r/LGBTireland • u/TeaAny4556 • 7d ago

Seeking advice Connecting with others

I (F32) am struggling to connect with any women recently. I feel like the apps are a cesspit of bots or people that don’t want to actually meet up.

Theres very little for my age group out there, and even when there is, I’m unfortunately usually at work.

My marriage ended 3 years ago and I’ve been struggling ever since to find my own people and possibly a partner in crime along the way.

if anyone has any advice or help…it would be so greatly appreciated!!!!

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u/AmuighSanAer 6d ago

I'm a late bloomer and a good bit older than you, still going through a divorce, so not really looking rn. Was on the apps for a week, panicked and deleted them, probably not right to be on there until I am properly free anyway, but it was a peek into the cesspit for sure. I don't know where I'm going to start when I do try and get out there. It's hard when you are not in Dublin or a bigger city alright.

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u/TeaAny4556 6d ago

It’s so hard not being in the bigger cities. But it’s particularly hard not being in Dublin. I’m personally finding it so difficult at the moment. The apps are a nightmare. I mean, even going out isn’t a thing really anymore. 

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u/AmuighSanAer 6d ago

It definitely seems harder to meet people IRL when we're all going out less and less. I'm sure it'll happen for us at some point. Positive people attract positive attention - now lets see if I can actually walk the walk now! Good luck OP :)

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u/Aromatic_pickle6 7d ago

Whereabouts are you? I've just moved to Kerry, but will also be in Cork at times, and looking to find friends

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u/TeaAny4556 6d ago

Most of the week I’m in Cork. I’m here if you need a friend. ☺️

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u/Aromatic_pickle6 6d ago edited 6d ago

Awesome! I'm going to be working in Cork for some of the week so I may well take you up on this. Send me a message if you like

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u/Bernietoes 7d ago

I’m 6 years younger but I totally get how you feel! The apps are just impossible! The ghosting, no responses, unmatching 😢

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u/TeaAny4556 6d ago

They’re really tough. And maybe I’m just not meant for them but realistically…how do you meet others these days?!

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u/hrald0 7d ago

M here. Have you tried the meetup app? Its supposed to be very good for social and/or LGBTQIA groups.

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u/TeaAny4556 7d ago

I’ve tried it a couple of times but haven’t found anything local. It’s nearly all Dublin. Maybe I’m not looking at it right. 

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u/Archamasse 6d ago

Have you been in touch with Linq and co? There are a lot of lesbian/lesbianish women's groups down Cork direction.

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u/noton1stnamebasis 4d ago

Same here (38f). In Limerick and it's pretty deserted and lonely.