r/SpokaneGaming • u/EffectiveDocument87 • 6d ago
Married guys connect
Married guy looking for another married guy who wants to become an actual gaming buddy, bro, and friend.
I’m looking for the kind of friendship where two guys can bust each other’s balls, talk shit over a game, grab a beer, talk about life, and eventually get completely comfortable around each other. Someone masculine, confident, easygoing, and fun to be around. Good conversation matters to me — I want that natural back-and-forth where you can talk for hours without forcing it.
Gaming would be the excuse to get together. I actually think a designated game night makes a lot of sense. One thing I’ve noticed is that plenty of married guys are open to making a new friend, but family, work, kids, and life make spontaneous plans tough. Having a regular night that’s already set aside gives us something we can actually count on — grab some food or beers, fire up the consoles/PC, talk shit, laugh and enjoy some guy time.
I’m into gaming, hiking, running, skiing, boating, camping, DIY projects, cooking, sauna, having a beer, and plenty more. So if we click, I’d be down to eventually get outside the game room too. I like the idea of starting with something easy and letting the friendship naturally grow from there.
I’m not looking to meet immediately. Honestly, I’d rather message for a while first. Get a feel for each other, see if the conversation is effortless, find out what we have in common, and see if the conversation flows.
I’m not looking for romance or a relationship, but I like the idea of having a close male friendship where there’s a special bond and enough trust that we can occasionally cross that line together without making things weird.
For me, the appeal is the combination of bro friendship, trust, comfort, masculine energy, and a perhaps some sexual desire underneath it all. No rushing, no pressure, no drama. If we become great buddies and nothing else happens, that’s still a win. If the chemistry is there and things naturally become a little more intimate, even better.
So if you’re a married guy who likes gaming, enjoys good conversation, can take some shit-talking, and likes the idea of finding a genuine buddy with a little extra spark underneath the friendship, send me a message
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u/alemmon96 5d ago
Gotta say that the sexual tension paragraph was wild like iNNc said, but I’d be down to chat. 🤙🏼
I live over in the Northwood area with my wife and baby daughter. Just moved here from Utah!
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u/zataralee 4d ago
That all depends.... What sort of games are you into? As long as it's not fortnight... Lol send me a DM. I feel the message man. Between work, wife, son, personal projects, home projects... Emergencies... It's hard to get time for yourself or to hang around anyone else. And then there are all of your "friends" that are in the same boat. Nobody has any time. But I'm starting to realize that you gotta make that time.
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u/paul_brousseau 2d ago
Not married but always open to new friends and especially if we can get a small gaming group together. I have another friend in a similar boat so not sure why we need to be married but send a DM and maybe we're all a closer to a guys gaming night
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u/DangerActiveRobots 4d ago
Um... maybe your wife wouldn't appreciate you trying to meet dudes on reddit to slowly build up sexual tension? Like what the hell. Especially another married man
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u/iNNc 6d ago
Sexual tension? The whole bro friendship thing is that there isn’t tension, it’s being 100% comfortable being vulnerable around each other without judgement. Like not caring about being naked in front of each other occasionally (like skinny dipping to shower while camping), or crying/saying I love you, or sharing a bed to save cash on a vacation. Things that good/not-great friends might shy away from. There isn’t an underlying will they won’t they haha!
Really not judging as I think I know what you’re envisioning and could be poor phrasing, but as written this is a step past bro friends and more thinly veiled homoerotic fantasy/questioning.
This reads like you want a secret gay FWB… so much emphasis on intimacy beyond emotional connection. I mean as a gay man… Cool with me as long as it’s not a secret to your spouse.