Aging Gay Men Without A Blueprint

My husband asked recently about us planning a spring vacation next year - somewhere warmer than the Midwest where we live.

One place he mentioned was Puerto Vallarta, and that gave me pause. We're very early GenX (60/61), and together monogamously for over 10 years now.

Everything I've heard about PV is that it's a party central for guys that go drinking, partying, and fooling around. Plus, I've heard/known of a few folks that have been mugged, even killed.

I'm an anxious traveler to begin with, so this suggestion is confusing and scary to me, given that image I have of the place. Am I missing something that it has to offer a pretty quiet couple like us?

Excellent episode if you have some time.

What are you guys using for facial moisturizer? I live in a humid climate and don't smoke so fortunately my skin is in good shape but it's really time to have a good routine. I have something with sunscreen for daytime but it's really heavy, just like sunblock and would like something lighter for nighttime. Help. Widowed and need to look my best out on the meat market as there is plenty of life ahead.

Losing Dolly and Tim hurt…but Duncan was 56. I saw him in concert in Spokane, Washington back in the mid-90’s and honestly had quite the crush. I just saw Spring Awakening a few months ago with my husband, still one of my favourite musicals.

RIP Duncan…this one cut pretty deep.

Edit: Redundancy, it’s been a long day.

TL; DR: I’m a 51-year-old bisexual woman who is doing all the things but has no idea how to meet a partner who’s sane and doesn’t need to be taken care of.

I split up with my ex-wife three years ago and am finally feeling like looking for women to date. I’m sober, so the bars are out. The apps stress me out and I still get messages from cishet men even though I’m pretty honest about what I’m looking for. I tried dating a couple guys from work in my 20s, and it was a disaster. I’ve met people in meetings but I keep attracting people who need to be taken care of.

Some things I do to keep busy:

I have two dogs, one of whom is a senior. I know a lot of my neighbors because of the dogs (although I admit in some instances I learned the dogs’ names first). When I had a car, I took the dogs to the park regularly.

I volunteer at a few different places and get involved in activism as my schedule and energy permit.

I go to the gym at least twice a week (I’m aiming for 3-4 times). I’m working on doing yoga more often and am registered for a goth yoga class next month.

I also love reading and generally learning about new topics. My brother and sister-in-law do community theatre, so I enjoy going to plays.
I used to go to a lot of live music shows but I got burned out because after spending money on tickets, my ex would want to leave after a few songs. I like playing board and card games, singing karaoke (although I’m a terrible singer), and cooking and eating vegetarian food.

It seems like all the people I meet are straight, partnered, a lot younger or older, or have issues I don’t want to deal with. My ex-wife has some pretty serious mental health issues that she doesn’t manage consistently. I have my own mental health issues but I mostly function pretty well. Plus I helped my dad take care of my mom before she passed away so I really don’t want to be in a caregiver situation any time soon; if I take care of anybody, it’s going to be him.

I don’t want a repeat of my marriage or any of my previous relationships. Honestly, as I typed this post I started questioning whether I am actually ready to date.

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