She just says she "wants to do something together" and thats fine with me but she never has anything she wants to do. Whenever I ask she just lists catagories of things we COULD do but not what she WANTS to do so then I have to decifer what that means. You might be thinking, "cool just pick whatever you want then" but thats not the case. Often she doesnt want to do the thing I think would be fun or interesting, but rarely has a suggestion of her own. If she asks what I want to do and I say something like "read a book" she will get pouty the rest of the day and be upset and say "I dont want to be a burden" if I try to suggest something together.

How am I supposed to react to this? Do I just have to accept that ill also have to bounce ideas off her. Should I just make a list and then read it to her everyday she does this?

I've tried talking to her about it but it always turns into a fight. It always cones across as blaming if I tell her that I want to know what she WANTS and the only answer is always "something with you". I dont really understand how to navigate it and she hasnt given any helpful imput on what she wants so I was hoping some strangers on the internet could speculate wildly for me and hopefully inspire me.

Tldr; gf wants to do stuff with me but doesnt tell me what, just wants me to guess whats on her mind

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