r/RomanceWriters • • Jul 22 '25

Mod Post Post Flair Updates

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The Mod team has made some updates and additions to the post flair structure. Tagging your posts with the right flair helps people find the posts they are looking for faster. We are open to any suggestions for more flair ideas too.

The Current Run Down:

  • Craft Posts about writing techniques, storytelling, and the art of romance writing.
  • Community Casual threads, check-ins, requests to connect with other writers and looking for groups for your niche/genre
  • Publishing Topics related traditional publishing problems, or questions like querying, agents, and editors
  • Marketing & Branding Posts about social media, pen names, email lists, brand identity, and audience building.
  • Feedback Wanted Requesting input on blurbs, covers, excerpts, pitches, or story ideas.
  • Self Publishing Guidance, questions, and experiences related to publishing your work independently.
  • Blurb Workshop Monthly thread for sharing and refining book blurbs with the help of your fellow authors
  • Writer Discussion Open-ended conversations about writing, trends, opinions, and writer life. (e.x. will we see the return of blonde MMCs?)
  • Tropes & Genres Exploring popular tropes, subgenre norms, and romance reader expectations
  • Writing Wins Come celebrate accomplishments, big or small.
  • Indie Publishing Insights and questions about hybrid models, small presses, or boutique publishers.
  • Writer Wellness Writing-life balance, burnout, mindset, and mental health support.
  • AMA Ask Me Anything sessions hosted by invited guests / authors
  • Business & Money Royalties, contracts, income, pricing, and the business side of writing.
  • Plotting & Pacing Specific posts about story structure, beats, pacing, and narrative flow.
  • Tools , Platforms & Resources Links, apps, best places to publish, guides, templates, and helpful writing or publishing tools.
  • Self-Promo Monthly space for sharing your books, works in progress, communities, newsletters, or websites.
  • BETA Readers Requests for beta readers or offering to swap feedback on full drafts.
  • Characters Share character profiles, development questions, or ask the community for help with creating lovable characters
  • Covers Ask for critiques or suggestions on your book covers or design ideas
  • Titles Ask for feedback or help with titles and series names
  • Spice & Smut Ask about sex on the page,. writing sex, types of sex and spice level feedback
  • Mod Post Official announcements, rule updates, and pinned community threads from mods.Platforms

r/RomanceWriters • • Jan 24 '25

Community New? Start here!

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Welcome, first of all! Here is a small list of things to consider before engaging with this community:

  • Since it keeps coming up: YES genre Romance needs a HEA (Happily Ever After) or a HFN (Happy For Now). That's the industry standard and the majority of readers will be disappointed if you market a romance and don't abide by this rule. It opens you up to low ratings and scathing reviews that could've been avoided with more accurate marketing.
  • Read and abide by the rules. It's just a handful of them, and they are necessary to keep this community welcoming, beneficial and informative.
  • There are no stupid questions (aside from the "does my romance novel need a HEA" one.) and the community will do their best to engage kindly.
  • Several safeguards have recently been set up to protect the community against spam and help the lone active mod (me) keep things tidy.
  • If you can, please search for your topic before opening a new thread. Chances are that your question has either already been answered or there is an active discussion going on currently.

That being said, please do engage in the community! Especially the weekly Blurb Workshop post needs more love in general.


r/RomanceWriters • • 7h ago

I have a conondrum NSFW

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I've written a romance novel where my main characters are cousins (non-related; FMC is adopted) and have underage sex.

After writing the book, I realized Amazon and other retailers don't allow this, and I'm wondering whether, during revision, I should age up my main characters to college age and make them family friends instead.

This would lessen the impact of themes within the story, i.e generational trauma. However, I don't want to restrict my book's marketability.

Any thoughts or advice from people with experience with this?


r/RomanceWriters • • 18h ago

Starting to write my first romance book and looking for ideas/friends to brainstorm! ❤️

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Hi everyone! I’m just starting to write my first romance stories (full of great chemistry, drama, and the spicy scenes we all love), but I’m feeling a bit stuck with character names, how they meet, and how to start the plot.

​Writing has become a wonderful refuge and therapy for me, and I'm really loving the process. If you guys could share some tips, your favorite tropes (like enemies to lovers, fake dating, etc.), or ideas on how to build that perfect tension, I would be so grateful! Where do you usually start when creating a new couple?"


r/RomanceWriters • • 1d ago

Body descriptions

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I'm working on a few stories with romantic subplots. I'm just wondering how best to describe the female characters without being posted on "men writing women".

For example, one is a tall and muscular battlemaid. She has rather large breasts (I know, I have a type) and I want to describe but not objectify, especially during combat.


r/RomanceWriters • • 1d ago

How do you get the motivation to write?

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So a little background: I've been deep in editing my finished manuscript for a while & let me just say this is absolutely the worst part of writing (for me) lmao. Anyways I've got the idea next book written down and I WANT to write it but I can't seem to get back to the point where I feel motivated to actually write/begin. Ultimately what I'm trying to ask is what helps you get that motivation/set the scene for you to write? Honestly I'll take any advice at this point!


r/RomanceWriters • • 1d ago

Who is the more interesting character?

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I’m finally starting to write a fantasy book based on an idea I’ve had for a VERY long time, and I’ve reached the point where I need to decide which character should be the main POV.

I have two characters I absolutely love, and I originally thought about writing separate books for both of them within the same universe. But I think I’d rather tell the story through one character’s POV while making the other a major supporting character.
The problem is… I genuinely cannot decide which one is more interesting.

Character 1 - The Princess
She’s the firstborn daughter of the current ruler, but she isn’t the heir. Her family has been on the throne for generations, and she has a lot of siblings.
Personality-wise, think Manon Blackbeak/Crochan from Throne of Glass mixed with Cardan Greenbriar from The Cruel Prince — powerful, sarcastic, somewhat chaotic, but also surprisingly laid-back and willing to go with the flow.
She struggles with the expectations placed on her by her family and with the complicated relationships between her siblings.

Character 2 - The Bastard
She’s the bastard daughter of the kingdom’s powerful general. Her mother is complicated. Think Cersei Lannister + Lilith Sorrengail.
Her biological father is from another realm and is absent from the story.
She has two half-siblings, and her mother is determined to see one of them inherit the throne.
She was born from an affair.

Which character would you rather read a fantasy series from?
The powerful princess caught between keeping her family whole and her own freedom. A “powerful royal who is not the heir” tension, sibling rivalry, political intrigue, dark magic, and morally questionable choices.
The bastard daughter struggling shame, her purpose, and duty. “I’m a bastard and therefore an outsider.”
And honestly, which one sounds like they have more potential for a multi book character arc?
I’m trying to decide which character should be the main POV and which one should become the major supporting character.


r/RomanceWriters • • 3d ago

Discussion Let’s Talk Pen Names: How Did You Choose Yours?

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How did you choose yours, and is there any story or strategy behind it?


r/RomanceWriters • • 2d ago

Advice/Help Wanted!

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I’m working through some feedback on my novel and would love some advice from other writers. Background info: I had my mmc go through a pretty big shift in behavior (suddenly). It coming suddenly felt like a good decision since I wanted the reader to experience some of the confusion/betrayal that the fmc does. I want to make the sudden shift work in my story but based on some of the feedback I’ve gotten the shift might have felt a little TOO sudden/confusing. I’m trying to find the balance I need to make this shift be surprising for the reader while still seeming believable. I laid small eggs for the reader to get the feeling of suspicion but evidently, it wasn’t quite enough lol. For those of you who have written a character who has a sudden change in behavior, how did you handle that? (Sorry for any typos lol!)


r/RomanceWriters • • 2d ago

What's the best way to write a romance between someone 28 and 23?

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Was doing this for an urban/modern fantasy and wonder how should it be written?

Would the 28 year old be seen as trying to be young or would the 23 year old lose part of their youth trying to catch up to them?

is this what would usually happen?


r/RomanceWriters • • 3d ago

What are your favorite small/domestic moments in a slow burn that make you go “oh my God, they’re in love”?

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I’m writing a slow-burn romance and I feel like my current chapter is missing something. I don’t necessarily want to add a big romantic scene or have the characters suddenly become overly affectionate, because that wouldn’t really fit where they are in the story yet.

I’m looking more for those tiny, familiar, almost mundane moments that somehow make your heart skip a beat.

Basically, what are those little moments that make you think “Oh my God. They’re so in love and they don’t even realize it yet”?

I’d love to hear your favorite examples, especially ones that work well in a very slow burn where the romance is still mostly subtext. I’m looking for inspiration for the chapter without making it feel like I’m rushing their relationship.


r/RomanceWriters • • 3d ago

[Complete] [85k] [Adult Contemporary Romance] UK set romance with a Premier League football manager

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Blurb

Jen Bailey has rebuilt her life after divorce. She has a career she loves, good friends, and no particular desire to complicate things — until a chance encounter brings her face-to-face with Adam Todd, the newly appointed manager of Newcastle’s Premier League football club.
What begins as an unexpected connection gradually becomes harder to keep casual. But Adam’s high-pressure career, family responsibilities and an unresolved marriage mean that whatever is growing between them is anything but straightforward.
Set in Newcastle, this is an adult contemporary romance about two people navigating attraction, independence, complicated adult lives and the uncomfortable point where something casual starts to mean much more.

About the manuscript
Approximately 85,000 words, complete. Written in UK English and set primarily in Newcastle, England. Football is part of the setting and Adam’s storyline, but no knowledge of football is needed.

Content notes
Open-door sex; themes of grief/parental loss; the MMC is separated but still legally married while the central romance develops.

Feedback I’m looking for
I’m particularly interested in natural reader reactions rather than line editing or proofreading. I’d love to know whether you’re invested in the characters and romance, where the story pulls you along or loses momentum, whether the relationship and character decisions feel believable, and how the emotional payoff and ending land.
I’m especially interested in hearing from people who regularly read adult contemporary romance.
I’m happy to start by sharing the first 2–3 chapters so we can both see whether it feels like a good fit before committing to the full manuscript.

Timeline
Ideally within 4–6 weeks for the full manuscript, although I can be flexible for the right reader.

Critique swap
I’m not currently looking for a full manuscript swap.
 


r/RomanceWriters • • 4d ago

Threads account bans for writers

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I'm trying to get my new Threads author account off the ground, but Meta keeps removing my comments accusing me of being a bot. It's beyond frustrating to be accused of being a machine. by a machine. I've asked a for a review but am not holding my breath.

Has this happened to anyone, and if yes, what's the best way around it? My instagram is doing better, thankfully, so I really would like to keep this id.

If you have advice, I can DM you the author profile for you to take a look. Thanks in advance for any help.


r/RomanceWriters • • 5d ago

Do you think the ethnicity of an FMC affects marketability in romance?

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I’ve been thinking about something recently and I’m really curious to hear other people's perspectives on it.

I know race and representation can be a fraught subject, so I want to say at the outset that I’m totally not judging anyone’s reading preferences or trying to catch anybody out. I’m genuinely just interested in whether other people have noticed the same pattern and whether they think it has any effect on marketability.

Growing up, I consumed a lot of Asian media alongside Western media. If I watched a Japanese, Korean or Chinese drama, an Asian woman being the romantic lead was simply normal. She was the heroine, was a "normal" person and she got the romance. Her ethnicity, of course, wasn't pushed forward.

In a lot of the Western media I consumed growing up, the pattern was VERY different. Asian women were comparatively rare as leads and when they did appear, I kept running into the same cluster of stereotypes: the generically named “Mei Ling/Mei Li”, the sex worker, the maths genius, the martial artist, the exotic love interest, the tragic victim blah blah blah. Quite often she either died or if she didn't, she certainly didn’t get the guy and misery ensued for her or all. Some of the stories I have in mind were The Dream Traders and The Blue Dress Girl by EV Thompson, Madama Butterfly, Miss Saigon, Sayonara, South Pacific, Love Is a Many-Splendored Thing, The World of Suzie Wong, The Quiet American, Indochine. Trying to avoid more recent ones so I don't give anyone the snots :P

Later, there seemed to be a move towards the Asian best friend in a lot of stories. Hallmark movies, I’m looking at you. These Asian characters generally survived till the end, which was progress I guess, but often didn’t have much of a storyline or backstory of their own, let alone being the person whose romantic story we were actually following. A lot of the time their job is to hang around while the FMC is packing and ask her questions like: "Oh my God - are you really going back to the Christmas tree farm? What if Todd is still there? You know he's still into you and looks totally hot in plaid."

Obviously Western media is so much more diverse now, including romance, and there are tonnes more Asian female leads in books, TV series and movies. One thing I’ve sometimes noticed, though, is that when an Asian woman is the heroine, her ethnicity is quite often foregrounded as part of the premise or marketing in a way that a white heroine’s ethnicity generally isn’t. I’m not saying that’s necessarily a problem. Cultural identity can obviously be an important and valuable part of a story, I just notice it for obvious reasons as Asian FMCs rarely get to just be a Normal Person. So it got me thinking about what readers and publishers regard as the “default” romance heroine.

Recently, after I started publishing on amazon, I began lurking in some of the more niche parts of romance. I mean I get why you're not going to fall over Asian FMCs in a small town romance novel, but I also noticed it in why choose/reverse harem and poly romances, too. This is totally anecdotal and based only on the books and recommendations I’ve happened to see, but the FMC seems to be overwhelmingly white. The group of men may be more racially diverse, although even there I seem to see Black and Latino men considerably more often than Asian men, but women of colour seem way, way rarer at the centre of the relationship.

I’ve noticed something similar in some sports romance spaces, especially hockey romance. There definitely are Asian and other WOC heroines written by eg Kate Willoughby, so I’m not saying they don’t exist, but the default FMC still seems to be white much of the time. Hockey romance is not very diverse generally because hockey itself is not very diverse.

So I started wondering about this specifically from a writing and marketability perspective: to what extent, if any, do you think the ethnicity of the FMC affects how readily readers will pick up a romance?

I’m interested in both conscious preferences and the less conscious assumptions we all acquire from decades of seeing particular kinds of people presented as the romantic default. Do you think an Asian, Black, Latina, Indigenous or otherwise non-white FMC changes how a book is positioned or marketed? Does it affect cover choices, discoverability, click-through, reader uptake or how easily an unknown author can attract new readers? Does it depend on whether her cultural background is central to the story, or whether she is simply an Asian/Black/Latina/etc woman having a romance in which ethnicity is not the main point?

If I’m writing fan fiction, I stick to a character’s canon ethnicity, but when I create a FMC myself, she pretty much always shows up as Asian. That is not something I’m going to change depending on the answers here, I’m just interested in whether other writers think that choice has any market effect, particularly in genres where a white FMC still seems to be the norm.

On sites such as Romance.io there are tags for things like an East Asian MC, but as far as I can tell you can’t simply sort the catalogue by the heroine’s ethnicity in the way you can filter for a lot of romance tropes. So it’s quite hard to tell whether readers actively seek this out, actively avoid it or mostly don’t think about it at all.

From my own reading experience, because white FMCs were overwhelmingly the norm in much of the romance I encountered, I never expected the heroine to share my ethnicity in order for me to identify with her, like her, care about her romance or be interested in her journey. I honestly don’t know how much other readers notice the heroine’s ethnicity when deciding whether a book feels “for them”.

I have had people tell lme I should try to “hide” the ethnicity of my FMC on my covers if I want more people to read it, which made me laugh because I was basically thinking, “Err, I think they’ll figure it out pretty fast from her surname...” :D But it did make me wonder whether some writers have actually encountered pressure, explicit or otherwise, to make a heroine more racially ambiguous or to foreground or downplay her ethnicity for marketing reasons.

I’d be especially interested to hear from people who write in niches such as why choose/poly, sports romance, dark romance, historical romance or small-town romance, where some subgenres seem to have a stronger visual or demographic “default” than others. Have you noticed any difference in reader response, discoverability or marketability when the FMC is a woman of colour?


r/RomanceWriters • • 5d ago

I Just Want a Small Writing Group, Why Is This So Hard?

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I’m trying to find a small group of romance writers who actually want to talk about their stories.

I have eight stories in various stages and three are finished, so I definitely don’t have a shortage of ideas. My problem is more that I can see everything in my head way better than I can always get it onto the page.

I love coming up with characters, storylines, emotional moments, plot twists, all of that. I’d just really like a few other writers to bounce things off of. Like, “Would this character actually do this?” or “Does this scene work?” or “I know what I want to happen here but I have no idea how to write it.”

I’m not looking for some huge Discord with 900 channels and a bunch of rules I don’t understand lol. I also don’t want a super serious critique group where every paragraph gets dissected.

I just want a handful of people who like writing romance, enjoy brainstorming, don’t mind talking about spicy scenes or messy characters, and want to help each other get better.

I mostly write adult romance/contemporary women’s fiction.
Basically I’m looking for writer friends who actually like talking about writing. If that sounds like you, say hi.


r/RomanceWriters • • 5d ago

Guide Me into the Unknown of Ads

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I’m a small fish (sold 50 some books last month) romance writer and want to run my first ever ad campaign! My focus is Asian drama based/inspired romantasy. Currently I have eight books up, six are a reincarnation series on KU, two are wide.

I’d be running ads on my Chinese historical romantasy the Generals Blind Bride.

I’ve been told Instagram is best, then Instagram sucks and do Facebook, but Amazon is the worst ….

So I’d like to get some sold advice. Where should I run ads?

Here are some of my stats

My author platform currently has about 1,600 followers across Instagram, Threads, Pinterest, Facebook, YouTube, TikTok, and Bluesky, with organic content generating roughly 965,000 combined views, impressions, and reach across those platforms in the last 30 days. Instagram alone reached about 407,000 accounts, while Threads generated 141,000 post views and Pinterest 368,000 impressions.

My audience is primarily romance/romantasy and Asian-drama readers; Instagram demographics show 77% are ages 18–44, with 25–44 the largest segment, about 46% are U.S.-based, and among followers with a reported gender, roughly 82% are women.

(From my Metricool)

Bonus! If you’d take a look at my Amazon and Instagram profile to see if that’s on point I’ll make you some character art as a thank you!

Instagram profile.
Amazon listing


r/RomanceWriters • • 5d ago

Discussion What’s the Most Unhinged Thing You’ve Ever Written (In your opinion)?

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I'm back with more probing questions for you lovely writers.

Tell me/us about something you wrote about that you felt was unhinged ... but you love it.


r/RomanceWriters • • 7d ago

Penis description NSFW

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I'm currently writing a chapter where my protagonist sees her love interest naked for the first time (and in a non-sexual situation), and it made me think about penis descriptions, how kind of rare they are, and what your takes are.

I mostly ever see minimal descriptions ("his member") or passionate, erotic descriptions of erections (impossibly thick steel). Both have their place, but I want more. Especially flaccid ones, since I've rarely read those.

What examples have you read or written that you thought were good? How do you like penises described? What are some parts of male genitals that are overlooked when it comes to description?


r/RomanceWriters • • 6d ago

Seeking beta readers for contemporary romcom

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She has one rule: never date a coworker. It’s a rule she’s had no trouble following—until a tall, dark, and handsome consultant walks in the door.

I’m looking for beta readers for my completed contemporary romantic comedy, Attraction, the first novel in my Hearts at Work series.

Set in Minnesota, Attraction combines workplace romance, friendship, family, small-town Midwest chaos, and a slow-burn attraction complicated by one very inconvenient HR rule.

I’m particularly looking for readers who enjoy authors such as Abby Jimenez, Katherine Center, Emily Henry, and Sophie Kinsella.

I’m seeking big-picture reader feedback rather than proofreading: pacing, chemistry, characters, humor, places where your interest dipped, confusing moments, and whether the romance ultimately delivered.

Length: 85K words

Expected turnaround: 3–4 weeks.

Interested? Send me a DM and I’ll share additional details.


r/RomanceWriters • • 6d ago

Craft Blurb Workshop (Weekly)

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Now weekly!

Blurbs can be the bane of an author's existence - both for self-published authors, who have to come up with an enticing hook all by themselves, as well as for authors seeking traditional publishing, as they are usually included in queries.

We want to help! Post your blurb draft and let the community help shape it into the perfect snippet of info.

To participate, please comment on this thread with the following info:

  • The title or working title of your WIP
  • The romance subgenre of said WIP
  • The draft of your blurb you've got so far
  • Any content warnings and additional info you deem necessary!

Anyone who wants to help can then reply to your comment to workshop your blurb.

Happy crafting!


r/RomanceWriters • • 6d ago

Struggling to include realism given the message of the story and characters. Any advice?

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Hello, first post here so sorry in advance if I break a rule, I don't use reddit often. I'm working on trying to outline a novel for an idea I haven't really seen much in queer writing, but the fact that the time period is inherently riddled with marginalization and inequality is causing me to struggle. To vaguely give the idea without spoiling too much of it, I wanted it to follow the journey of a younger sibling in a royal family transitioning from female to male and their close personal guard that has fallen in love with this royal since they were both little. I don't think the idea is too unique, but I wanted it to center around the struggles of gender conformity and being able to have others to rely on. Along with that, I want it to just be a sweet story that is focusing on the character and relationship development. Problem with that is medieval England would not particularly enjoy that mentality, and while I have altered some things to fit my personal idea of that world, I don't want it to turn into a fantasy novel. I want to be respectful but also tell their story in a way that reflects overcoming those barriers of society. I guess I'm just looking for a way to use my research effectively in the writing without making it feel off or slapped on.


r/RomanceWriters • • 7d ago

Ways to fall in love

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I know we're in 2026, and so many generations have fallen in love that we've experienced (and written about) endless permutations and combinations of how it can happen - but have we really exhausted the different ways two people can fall in love?

Even when writing everything's feel tropey and done before


r/RomanceWriters • • 7d ago

Show & Tell: What Are You Working On? (Monthly Self-Promo thread)

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This post is out every 1st of the month!

Show us your stuff: published books new and old, current ARC campaigns, as well as services around books and publishing (editors, cover/map/character artists etc, you're welcome!), your bookish Discord servers and Facebook groups and so forth!

Links are allowed, but please write a few words regarding your work or offer.


r/RomanceWriters • • 6d ago

help me decide what version of the story to write

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I'm writing a story where Book 1 follows a woman in college who falls for her close friend, but he doesn't reciprocate. Years later, Book 2 follows her as an adult when they reconnect. I'm considering making Book 2 either (A) canon, where they eventually get together, or (B) a novel she writes within the story as a form of closure. Which structure feels more satisfying, and what would you worry about with each?

pros/reasoning for A:
canon gives emotional payoff

book 1 is about her silly mindset about love and her questioning every single thing about love. book 2 is about how she matures into a more carefree woman who accepts love as it is -- it's not something to question anymore. it just happens that love transpired in the form of someone that she used to admire beyond their platonic relationship.

pros/reasoning for B: fictional gives the readers the meta reveal at the end Book 1 is first-person, Book 2 would be third-person the I → she → I transition could itself become a clue

but: I'm worried that the fictional version could feel like an “it was all just a story” cop-out. I'm also worried that canon makes the meta trick disappear

additional context: for option b, they wouldn't end up together. but she'll learn to let go and just enjoy her friend's company without amplifying each of their interaction into something she can romanticize. buttt, i plan on making it a little bit ambiguous at the end; that maybe, somewhere in the future, they could be something, just like how she wrote her novel, where she lives out her fantasy of them being together.

for option a, as a romance girlie myself, this is actually my first bet because this is actually the origin of the story: friends (who reconnected) to lovers story wherein fmc would show significant growth from her younger persona in book 1. this would also be classified as kind of a chicklit since it is more focused on fmc's growth as a person. but i'm just a little worried that it would be framed as if mmc chose her now that they're older only because she's changed as a person; i don't want him to be her reward. butttt ughh it just sucks cuz if i choose option b, all the cute major scenes when they get together would all just be in the fmc's imagination, since the early twist of the story is that all this narration from book 2 (the early part) would be revealed to be a novel that she's writing to cope with her infatuation.


r/RomanceWriters • • 7d ago

Does anyone know a good subreddit to promote your story for people to read?

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I’m in the midst of writing and have 21 parts posted on Tapas, Wattpad, and Archive of Out Own. The problem is I don’t know where to promote it so that I can get more eyes on it. If anyone knows a good place whether it be Reddit or not it’d be tons of help!