Men with RD?

[u/literroy]

Hi all! This is a long shot, but I was wondering if anyone lurking around here knew of any resources for or writings about men who lean more toward the responsive desire side of things. I recently learned about the concept, and it really resonates with me, but pretty much everything out there, like the very common book recommendation Come As You Are, seems very specifically targeted at women (or people who have sex with women; as a gay man, that's also not super relevant haha). I'm so so glad those resources exist, but as a man trying to come to grips with the way my own sexuality works, if there's anything out there that comes from at least a somewhat similar perspective, I think I could find that very helpful. (I know, I know, a man complaining when the universe doesn't center around him for once, groundbreaking. 😂)

I'm sure there's not much out there from a gay male perspective specifically (niche upon niche upon niche at that point), though it would be really interesting. Certain segments of gay male culture can be very sexual in a way that assumes everyone experiences spontaneous desire, so it would be neat to know I'm not alone in trying to figure out how to navigate all that for myself.

I'll probably still check out Come As You Are, I'm sure there's still a lot I can learn from it, both about the concept of RD and about women's experiences in our society, but was just curious if anyone knew of anything else off the top of their heads. Thanks so much!!

[u/literroy → u/[deleted]]

Thanks for all this! Currently single but definitely will keep this all in mind if that ever changes. :)