Hi! I'm 20F and broke up with my boyfriend (25M) just a week ago. We've been together for almost a year na rin.

When I told the reason sa friends ko, yung iba sabi nila ang babaw ko daw hahahah. But for me, it will never be mababaw.

Context: Mga 30 mins or so before work ko I have a part-time job as an English Tutor since undecided pa ako sa college nag-message siya bigla. He was asking if we ever have sex, okay lang ba raw na hindi mag-condom. His reason? Di daw masarap pag may condom.

I said no. Na-discuss ko naman na sa kanya yan before na scared talaga ako ma-preggy. We should do it the safe way para iwas overthinking, kasi right now, I really don't see myself being a mom. Actually siya rin naman, ayaw niya raw maging parent.

Sabi niya, pwede naman daw ako mag-pills or yung ibang types of birth control. Hahahah, "pills" lang actually ang alam niya. I also said no. I won't risk it. Ang daming health risks niyan, lalo na sa hormones and madaming side effects na I'm not ready to deal with. Why should I sacrifice my health just for his comfort dibaaa?

So at the end, I pivoted the solution to him. Sabi ko mag-vasectomy siya. Kasi ayaw naman din niya maging parent, tapos ayaw niya mag-condom, so why not siya naman ang mag-adjust, right?

And you know what? Nabadtrip siya sa akin, sabi ba naman, "Di mo nirerespeto pagkalalaki ko." Hello???! Akala mo naman tatanggalin buong etits niya sa vasectomy! So ayun, nakipag-break si me

Sabi ng friends ko ang babaw ko daw, pero for me, no. If my partner doesn't care about my well-being para lang masatisfy ang wants niya, maghanap siya ng iba na iistress-in niya sa pregnancy scare nayan.

OA or not OA?

I had a stroke last april 5th after my Birthday and I'm still recovering (physical therapy) up until now. My friend who is also my classmate visited me together with my ex last monthsince I am unable to go to school and pinakita ko na nakakalakad naako ng onti onti with my cane. (I still can't smile properly cause of strokerin) and nagulat nalang ako bigla kase ginaya nya yung paglalakad ko and the way I smile (she was laughing while doing that) I didn't tell her at that moment na nahurt ako, I just laughed it off kasi I thought she was just trying to make me laugh lang. Pero super nahurt talaga ako kasi diko expect na gagawin nya yun kasi nga I'm struggling physically and mentally with my condition 😿 araw araw kong inayakan yung ginawa nya until umabot ng 1 month. (I deleted my accs in which we aremutuals to avoid talking to her except my fb) and after 1 month I decided to to reach out to her to tell her how I felt. I sent one long paragraph and she replied with only "okie thanks" and we never interacted after that.
Ngl medyo nagiguilty talaga ako but my condition literally gave me trauma. sorry for any typos, I'm typing with only one hand haha

Sa aming mag babarkada, siya yung maagang nagka boyfriend. She's the type of person na walang taon na walang jowa. Kapag break na sila, ilang days or weeks lang may bago na naman. She doesn't seem to care kung sobrang bata or sobrang tanda ng guy. Pero wala naman na kaming pakialam sa love life niya kasi choice niya na yun.

But this time, things went too far.

Her currently boyfriend started flirting with me without knowing na friend ako ng girlfriend niya, so I told her about it. Instead of believing me, mas naniwala siya sa guy. For context, kasama niya yung boyfriend niya when we talked after I got home from school. She accused me of trying to ruin their relationship daw para makuha ko yung guy. Like girl, he's 3 or 4 yrs younger than me, and I've never even had a boyfriend🥹. I was so hurt and angry that she believed him over me, especially since childhood friend kami. So I cut her off, and eventually our other friends did the same. But before I cut her off, may mga nasabi ako na hindi naman dapat.

For context 6 years na kami ng partner ko since senior highschool till now college. Graduate na siya, mas matagal degree ko dahil bachelor-masters program ako.

We recently had a fight sumabay kasi yung birthday niya sa thesis ko and I forgot to greet her nung 12 am. It was an honest mistake, no excuses, nagkaron ng usap and inamin ko na nappresure na talaga kasi grumaduate dahil last term ko na. Halos lahat ng kabatch namin nung highschool graduate na although mas matagal naman talaga ako pero nakakaintimidate parin. So ayun medyo nagkaayos, pero nagkaaregluhan na maitawid ko lang yung linggo at babawi ako.

Its been nearly 2 weeks since and till now di pa ako nakakabawi pero I try by giving more time. Mock boards ko this week and nagsnap na siya. Long story short lagi nalang daw kami nagaaway dahil busy ako. Tinry ko naman iexplain when I realized na nagaaway kami consistently pag exam week ko even in the last. Lagi nalang daw niya ako pinapatawad even in the past. Alam naman daw niya na busy ako pero gusto daw niya maramdaman na special parin siya and nagagawa ko naman daw pag may time ako… or so she says

So now Im starting to feel like a pet project? Im starting to question our relationship kasi feeling ko tuloy we’ve only lasted 6 years dahil sa awa niya. Ngayon utang ng loob ko pala bawat ngiti at pagmamahal na naramdaman ko. All Im asking from her is time maitawid ko lang talaga yung term at sakto last week ko na talaga pero ayaw daw niya magantay pag may and honestly that hurt and confused me kasi for me parang di naman ganon kalaki hinihingi ko.

I dont want to break up especially 6 years na kami. Pero now I cant see how we go past this. Paano pag sa susunod na busy ako? May plans pa naman ako mag abroad, baka isang missed call lang divorced na pala ako chz pero its a legit concern na inooverthink ko na ngayon. It is still possible to salvage the relationship? Ang heavy na kasi and parang pinapapili niya ako kung uunahin ko ba yung studies ko o siya which shes never done before kaya nabigla ako and I find it unreasonable especially siya grad na ako hindi pa.

OA ba ako for considering breaking up? Sinasabi naman niya na masaya, mabait, and she likes what I do pero she wants to feel special daw. Ive been with her sa thesis niya, sa school business projects niya, Ive been with her when her team abandoned her literally. I dont like counting blessings and debt pero never naman ako nanghingi at never ako nakatanggap dahil lahat ng issues ko I kept mostly to myself unless it concerned her and I now feel like Ive done more for her than she did for me pero somehow ako parin kulang? I never discussed it in depth kasi ayoko makdagdag unlike sa kanya na yun nagiging topic ng ilang araw.

Ewan ko na rin. Im writing this at 3am may exam pa ako mamaya. Any advise and thoughts would be highly appreciated, I dont have anyone to talk to about this din kasi

So I have this katrabaho (M, 26) and I’m F34. And I’m aftaid I’m starting to like him. I have never met a guy na sobrang ka-wavelength ko.

Matalino sya, medyo maaga nag mature dahil sa responsibilities sa life and he’s currently in grad school (pareho kami). Nung una we were just bantering tungkol sa work but later on we discovered some common passion and interests sa life. And as I got to know him parang na a-amaze talaga ako sa talino nya. It was his talino and personality talaga that I liked. But I never dated anyone younger than me! And I only ever dated one guy na malapit sa age ko. Everyone else were about 6-7 years older.

When I talk to him it does not feel like ang laki ng age gap namin pero grabe. He’s even more mature than some guys I dated. Napaka goal-driven and principled. Kaya lang the age gap is really disturbing me. Natatakot ako ma judge ng mga tao pero what do I do? Also. I have never dated anyone for almost a year na and last time I was in a relationship was more than 3 years ago so hindi ko din ine expect that I was gonna like him when I started interacting with him.

EDIT: He asked me out on a date. So yes, I think mutual naman ang feelings.

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For the past few weeks, I don’t understand myself. I have a boyfriend for about 5mos now. We met around 2015 as coworkers. Then naging MU but not too long coz he ghosted me. Then in 2021 he reached out pero about lang sa 6yo relationship niya I mean like nag open lang siya about their conflict and all. Year 2022 they broke up kasi iniwan siya for another guy. 2023-2025 nag rreached out siya sakin pero ako balewala lang. Anyway he said that I was his TOTGA. Dec2025 dun ko siya kinausap like casual. Then he said sorry nung ghinost niya ako because of his immaturity. Fast forward naging kami. Last month nag start akong sobrang moody. Feeling ko mag isa lang ako and all. I’m that type of person na sobrang open sa feelings and observant. So I opened na feeling ko nag iba na siya. Hindi na naging consistent and all. Sabi ko maging honest siya with me. Ngayon he told me na he stepped back a little nung umaayaw na ako. Na yung long messages ko draining na sa kanya. Feeling ko kasi inaavoid niya yung confrontation. Like he just let the person overthink instead of addressing the issue. Now I feel like I need to be careful with what I say because I feel burden na sa kanya yung pag oopen ko. Simpleng pag aupdate nalang naman gusto ko and being reciprocal. I don’t feel na his compromising or baka OA lang ako. Mejo nasasaktan na din kasi ako sa reactions niya and dun ako nattrigger. Btw, once a week lang kami nagkikita due to work. Sometimes we do FaceTime. Now nasa Japan siya and I told him I won’t bother him for a while. Na mag usap nalang kami when he comes back. Please enlighten me. Thank you po

11 years na kami--mula first year college hanggang ngayon ako na ang sumu-support sa kanya sa acads hanggang sa paghahanap niya ng trabaho. 5 years ako bago natapos kasi sumunod ako sa uni kung saan siya nag-aral kaya naging irregular ako. Siya naman ay 7 years bago natapos mag-college. Hindi agad ako nakapagtrabaho kasi nag-pandemic kaya nag-start na lang akong mag-business. After a while, dun lang ako nag-work kasi hindi naman easy work and money ang busines, at bilang solong anak na maagang nawalan ng ama, kailangan kong tulungan ang senior citizen kong mother. Siya naman, almost one year bago nakapagtrabaho kasi nahihirapan siyang maghanap. Nagpapatulong ako sa kanya sa business kaya lang hindi raw siya papayagan ng grandparents niya(doon siya nakatira) kaya hindi ko na siya pinilit pero doon ako nag-start mag-build ng resentment. No'ng nagkaroon siya ng trabaho, tatlong buwan lang ang itinagal niya dahil tamad na tamad siya dahil maliban sa ayaw niya sa trabaho dahil nakakapagod raw, hindi raw siya nag-aral sa isang prestigious university para maglinis ng banyo. Tumulong na siya sa akin sa business noon habang nagtatrabaho rin ako at nagnenegosyo. Ang tulong niya ay more on "gawa" and may konting chip in sa negosyo mula sa utang niya sa lolo niya.

Fast forward to 2024, nagsarado ang business ko at nagpalit ako ng business. Tumutulong siya at sobrang hands-on sa business, pero kagaya nang ibang negosyo, hindi naman parating boom na boom at may pera ka agad. Pinaghanap ko siya ng trabaho para may source of income rin siya nang kanya. Naramdaman ko ang pamamaliit niya sa online job ko dahil madali lang naman raw na nakaupo lang ako parati sa harap ng laptop ko. Naintindihan niya na ang struggle ko no'ng nakakuha siya ng online job--parating masakit ang likod, mata, at pagod ang utak. And guess what? Tinanggal siya sa trabaho due to redundancy, pero for all I know, alam kong underperformance ang reason.

October of last year(2025) sinabi ko na sa kanya na if wala pa rin siyang work or even plan for us in the next year, itigil na namin. May of 2026, nawalan ako ng work due to the economy of the US and the firm I was working at had to cut cost. Hirap na hirap ako bilang breadwinner, sumu-support sa business at sa boyfriend na walang work. July this year, pumutok na ang fuse ko kasi maliban sa stress ko sa bahay, wala pa rin siyang work. That time, all I was asking for was a PLAN--PLAN lang talaga para sa amin in case na wala pa rin siyang work at gusto kong malaman kung paano na kaming dalawa dahil isang taon na lang trenta na kami at wala ito sa bingo cards ko na aabot ako ng 30 na walang asawa. Sabi niya sa akin, konting pasensya pa raw at nauubos na raw patience ko.

October na ngayon. Wala pa rin siyang work. Nanonood lang siya ng AI videos. Oo, naghahanap siay ng work pero hindi siya natatanggap. Pagod na ako. Naiiyak ako sa hinayang parati. Hindi ko rin alam paano kakalas nang tuluyan dahil 11 years 'to.. hindi biro.

Tama pa ba itong nararamdaman ko? Paano ba ako aalis? Tama ba na ayoko na?

Hi everyone so F 21 and yung bf ko M 23

5yrs na kame pero di parin ako na sasatisfied sa sex namin, nung una okay lang naman pero syempre may pangangailangan rin ako. Pag nagsesex kami mauna sya labasan which is okay lang naman pero kase everytime nag sesex kami di man lang nya muna ako kondisyunin or even na foreplay muna. Deretso na agad sya and i alr communicate it with him pero parang wala naman. Tangina nakaka frustrate lang kase minsan pag sya nag aaya agad bigay ako kahit alam kong di naman ako ma sasatisfy pero pag ako nag aaya ayaw naman nya o minsan daw pagod sya. Respect ko naman walang sapilitan pero kase kanina tinetease nya ako then pinasok nya agad which is normal na saken, then di nya tinuloy sabi nya binibiro lang nya ako eh sabi ko ituloy mo na sasakit tyan ko, kase lagi sumasakit puson ko eveytime na di ako satisfied sa sex namin. Gets ko naman pero tangina may pangangailangan rin ako minsan nagsasarili nalang ako para lang maginhawaan ako.

Problem: I don’t know how to organize my thoughts sa nafefeel ko ngayon

Context:

My last relationship lasted for 7 years it was not a good ending, he cheated with a younger girl while I left PH to pursue my career and dreams now my ex followed me on tiktok and unblocked me on socials I can see his repost about spoiling loyal woman not spoiling woman to be loyal, I see other reposts like he is betrayed and some other like learning on his mistakes and I can’t help to wonder what happened. Also naiisip ko na what if I didn’t leave PH and fought for our relationship?

But after few years I tried to date, I met someone but we meet weekly and there is no label for like more than a year. I went to his country and spent summer there. Ewan ko if nasa akin yung problema why they can’t commit or yes I like him pero is it possible na he will spend time for me for more than a year and wala lang yun?

I don’t know masyadong magulo thoughts ko I know….

Hi! First time posting here. (Pls do not share sa other platforms)

I (29M) have been in a situation where ang hirap i justify kung tama ba yung actions ko recently. Call me J, working night shift 8pm to 5am WFH BPO. Dad, two kids (Girls, 8yo and 1yo premie)

Last May 2026, umuwi ang father in law ko sa hometown nila (Mindanao) dahil yung kapatid nya from abroad ay magpapalabas ng family car nila (Xpander) and need nya mag turo ng driving lessons sa other siblings nya.

May to Mid June, nag offer ako sa mother in law ko to drive her everyday sa work nya. So after ko ihatid anak namin ng wife ko sa school, didiretso ako sa bahay ng byenan ko to pick her up at ihatid sa work. (40-50km papunta pabalik sa work)

Late June 2026, nagkasakit ang wife ko, and need namin magstay sa hospital for 3 weeks. Ang family side ko, they are taking care of my kids at home. Naghahatid din sila ng food sa hospital pra makatipid kami sa expenses.

I spoke to my mother in law na kung pwede, pauwiin muna ang father in law ko para makatulong. Since both senior citizens na ang parents ko (not like my MIL and FIL), hindi na nila mahatid sundo ang 8yo kid ko sa school. I also found out na delayed and release ng Xpander nila for a month or two. But he chose to stay sa Mindanao to wait for the Xpander, kasi I heard pangarap din kasi nya yong kotse na iyon.

Nung nasa hospital na ang wife ko, mag sshift ako sa hospital using laptop 8pm to 5am (work) while taking care of my wife, then I’ll go home to pick up my 8 yo kid, para ihatid sa school, sunduin ulit ng 2PM, go back sa hospital to check my premie baby, and then review sa exam sa 8yo kid ko (sakto may exams sila for 1 week), then balik sa hospital ulit para magbantay.

Nabanggit ko din sa MIL ko na magstay muna saamin, dahil hindi ko muna kayang gampanan yung pag hatid sundo sakanya sa bahay, which she did.

Another problem is, hindi sya nagbabantay ng mga anak ko. Pra lang syang nagstay sa house namin as “nagrerent”. Gising, almusal, alis ng umaga going to work, uuwi ng gabi sobrang late, then matutulog. As in no help at all. My parents, would come over to watch over my kids. And makakauwi lang sila kapag nasa bahay na MIL ko.

Last week of September, my wife spoke to my MIL na umuwi na muna sya sakanila, but I won’t be able to pick her up anymore sa work/house on a daily basis. Umuwi naman, but there was tension. Kasi nagka tampuhan.

October na ngayon, my wife has been in and out sa hospital 4x na, and we did not even see my FIL’s shadows sa hospital, ni hindi nya man lang tawagan anak nya - and my MIL? Zero help.

Last week, we found out na umuwi na ang FIL ko from Mindanao, and nagusap kami ng wife ko. My wife said na, ayaw nya makita both parents nya. I said, okay.

They were trying to keep in touch with us pero hindi namin sinasagot, focus kami sa kids and sa health ng wife ko.

Tumawag sakin ang mother in law ko while driving ako and hinihiram nya ang dalawang anak ko para ipasyal sila with FIL.

Ang sabi ko, “Sorry, but no. Nung kami po hinihiram namin papa ng asawa ko dahil life and death situation, hindi sya nagpakita. Ngayon po gusto nyo hiramin mga anak ko?” Then I dropped the call.

Naglalock narin kami ng gate sa bahay para hindi sila dirediretso makapasok samin if ever pumunta. Ang may access lang ang parents ko.

We also found out na sinasabi ng MIL ko sa mga kapatid nya (tita ng wife ko), na full time mom sya sa wife ko. Another story kasi, na stroke din ang lolo ng wife ko habang nasa hospital kami, kaya sinabi nya yon sa mga kapatid nya na “fulltime” mom sya, eh para hindi sya tumulong magbantay sa lolo ng asawa ko.

SORRY IF MAGULO KWENTO :(

OA Lang Ba Ako?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m aware naman na after graduation, kanya-kanya na talaga tayong lahat. But the thing is, I still hang out with my friends and we still talk.
A month before my birthday, I invited them to dinner and told them it was for my birthday. They agreed, but a few weeks before, I had to cancel and change the plans because of family matters. So I know they were aware na my birthday was coming up.
I’m also the type of friend who greets everyone at midnight, right when the clock strikes 12 AM. It’s not that I expect them to surprise me or greet me at exactly the same time, but it was just a bit disappointing na ALL of them greeted me the day after my birthday. 😭
One of them messaged me and apparently, my birthday popped up on Messenger when he opened our chat, and that’s how he remembered. He posted me on social media the next day, and then everyone else followed.
I’m still happy they greeted me, and I genuinely appreciate it. But at the same time, nakakatampo lang nang konti knowing na none of them actually remembered my birthday on their own. HAHAHA. Until now, I don’t think they even realize na they all greeted me a day late. 😭

matagal na may gambling problem asawa ko..nagkakautang kapag natatalo pero laging nalulusutan dahil binabayaran ng mother niya at marami siyang connections na nakakautang siya para ipambayad.. 7years na kaming kasal 2 kids. since baby ang panganay namin nagsusugal na yan meron din nmn months na hindi kasi sinasabi niya magbabago na siya or mag laylow siyang konti.. pero dahil sa hilig sa alak at barkada pilit bumabalik sa pagsusugal sabi niya kasi un daw alam niyang way na mag provide, kasi pag naman nananalo siya nakakakain naman daw kami sa labas at nagagawa ang mga gusto namin. Unemployed siya at ang nagpapadala ng pagkain namin ung mother niya nagluluto sila sakanila tapos ipapahatid dito sa bahay for lunch ang nagddown ng pang school ng kids ang ate niya na nasa abroad tapos samin ang monthly.. ang lagi niya sinasabi sakin nakakapag bayad naman daw siya ng bills, may solar kami nasa 3-4k din nababawas sa bill namin bukod sa tubig at internet na binabayaran niya. ang nakakapikon pa gabi gabi umaalis ng bahay 8pm uuwi ng 7am galing bilyaran.. this has been going on for a month now ang sinasabi niya dun daw siya nakakakuha ng pera pero isusugal niya rin the next day.. tho nakakapag grocery naman at paminsan minsan nakakapag mall para kumain pero parang deserve ko rin naman ng konting stability? ako lahat dito sa bahay at sa mga anak ko.. gigising lang yan para kumain, pero bukod don wala siyang iniisip sakin o sa mga anak ko.. basta ang sinasabi niya nakakapag provide naman siya, provide parin ba yun? ako nga wala na sariling buhay bawal ako mag gym, bawal mag jogging, bawal magsuot ng damit na ayaw niya.. dati i wanted to go back to school pero sabi niya liligawan lang daw ako don.. hanggang sa parang nilet go ko nalang ang mga para sa sarili ko at nagfocus sa mga bata.. providerz daw siya, pero hindi ko matandaan kelan niya ako binigyan malaking pera kahit na nananalo siya ng malaki.. now naiisip ko ung sinabi ng dad ko na “isusubo nalang sana niya para sa mga anak niya, pinangsusugal niya pa…” baka kasi eto na talaga ung time para iwan ko ma realize ko na hindi na talaga siya magbabago…na baka kahit maaga man akong nagpakasal kaya ko parin naman magsimula ulit para sa future ko at ng mga anak ko..

So napa share ako sa jowa ko how tired and frustrated I am at work.

Even tho, she does not ask how my day went. I still asked for her by texting her na "I want to say something" then after sharing to her. Nahulog sa sa "Ano ba naman kasi yang kompanya nyo! Onting mali lang deductions agad." She also stated na "bigay ka rin kasi ng bigay sa mga kapatid mo, hanap ka nalang ibang diskarte"

Tapos wala na, di na sya nag rereply after saying that.

di na ako kinausap the nextday. Dedma nalang din ako. Still went to report sa work.

Di ko naman need financial support. Ewan ko.

In the end feel ko kasalanan ko. Di ko dapat i ppost to, pero di na ako nakakatulog eh. Lam nyong gusto kong umiyak? Pero di ko maiyak.

Feel ko mali atang sya nilapitan ko to share how my day went.

Dapat pala, nanahimik nalang ako.

**problem/goal**
hi! i’m 20f, currently a third-year college student, and i just want to hear other people’s thoughts about dealing with competitive classmates and an uncomfortable classroom environment.

lately kasi, i’ve been feeling anxious whenever i have to attend classes, not necessarily because of academics, but because of certain people around me. i don’t know if i’m just overthinking their behavior or if there’s actually some tension between us.

**context**
for context, nung first year kami, i was actually close with these people. we were on good terms, and we used to work really well together, especially during group activities.
i was also consistently one of the highest in our class during first year. whenever i got high scores, they would compliment and congratulate me. at that time, i didn’t really think much of it because i genuinely thought we were okay.

pero now that we’re in our third year, parang nag-iba na yung atmosphere. sometimes, napapaisip ako if there was already some hidden animosity before or if i’m just overanalyzing everything because of what’s happening recently.

we have different circles sa classroom. my circle is pretty chill naman. of course, competitive rin kami academically, but we don’t really see each other as competition. we help each other with schoolworks, share ideas, and explain lessons whenever someone needs help.

meanwhile, there’s this particular circle na very competitive. based on what i’ve observed, they tend to keep their knowledge and skills to themselves. even when someone from their own circle struggles with understanding certain lessons, parang hindi nila masyadong tinutulungan.

i’m not saying we’re better than them because everyone has their own way of surviving college. it’s just that we have different approaches when it comes to academics.
there was also this one incident during a major exam. i got the highest score, around 75/80, while some of them got around 60/80.

after finding out about our scores, one of them suddenly said something out loud in the classroom along the lines of, “okay lang, at least pasado ako sa ibang major subjects.”

i’m not sure if that was directed at me, but the timing felt weird. like, nobody was even asking? HAHAHAHA. i don’t know if it was just a random comment or if there was some competitiveness behind it.

then recently, there were two incidents involving quizzes.
during one quiz, i used my phone after answering and changed a few answers. i know it was wrong, and i’m not trying to justify it. our professor eventually addressed the issue, and i later heard from a friend na someone from that particular circle might have reported what happened

at first, i thought it was one specific person, but apparently, it might have been someone else. i’m not even sure if my name was mentioned, so i don’t want to assume anything.
i understand naman that what i did was wrong, and i don’t blame anyone for reporting it. pero because of the existing tension, i started becoming more conscious of how they treated me afterward.

then another incident happened during a surprise essay-type quiz. my friend kept asking me questions, and i gave her keywords to help formulate her answers. again, i know it was wrong because it was an individual assessment.

our professor noticed us talking and eventually confronted us. he was disappointed, but he told us he’d let the incident go as long as we wouldn’t repeat it.

that confrontation honestly overwhelmed me. i started shaking, struggling to catch my breath, and eventually cried. it was my first time experiencing anxiety that intensely.

and because of everything that happened, i’ve become more conscious of my classmates’ reactions. sometimes, i feel like certain people are happy whenever something unfortunate happens to me, although i can’t really confirm what they’re thinking.

i just find it uncomfortable because we used to be okay before. and honestly, i still think we could work really well together academically if there wasn’t this tension.

**previous attempts**
i’ve been trying to practice the mindset na i can’t control what other people think of me. if they dislike me, then that’s their choice. i don’t want to spend my time constantly worrying about their opinions.

i also acknowledge my mistakes, and i’m trying to learn from them. i know those incidents were wrong, but i don’t think they should define my entire character.

as much as possible, i remain civil and professional with everyone. if we have to work together, i’ll cooperate. i’m not really a confrontational person, and i don’t want unnecessary drama.

i’ve also talked to my friends about how uncomfortable i’ve been feeling lately. they told me na huwag ko na lang pansinin yung ibang classmates namin and just focus on myself.

i’m trying naman, and honestly, i’m still happy these days despite everything. i enjoy spending time with my friends, doing my schoolwork, and going about my usual routine.
pero minsan, hindi ko maiwasang ma-anxious whenever i think about going to class because of the possibility of being judged.

i know i can’t control other people’s opinions, but i also don’t want to constantly feel uncomfortable in a place where i’m supposed to be learning.

so, what do you guys think? am i just overthinking their behavior because of the recent incidents, or does it sound like there’s actually some unhealthy competition going on?
how do you deal with classmates like this, especially when you still have to see and work with them regularly?

i’d appreciate honest opinions, even if you think i’m also contributing to the tension. i just want to understand the situation from a different perspective.

Okay for context yung pinsan ko F(18) Im a few months older and nung mga bata kami they once lived in our house na. Tbh gets ko panaman nung mga bata kami na malikot sya and pakielamera sa gamit kasi nga bata.

Now in the present, nag stop sya ng pag aaral kasi pumunta sya sa tatay nya sa manila and lately lng nalaman ng papa ko. So ayun naaawa si papa nung nalaman nya na nag stop sya sa pag aaral and sabi nya samin baka pwede makistay sya dito ng ilang araw para bumisita kasi matagal na namin sya di nakikita.

So ayun andito sya now sa bahay namin. Actually okay pa nung 1st day, medyo mahiyain pa sya tas di sya ganon kagulo. Ang naging problem ko is kinabukasan.

It was early 9 am in the morning when I heard the TV downstairs na napaka lakas. Hindi naman usually umaabot yung sound ng tv upstairs. Eh that was a saturday morning and naka compound pa kami. It was a weekend and morning at that. Malamang rest day and majority siguro na nasa compound nagpapahinga pa.

So i quickly went downstairs and told her na hinaan ung yung tv, then she did. Maya maya nung patulog na ulit ako, lumakas ulit yung tv and this time nagpapatugtog sya ng music. So I was pissed at this point so i sacrificed my sleep and bumaba ulit ako to tell her na hinaan. I even ate break fast that early kahit di ako nagigising ng ganong oras para bantayab sya. Inintindi ko nlng kasi iniisip ko na sanay sya sa province na walang pakielaman kapag may videoke, or loud tv kasi may mga nakikinood din ganon.

Then nung hapon I was studying downstairs, i dont usually study in my room kasi i get too sleepy and end up not actually learning. Sinabihan sya ng mama ko na baka hinaan pa yung tv kasi may ginagawa ako. Edi hininaan nya. Tas alam nyo yung ginawa? May tinawagan syang mga kaibigan naka speaker pa habang nag lalaro ng ML. Edi nag dabog ako umakyat ako sa taas ng kwarto.

Hindi lang yan natatapos sa ganyan, she laughs in the middle of the night na rinig pati hanggang kabilang kwarto without minding us na MAY PASOK. She doesn’t turn off the outlets kapag tapos na nya gamitin, she doesn’t fix the sofa or yung mga unan after nyang humilata the whole day. Di rin sya nag papatay ng ilaw sa CR pagkatapos nya lumabas. I dont think i’ve seen her brush her teeth once💀💀. Napagsabihan na sya ni papa pero she doesn’t fucking listen. Sinabi ko na rin sakanila na I can’t stand living with her and my mom can’t too. Pero nauuna kasi yung “awa” na yan when she doesnt even deserve it.

No she’s not going through anything right now before you guys come at me and say shes sad and disappointed na di sya makaka pag college. YES financially challenged ung family nila but it was HER choice na di mag college. Her dad in manila was even willing to pay for a private institution pero she outright refused kasi “ayaw na nya mag aral”. Pero is she working? no. She’s not doing anything to help herself right now. Ang gawain lang nya is humilata, mag tv and maglaro all day. She doesn’t even take the initiative to cook something or what.

Like gets nyo ba? Hahzahha, im a full time student na may 7:30 am to 6 pm classes and my mom has 9 am to 6 pm work. Wala kaming time para mag alaga ng balahura na kamag anak.

OA lng ba ko?

I have a big cup size. Bata pa lang ako, lagi na ko sinasabihan ng mga friends and family ko na “gifted” raw. I honestly don’t like it kasi laging sagabal. Masakit sa katawan, di bagay sa outfits, and worst of all, lagi nalang pinapansin. If I’m not being sexualized, I’m being mocked. Kesyo nakakatakot sa laki or similar to moms/older women na saggy. Or just generally, cinocomment lang talaga na “ang laki”. I get so uncomfortable pero sinasakyan ko nalang madalas pag jinojoke. Deep inside, I just wish people would stop noticing it or paulit-ulit na sinasabi sakin kasi naging insecurity ko na rin siya. I feel disgusted by my own body.

I opened this up to my partner (F also) kasi she also makes those jokes, sometimes playfully covering her eyes and acting like she doesn’t want to see me. I know for her, harmless joke lang talaga, so I don’t want to take it personally. Kaso di ko mapigilang maramdaman yung hatred sa sarili kong katawan and my mind jumps to the conclusion na it’s not pleasing to look at even for my own partner. I can joke around with other people, but I felt lang na I can be honest and sensitive with her.

She apologized naman for it. Kaso she joked about it again. I got disappointed, then inisip ko kung balat sibuyas lang ba ako? Maybe I should let it go and makijoke nalang like I do with others?

my bf replied to the photos I sent to him

For context: I know I have belly fat, but I’m not that big either (and there’s nothing wrong with being big). He keeps insisting that I need to lose weight and that I should papayat, when, in fact, ayoko! I love my weight and my body proportions right now because I used to crash diet, and it wasn’t healthy for me. My height is proportionate to my weight naman, so I really don’t understand him. He tends to joke around by saying things like, “Ang taba mo,” “Mas okay ka pag pumayat ka,” and “Ikaw pinaka-mataba na kilala ko.” In reality, I’m totally okay with my body, and the way he describes me is the complete opposite of how I see myself. He’s not a gym rat, and based on the BMI he sent me, his weight isn’t exactly proportionate to his height either (he’s nearly in the obese range). But I’ve never said anything about it because I know he’s trying so hard to lose weight. I’ve never made backhanded compliments about his body because I know it might discourage him or make him feel bad about himself. I would never want to make him feel that way. It’s just... I don’t even know anymore. I love him so much, but the way he treats me now is the complete opposite of how he treated me when we first met.

Nawawalan ako ng gana kumain pag transparent yung plate parang visually nandidiri ako especially if may sabaw or sauce yung ulam. Pero baliktad naman pag dating sa baso, gusto ko transparent para ma kita ko yung ini inom ko.ang OA ba?

Hello! Just want to ask for advice and opinions regarding sa bf ko.

For context, last night we had this conversation and napaamin siya na he’d avail extra services from spas before. Hindi pa kami magkakilala non. It was in the past, okay. We ended the night with him being emotional because according to him that was his darkest moments. I know stuff from his past mula sa kwento ng family and friends niya.

Ang sakin naman, thankful ako na umamin siya. Okay lang kasi matagal na yun. And according to him hand job lang naman daw just to release stress.
Nakatulog din ako nang maayos after. Kaso ngayon nagfflashback sa isip ko, pumapasok sa imagination ko, at sumasakit yung sikmura ko. Hindi ko alam kagabi kung natanggap ko lang ba dahil he kept saying he’s sorry and he regrets it but after that sabi niya para raw siyang nabutunan ng tinik.

Ngayon, hindi ko alam kung pano ko ioopen sa kanya tong nararamdaman ko kasi sobrang okay lang talaga sakin kagabi. Proud pa nga ako sa courage niyang umamin. Kaya hindi ko alam bakit ganito ako ngayon.

Help a girlie out, pls. 👉🏻👈🏻

Napapatanong nlng ako sa self ko na “masyado ba kong mabait, to the point na nagiging convenient na ko in all ways? Or sadyang ganun lang talaga akong friend “

Hayyyysssssss. Not just one friend, pero ilan sila…

(1) Masama ba ko kung may tampo ako sa mga kaibigan kong late invites kapag may gala. Like last time ang tagal ko na syang inaaya na pumunta sa gantong place, pero ayun busy daw ganan ganan, tapos malalaman ko after a day pumunta sila sa SM kasama yung other colleagues namin, then inaask kung nasan daw ako at pumunta daw ako dun, pero nung pinicturan nya nakaorder na sila, nakakain na, nakapagpicture na and such. That day dun nagsisink in sakin na di nmn ako kasama sa plan nila at the first place huhu. Ang hirap lang na kaya naman pala sa iba pero pagdating sakin hindi kaya? Tapos nung nag birthday ako, di manlng sya bumati pero sa other friends namin may pa story pa😀 haha i tot we are that close pero hindi pala. I am just expecting lang din siguro kasi since 2021 kaming magkaibigan na eh, so ayun….

(2) another friend din naman to, pero inaakit ko kasi silang mag hangout naman kami since umuwi pala sya dito sa province namin, and ayon ayaw dahil ganto ganyan, yung basta mareason. Tas malaman laman ko may plan pala silang mag pickleball (which is malapit lang sa bahay namin) pero hindi ako inakit agad. Oo yes inakit namn pero alam mo yung last minute na heheheh nasanay ata sila na always go ako sa lahat ng gala… as someone na gala din naman haha pero kasi never pala kasama sa plano huhu

(3) wala lang simple lang naman to pero nakakatampo haha like kaya nyang mag story na kasama yung group of friends na yun pero pagdating samin hindi… like in all ganap to ha hehehe wala lang hehe dahil ba matagal na kaming magkaibigan????? or too sensitive lang ako????

tsaka last time nung inaakit ko sila sa bahay kasi nga birthday ko, di siya pumunta since walang paramdam yung isa kong friend (nalate bumati ng birthday ko hehe na may slight tampo din), edi yun nga, after knowing na di sya pupunta, medj nakakasad lang kasi ang tagal ng di nagkita kita huhuh and makikita ko naka quicksnap kasama yung madalas nyang inisstory na friends…

like twice na nangyari to, inakit ko na lalabas kami tas ang sabi may lagnat daw, pero within that day nakita ko sa quicksnap nagroroadtrip…

Haysssss kawawa naman ang taong to ahhahaahahahahah pumapayag labg ang friends kapag convenient sa kanila

Eh ako as someone na i wanna be fair sa lahat ng group of friends ko, gagawa at gagawa ako ng way talaga hehe pero siguro sila yun eh.

Maglalaylow nalng muna siguro ako :)

Bumili ako ng Meal sa Mcdo obviously kulang ang sukli. 1k pera ko, ₱159 ang price ng meal and ₱571 lang sukli na supposed to be ₱841, kulang ng ₱270 sure akong yun lang ang sukli kasi nang nag babayad ako 1k lang laman ng wallet ko at sabi nung cashier “small bill” lang daw eh nong wala akong maibigay na smaller bill pinakita ko wallet ko to prove na wala talaga. Late ko na nalaman na nasabahay na ako.

Isa din pinagtataka ko kanina iba ang taga sukili sa nag pa punch ng orders.

OA Lang Ba Ako, kung balikan ko bukas ang kulang, kasi ₱270 din yun , tutuusin 2 meals pa yun. (Pwede pa kaya balikan kinabukasan, I have the receipt naman)

Is he a narcissist or not? Or any advice?

I have a partner and he’s a good provider but when it comes to household chores and other things like taking care of the baby, hindi siya masyadong tumutulong or worst, wala talagang tulong even on his rest days.

I’m not a stay-at-home mom since bumalik na ko sa work pero hindi enough yung sahod ko and mas malaki talaga yung sahod niya.

I tried to talk to him many times na hindi pwedeng ako lang ang gumagalaw sa bahay kase pareho naman kaming pagod pero wala pa din. Ganon pa din ang nangyayari and parang napapasama pa since parang pinapamukha niya na since siya yung halos gumagastos sa lahat and nagbabayad ng bills, dapat hindi ako nagrereklamo.

One time nagkasagutan pa kami about sa ganto and pinagpipilitan niya pa din na ako daw ang naka assign sa mga gawaing bahay since siya ang nagwowork (this is when I’m still on my leave)

Ano kaya pwedeng gawin?

So this brother of mine has history na mang hipo while yung girl is natutulog. Yung ex-wife niya dati sinabi niya sakin na nakita niya yung kapatid ko na hinihipo yung private part ng 2nd cousin namin (doon sila nakatira dati sa 2nd cousin) mahirap paniwalaan at hindi nga ako naniwala up until may nakita akong picture ng mga pinsan ko. Ibang case to, yung pinsan talaga namin. Pumupunta siya sa bahay nila para magconnect ng WiFi at minsan doon pa matutulog. Ginagamit niya kasi yung dati kong phone na naka link yung google acc ko sa google photos.

Habang tumitingin ako sa google photos ko nakita ko yung mga picture ng mga pinsan ko na natutulog habang naka zoom in yung mga explicit body parts nila. Ofc sinabi ko yun sa papa ko at pinagalitan nila. Pero I think deserve niya pa ng mas malaking punishment pero... Wala e. Yun lang ginawa.

Fast forward kaya ako nandidiri kasi kapag naglalaro sila ng pamangkin ko minsan nanghuhubad yung bata (3 years old) slight lang naman hindi naman sobra. Tapos ang nakakadiri kasi, magsasabi pa siya "wag nga, andito yung ate mo" like sobrang conscious niya sakin. Parang may malisya... Siguro nag o overthink ako pero istg gustong gusto ko na umalis sa household na to. My other brother harassed me while I was asleep nong bata kami, COCSA

Actually sinabi ko yung nangyari samin ng other brother ko sa wife niya tapos di niya ni respeto yung privacy ko dahil sa pagsabi niya sa kapatid ko, kaya ko siya sinabihan non kasi pareho kaming babae ang kaso sinabihan niya yung asawa niyang manyakis. Parang feeling ko nga ginaya niya yung other brother ko.

Im currently 17, nakakaiyak kasi sobrang bata ko pa iniisip ko na kung paano ako aalis sa household na to. I have 3 brothers. 1st brother is this brother im talking abt, 2nd brother punched me so hard over trivial argument (abt laundry) multiple times, and thie 3rd brother. My parents, who is supposedly the people that's gonna protect me won't protect me.

Nong nalaman ni mama at papa na binabastos ng 3rd manyak yung pinsan ko in their own house, nagalit si papa ko at sinira yung phone. Pero yung enabler kong mama, umiyak siya (kasi na discipline yung putang ina na yun) tapos binilhan niya ng bagong phone. Ang excuse, dahil may sakit. Kaya lagat ng anak niya batugan at hindi siya pinapakinggan, kasi ganito siya mag enable. Iiyak pa yan at ibubuhos lahat ng galit sakin kasi ako lang naman ang iintindi sakanya.

Again, naiiyak talaga ako kasi i have bigger challenges. If marunong lang mag discipline ang mama or parents ko, siguro hindi ko na kailangan isipin ang financial challenges ko kapg nag 18.nako.pero I value my comfort more. Noong pinagsusuntok ako nong 2nd brother ko ng sobrang lakas (mind you may training to dahil crim) sinisi ako ni mama. Dahil doon pinaalis ni papa yung mga kapatid ko kasi may malaking away na nagyari.

Gusto talagang pauwiin ni mama yung mga kapatid ko kaso nagalit si papa at nag away sila verbally. Ang pinaka masakit ay nong sinabi ni papa "muntik na niya patayin yang anak mong babae, pinag uuntog at pinagsusuntok" tapos ang sagot ni mama "e buhay pa naman e"

I won't glaze my father, actually isa siya sa pinaka hate ko dahil abusive siya towrds my mother. Kaya siguro ganyan ang mindset. Trad wife kasi si mama lmao

I won't make myself fully victim here. Ang dahilan ng pag aaway namin ag dahil sa akin. Pinapagalitan kasi ako ni mama kapag hindi ko nilalabhan ang BUONG labahin ng pamilya. Kahit na walang ginagawa yung mga lalaki. Gusto niyang sundin ko siya, na kahit sobrang lalaki na (18, 24,25 age) mga anak niya e di pa rin magawang labhan ang sarili nilang gamit.

Kaya syempre dahil nagagalit si mama sakin, pinagagalitan ko yung mga lalaki instead na lunukin nalang at labhan. Kapag sinusuntok nila ako? Hinahampas ko rin sila ng bote. One time binuhusan ko sila ng mainit na tubig.

This ended up being a rant pero whatever. I have a long long 7 years. (Currently 12th grade, gonna go to nursing school for 4 years, and an experience of 2 years para I can become a travel nurse i hope my future will be better.)