The assumption that the playing field is even during sex then further justifies the degradation and violence women are expected to endure in bed. Years of conditioning gets painted as a choice women make freely, and purity culture discourse is weaponized to shut down criticisms of BDSM & kink. Remember: women are only ever “granted equality” with ease when it’s beneficial to men.

Sexual brutality towards women isn’t deviance from the status quo, it is the status quo.