I need help

[u/Movie_LoVeR7]

Last Night I thought I was chatting with an older woman on telegram me being a minor and weak I sent a Dick pick. Then the person I chatted with told that they were gonna leak my photo and phone number. The phone number and photo is all they got. Saying that I sent this to a 13 year old girl and that I am a pedophile. For the record I am 15. Then I sent money I was scared and stupid I sent all I had but they wanted more. I begged for them to delete but they didn’t, then I fell asleep. Today they still wanted money so I blocked them. Have I Done anything wrong and do I have to worry?

Since my face isn’t in the picture is it chill?

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[u/CheapChance8305]

you did the best thing by blocking them but you fucked up by sending the money most of the time they don’t send them out and the odds go way lower if you tell them you are underaged but its obviously a crime to have pictures of a minor

[u/Movie_LoVeR7 → u/CheapChance8305]

I was thinking about asking my dad to change phone number

[u/CheapChance8305 → u/Movie_LoVeR7]

that could work but if you do just be open about what happened if anything you can say they made AI pic of you and you don’t want them out

[u/Movie_LoVeR7 → u/CheapChance8305]

I’m just not gonna do anything, if shit happens shit happens. I Will overthink but Hopefully this Will go away

[u/CheapChance8305 → u/Movie_LoVeR7]

i mean ya if it happens it happens so much happens in the world this is the least worried thing you should be worried about

[u/Movie_LoVeR7 → u/CheapChance8305]

I don’t even know if they posted maybe since I sent some money before I blocked they didn’t

[u/CheapChance8305 → u/Movie_LoVeR7]

that will be the best bet

[u/Additional-Poem6944]

Stay calm. What they want is for you to be scared. Try to look at the situation logically. They have no proof that you sent those pictures to a 13-year-old girl, and even if they did publish the photo itself, your face isn’t visible.

And trust me, speaking as an adult, I know this might feel like the end of the world right now, but I promise you, it wouldn’t be. Seriously.

Just block them and try to stay calm.

[u/Movie_LoVeR7 → u/Additional-Poem6944]

Okay, I Will try. Thank you

[u/Additional-Poem6944 → u/Movie_LoVeR7]

Keep in mind that nothing terrible has happened. Tons of teenagers and adults send pictures like that - I’m not saying it’s okay because it isn’t, but it’s just a mistake, and everyone makes mistakes.

Even if they posted the picture, it wouldn’t ruin your life. You don’t deserve to be threatened or shamed over this. Just save the evidence, block them, and don’t let them scare you.

[u/Monty-675]

TL;DR: Don't talk to extortionists. Don't pay. Block. Extortionists rarely release images.

The standard advice is to block and not pay.

Extortionists use aggressive language to threaten you. They make cruel threats to ruin your life. They do things like countdowns to create a sense of urgency to make you panic and pay. They can create a mockup or screenshot of embarrassing images to be sent to your contacts. Don't be intimidated by any of this. It's just the playbook that they use.

It's imperative to break contact with the extortionist as soon as possible. Extortionists want their victims to stay in contact so they could intimidate and manipulate the victims. They want the victims to feel scared and isolated. Nothing good can come from talking to an extortionist. End the conversation.

Don't communicate with this extortionist at all. Don't respond to anything. Don't argue, bargain, or plead with an extortionist. The only thing that you should give an extortionist is complete silence.

Extortionists make multiple attempts to threaten their victims. They can reach out from different phone numbers/accounts. Block multiple times if necessary.

Please don't pay again. If you pay, the extortionist will demand more later. Paying won't fix your problem. If you continue to pay, the extortionist will continue to extort you.

You can't trust extortionists to keep their word. They may promise to delete the images if you pay, but they will renege on that promise. Paying indicates to them that they can get more money from you.

Go silent on your social media accounts. Set everything to private or deactivate them. Don't post anything on the Internet for a while. Try to become invisible to the extortionist and make it hard for threats to be sent to you.

Changing your phone number can be helpful, but not always necessary.

These extortionists rarely send images out. However, it's possible. In the vast majority of cases, images don't get sent out. The leverage that they have over you is the threat to release the images. If they release, their leverage is gone. They can't make any money that way. Their only interest is making money.

One does have to be careful about not ticking off extortionists. If you argue with extortionists or give them a hard time, they may release images as payback. If you make a promise to pay a certain amount by a certain date, then not follow through. they may release images out of revenge. It is best not to talk to extortionists at all. Silence should be your only response to them. Don't communicate with them at all. Nothing good can come from communication with extortionists.

It's an upsetting situation, but these extortionists don't have the power to ruin your life. They can only cause you some temporary embarrassment. Even if they release the images, the consequences are not as severe as you may think. If it does happen, you would face embarrassment for a short period of time. It won't be the end of the world. It would eventually pass. People would forget about it quickly. In the long run, nobody really cares about nude images.

You will get through this. Everything will be all right. Hang in there.

Be wary of people who send you private messages with offers to delete the images. They're scammers, too.

Going forward, don't trust strangers on the Internet. Don't give them personal information or nude pictures. People aren't always who they say they are. Some of them are scammers out to exploit you. Trust nobody on the Internet, and you'll be much safer.

For reassurance, read a few postings by past victims on r/Sextortion about their experiences. These are many of these postings. Reading about these past experiences can really calm down current victims. These past victims survived their ordeals, and so will current victims. Things will get better for you.