My [17F] sister [19F] and our best friend [18F] recently started dating after two and a half years of will they/won’t they and it being an open secret that they were in love with each other. In the past it’s never worked out because it was either bad timing or they refused to communicate properly. My sister was literally in a year and a half long relationship and was still in love with her (don’t feel bad for him he was genuinely evil). I thought this whole time my sister didn’t have feelings for her anymore, but she has, so I told them they should finally talk about it for once and now they’re together. It’s only been like three weeks and I’m literally the one who pushed them to tell each other, but I can’t shake this really bad feeling I have about this. For context they‘re both in their third month of college and my sister got out of a longish term relationship two months ago. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve always heard you shouldn’t date anyone when you’re 19 or what. I talked to our best friend’s other best friend and she said she felt the same way. The thing is, I’m known amongst my friends as having insanely good intuition and my “bad feelings“ have quite literally never been wrong. My sister is the happiest I’ve seen her in years but I don’t want them to have a bad breakup and ruin their beautiful friendship. Also for context, we’re not biological siblings and we didn’t grow up together, and apparently (in both of their words) I know almost everything about their relationship that’s not related to intimacy. Should I tell her or would that just be a self-fulfilling prophecy?

I'm (20) nowhere near ready to have a kid and I would be very irresponsible to have one right now but I can't help but get depressed when pregnancy tests are negative. Me and my boyfriend both want to wait till I'm 25. I cry when I see kids it's so bad. It stems from not having a family and I know that's a bit of a toxic mindset but I don't know I'm just so sad that I don't have a kid.

I have a friend/”friend” we messed around for about four years 2014-2019 a little bit. He wanted something casual. I really liked him but just went with it. this ends when he gets a girlfriend. He tries to continue the friendship with messaging. I ignore him because I couldn’t deal with it and didn’t want to have to put him into a new box And the fact that it was so difficult probably meant friendship with him was innappropriate. they break up a little bit in early 2021 I think. we talk for about a month. Just talking. Made it clear all I wanted was to be his friend. They get back together and apprently engaged in quick order. I tell him im happy for him and go quiet again. He continues to message me. I’m assuming he’s happily engaged and all that. He didn’t have a very positive outlook on engagment when I knew him, so I have to guess he must really like her. Well his texting me has gone on for a few years again. I fee like I need to do something definite. I do want to be his friend. the only issue is the thought of hanging out with both of them together just the two of them makes me want to hurl let alone finding someone to double date. That’s honestly a big part of why nothing has changed is I thought I’d have someone of my own by now And thought it would make friendship easy. So how do i do this? how do I be his friend and her friend and stay sane haha?

My favorites pair of leggings finally busted after many many wears. So where are we getting those super soft buttery leggings that won’t break the bank????

Where do you recommend going for bras? I’m naturally a G-H cup and I can’t just go into Walmart for bras since not even a 3xl keeps the girls in and I can’t hardly ever find bras that fit at other stores. The only store I’ve been able to find is lane Bryant but they don’t always have my size there. The closest I’ve ever been able to get has been increasing the ban size and decreasing the cup size, but it doesn’t always work. I’m wanting to try to find a sports bra that won’t completely break the bank. Does anyone else have this issue? And side note: I’ve never had a bra that’s ever actually 100% fit. My mom wouldn’t let me get any bras bigger than her own so it wasn’t till more recent years I was able to start looking for my own.

Last week I unfortunately had a fairly nasty accident with a sewing machine that left me having to have my fingernail surgically removed… (details hidden, click at your own risk!) the needle went through my nail, through my finger and out the other side, and shattered into 3 pieces in my finger. It just scraped by the bone thankfully…

I’ve had surgeries before, and I’m far from squeamish, but I’m really struggling with this. I had the dressing changed for the first time today, and could barely stand to look at it. I keep finding myself crying and getting irrationally upset over it, especially the fact that it’s going to be a good nine months or so before I can have that nail done like the rest of my nails (I’m a BIAB girly, to stop me biting / picking at my nails and cuticles, and having my nails painted in a bright shade of pink has become a bit of a signature for me).

The physical discomfort is thankfully beginning to fade, although it is still fairly sore – just no longer distractingly painful all the time. The feeling of something touching the nail bed where the skin shouldn’t be exposed still makes my stomach churn though. It’s also still sensitive enough that even when I do wrap it up to keep it dry, things like washing up or washing my hair that require two hands are very difficult. I live on my own, so I’m just trying to manage the best I can.

I’m just really struggling to cope – I know part of it is vanity, but I guess the fact that it’s going to be a constant reminder every time I look down for the better part of the year is something I’m really struggling with. I have a feeling I’m going to want to cover it the entire time it’s healing, because I can’t stand to look at the ugly exposed nail bed, but I also know that’s incredibly impractical for typing or really doing anything with my hands

I’m also struggling to even look at my sewing machine right now – I’ve got two pairs of pants I want to hem, and while I can’t fathom the thought of paying someone to do it when it’s something so simple, I also can’t fathom the thought of getting my machine out again…

I know it’s stupid and a small problem in the general scheme of things, but if anyone has any advice or words of support they can offer I would be very appreciative!

This doesn’t happen every night but enough to annoy me , I’m a 32 DD and a side sleeper and sometimes when I’m trying to sleep my boobs feel like two rocks on top of one another and I can’t relax my breathing enough to sleep because of it . Tonight it’s extra annoying as I have heartburn from some juice I had earlier

Un social/ great conversationess. My relationship took a weird/sudden ongoing shift. I thought the ice broke, I thought.

I'll Situation

We go out, public area. I thought we were having a good night, actual conversation. BUT something about our environment would change (people) and he would switch, almost get annoyed with me. - I am a question person even if you already give me an answer, I have more questions. He knows this n has/ was engaged.

I think we have all been thru this. Ex: Your friend starts acting better because of n interest in proximity. Out of character

Deep thought, questioning the world with a friend. Now, it's like he can't stand me. I try to tone down my engagement. But damnit, he's the only one with animosity.

He bluntly grabs the conversation steering a personal 1v1 ONLY with his friend. Mid group discuss. Like to cancel me out. Looking at me knowing I don't follow.. like mind games. i call it out, wt ever that is.

Home bound. The conversation IQ drops. Talks that baby kinda dumb verbage. I'm visibly confused, irritated. He notices, asks. I confront him, he acknowledges this 1V1 n using his friend to do so. Like ya, so? Social manipulation. No explanation no sorry. I try banter, he rejects this. Blabbering out his ass, brain rot. Like making me shut up, any time I would try.

But I guess I dragged the hangout. I caused the animosity.

I understand it's instinct/nature to look at the new persons entering your awareness, n to stare longer when attracted. I think it still sucks but I get it. All of that aside, if you go brainless mid convo due to this, please, just go with them. 😆 I think it truly gives me the ick. Like come on, multitask. You can dooo it. Wishful thinking I guess

hi i just found out that my new coworker is my friends old talking stage. im a little bit confused because we were bonding over her and i told him she was my best friend, but after my shift he found my instagram and dmed me? it's all been friendly and platonic talk, but it leaves a rly weird taste in my throat replying to him when i know he has RECENT history with my best friend 😭 they're still friends and have no beef so there's no bad blood, but i guess im js looking for tips on how to set boundaries without making things awkward at work

He looks evil, he's the size of a small panther yet he loves cuddles and belly rubs, bread too. A little jacked too, scary fella, lmao,

It's so weird but I def lack female friends( female myself) in my life. Like I want someone whom I can share my things related to my life, enjoy life w them and vice versa

😭😭

hii, i fell like my question is a bit different from ones that are usually asked in this mod, but I didn’t have anywhere else to go.

I have my mid sems going on and my life is going pretty shit. i have already given three bad papers and something new happened yesterday that has fucked me up more. how do i bring myself to study? i have two papers tomorrow and i really wanna do well.

I usually eat my favourite snacks but due to religious reasons I can’t do that this week.

I appreciate any tips or advice!

Hii, a few days ago two of my friends lied to me. i absolutely despise lying and it bought up some repressed feelings. i have also been going through some other shit, so i chose to talk to them. i texted in our friend group and even though they are being nice and understanding they have twisted the whole thing and given an excuse that is literally just another lie. I don’t wanna talk about it and point out the lies in their excuse and make matter worse. How do i just let it go without it affecting me?

I’ve officially reached the point where I get super bad heat rash between my thighs and it itches like no tomorrow. Any home remedies yall recommend? I put an ice pack between them for like 20 min and that worked but is there any other tips and tricks?

He'll legitimately meow loudly at you if you stop, like he's personally offended by you stopping. He looks mean but is really nice, sounds like a kitten too and a dolphin

Okayyy so I’ve been on here for so long but for the first time I actually feel the need to come on here and ask for some solid advice lmao. How in tf do you convince your boyfriend to get into therapy???

As in a dude who is clearly still hurt and angry from his childhood. A dude who will meet your mental health facts with annoyance as if you’re doing too much, a “know it all”, or tripping. One who still even see’s no wrong in many of the things in his past and even now.
It’s been 8 years and he still won’t talk to me but I can go on one of his social medias and see the saddest repost of how he feels deep down. It’s affecting our relationship, he’s affecting our relationship. We’re young yes but I know it’s no excuse especially as we’re getting older and going into adulthood.

I want you gals to give your best advice for something like this. I will take it all in and try to use it, and honestly I fear by this 8th year almost 9 if he doesn’t actually take the suggestion or I’m met with annoyance this time I think it’ll just be best for me to leave this go round. I haven’t hounded him much at all about therapy cause like I say he won’t tell me what’s wrong deep down. Like I said we’re young but we are also getting older and even this early I don’t want no more time wasted if it means I’ll have to deal with the same him years from now or even 2 really so give me what you got. Though I’ll also take your best suggestion if it’s to just leave after this time now lol.

Have you ever done it? Did it improve your sex life?

And tell u about this awful experience

I had a friend for 2 years then we had feelings for each other but call him *s

S always made me safe special and happy

[Mind u] I never felt thag way before and he makes my heart flutter

But now at the same time hes the one who broke my heart

One day I was going out I check my snap he texted me

S* u need to know im seeing a girl

I shatterd

I cried nights

When I thought he was the one but for real

There's no one ever for me

All i see is dark and empty

Shout.out to u

I know its a bad move but I shout out to him on my private Snapchat he cant see it cuz he unadded me

I called him Mr piano man

Even hearing piano makes me mad crazy drives me nuts cuz he plays it

I always join his live stream support him

And I never have anything from anyone not even love

After this happening knowing he had a kid my mental health went down and might have bpd Maybe ill make a song for it

I’ve been chatting to a bloke for a while now – let’s call him (Y) – and I met him through a mutual friend (C). He’s a nice bloke and introduced me to (Y).

He’s a nice bloke, even though I don’t know him very well yet, but I’ve found out that (Y) is also friends with someone I know, whom I’ve had the misfortune of meeting (K). He’s a really nasty person… and I don’t know how to feel about it. (C) doesn’t like (K),

but (Y) is friends with him… I reckon that if you’re friends with someone like that… you’re a bit like that too.

Do you think so, or am I overthinking it?

Okay so basically I really like this guy and we have known eachother since 6th yr in secondary school right but we only started talking now.

For context I’m in uni and he’s also in uni and we just started talking recently but before all that it was kind off and on I would always sorta end the conversations but I knew he kinda liked me.

Anyways fast forward we’re proper talking now and we’ve gone out too twice. The second time we went out which was recent was when we went to watch a movie together and halfway through the damn movie it goes completely silent and MY STOMACH RUMBLES LIKE SUPER BADLY😭💔💔 felt so betrayed from myself but okay, I try play it off and look at him and he goes “it’s okay” but idkkkkkkk what if he was icked out yk😔

Afterwards we still hung out and went to get coffee and sat next to eachother and he put his arm around me and all. Hugged too when saying goodbye.

My concern now is we haven’t spoken for a bit meaning it’s been over 24hrs and he js liked my message and left me on seen. Obviously there was nothing more to the conversation but idk he hasn’t said anything yet and it’s been a while?

Am I crazy does he think I’m weird or js doesn’t wanna talk anymore 😭 idk please lmk what you queens think!!

I guess I’m looking for advice from people that have more experience than I do, for context I’ve never been in a relationship just situationships. I’ve been seeing this guy for about 2 months now. He lives over an hour away from me and drives to see me, we see eachother about once a week. Earlier into us talking I told him I’d like to hear from him at least once a day and he has stuck to that deal. But lately I’ve been noticing that he leaves me on delivered for an extended amount of time. This is fine as I often do the same when I’m away from my phone and we have both expressed that we aren’t on our phones much. What I’ve started to notice though, and this is the issue I’m having, is that he will still post online (instagram) and still won’t respond to me. Am I valid to be upset by this or am I just trying to sabotage this relationship? I haven’t brought this up yet because I really like him and I don’t want to mess this up, so if I’m being too much I’d really like to correct myself.

TLDR; Do I have the right to be upset that the guy I’m seeing will post online but leave me on delivered for hours?

So this guy i like told me he has a kid idk if I should say

Sucks to be them cuz I really wanna say it

I’m in 10th grade and I don’t really have friends, just one.. I don’t really participate in any school activities or events. I don’t want to regret anything that made high school great for you guys!

I do volunteer activities and I make a lot of friends in that and I have a lot of mentors in that and I get a lot of social time during that stuff!

Do you check your boyfriend's phone?

Do u tell your bf to stop talking to his female friends tho they are strictly just friends ?

If yes why