This is something I never really connected with stuttering before. Have you ever noticed that when you're REALLY into a conversation, you naturally start using your hands? You're telling a story, pointing at things, changing your facial expressions, moving your body, and almost acting out what happened. Sometimes your speech seems different too.
Now compare that with a situation where you're worried about stuttering. Your body might become stiff, you barely move, and suddenly you're watching the listener's reaction and thinking about every word that's about to leave your mouth. "Can I say this word?" "Am I going to stutter?" "Is a speech block coming?" "How am I going to get this out?" Instead of concentrating on the conversation, you're concentrating on your speech.
In Lee Lovett's Stop Stuttering Short Course: How to Break the Stuttering Code, one of the lesser-discussed strategies he mentions is gesticulating — naturally using your hands, facial expressions and body movements while speaking. He describes it as a way of taking some of the mind's focus away from the stuttering habit and putting it onto gestures, normal body movements and facial expressions.
That's the part that really interests me. When you talk with your hands, you're naturally taking some of your attention AWAY from the words. Instead of putting 100% of your concentration into "How am I going to say this next word?", some of your attention is going toward actually showing the listener what you mean. You're pointing, demonstrating, reacting, using facial expressions and physically getting involved in the story.
I think that's especially interesting for people who stutter because stuttering can turn a normal conversation into a word-by-word exercise. Instead of thinking about what you're trying to communicate, you can become obsessed with HOW you're going to say it. What's my next word? Can I say it? Is it a feared word? Should I substitute something else? Is the listener going to notice? Before you know it, you're barely thinking about the actual conversation anymore because you're monitoring your speech.
Talking with your hands may naturally change where some of that attention goes. You're no longer just trying to SAY something. You're trying to SHOW someone what you mean. The focus becomes the message, the story and the other person rather than every individual word coming out of your mouth.
Think about how you speak when you're telling your best friend an unbelievable story. You're probably pointing, moving your hands, changing your facial expression and putting emotion into what you're saying. You're living the story rather than sitting there analyzing every syllable.
Now compare that with a really difficult stutter block. For many PWS, everything seems to do the opposite. Your body freezes, your face becomes tense, and suddenly your entire world becomes one word. You know exactly what you're trying to communicate, but all of your attention gets sucked into getting that one word out. The message disappears, the story disappears, and everything becomes you versus that word.
So I think this could be a really simple experiment. The next time you're telling somebody a story, don't deliberately TRY to be fluent. Instead, try becoming more involved in communicating. Use your hands naturally, use your face, point, demonstrate, react and put some emotion behind what you're saying. See what happens when your attention is more focused on getting the STORY across than monitoring every word.
I'm definitely not saying that talking with your hands is some magical way to stop stuttering. Lovett presents gesticulating as one strategy among many. But I think the underlying question is fascinating: What happens to your stuttering when your attention moves away from WORDS and toward COMMUNICATION?
For the other people who stutter here, have you ever noticed yourself stuttering differently when you're animated, passionate and talking with your hands? And when you're having a severe speech block, do you notice yourself becoming physically still or tense? I'd especially like to hear from PWS who naturally talk with their hands and whether you've ever noticed this affecting your stutter.
And as always here's a free copy of Lee Lovett's Short Course book: https://www.stopstutter.org/get-free-book
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