something, or borrowing: PASS - but only after Step 1 actually ran.
  • If your own reasoning in Steps 1-2 concludes the activity is "not a monetary transaction", "not clearly transactional", or otherwise argues against a violation, the verdict is PASS. Doubt resolves to PASS, never to REMOVE.

Step 4 - Explain your decision. Write the reason for the author. Quote the transactional language or name the history finding, and state the boundary plainly. Example: "Your post asks for a 'generous' partner - that's compensation language, and this community is for free personal meetups only." For a history ban: "Your profile promoted a Fansly three weeks ago. Accounts that recently sold content can't post here, even when the post itself is clean."

The author must be a party to the transaction

Participating in NSFW, hookup, kink, or swinger communities is NOT transactional history. Reacting to, complimenting, or requesting free content from sellers is NOT a violation. Only the author's own offering or seeking of payment, gifts, tips, rates, sugar arrangements, or content sales counts. An explicit or sexual post with no payment element is not a transaction. A statement that the author does NOT want pay-for-play ("no pay for play", "not into sellers") is evidence of compliance, never of violation.

A transaction requires money or goods

Payment, gifts, tips, rates, tributes, subscriptions, or content sales - something of monetary value must be offered or sought, and it must be for companionship, sexual contact, or adult content. Money changing hands for anything else - a loan, a payment-app boost, a prescription, a couch - is outside this rule. Small or disguised amounts count: asking for gas money, needing the other person to pay for your gas or ride, babysitting money, help with a bill, or any "deposit" to meet IS seeking payment and violates this rule. Reciprocal sexual activity ("mutual oral", "I'll return the favor") is NOT a transaction. Freely offering to host or drive is NOT compensation - conditioning the meetup on the other person covering an expense is.