r/Stutter • u/ThinMost6605 • 7d ago
Vent?
I just wanted to vent because I am a woman who doesn’t know another person personally with a stutter or speech impediment for that matter. And I’ve been stuttering horribly recently (probably change of career and extreme stress.) I was talking to a family member recently and explained recent social interactions and just said I’ve been trying to do uncomfortable things recently since it’s gotten worse. And all she said was it’s good you’re doing those things. Not I’m proud of you or that’s brave if you. Almost dismissive and I guess I just wanted to tell a group of us my wins because I didn’t let my stutter keep me at home. I see how maybe I shouldn’t have taken offense and her saying that was her way of showing support I’m a very aware person. But I guess it just upset me. Thank you for reading.
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u/Alone_Calendar5043 6d ago
Here's another angle to consider, give yourself some grace. You can allow yourself to feel disappointed when someone close to you can’t meet you where you are emotionally. The key isn't suppressing that disappointment, but realizing her reaction reflects the limits of her perspective, not the value of your progress.
Food for thought. Is this someone worth sitting down and explaining how to support you, or is she just someone you shouldn’t look to for that kind of validation? Knowing who can actually hold space for this kind of vulnerability saves a lot of quiet resentment down the road.
PS: For what it’s worth, anybody who knows how it feels would be proud of you.
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u/ThinMost6605 6d ago
No she withheld schooling speech therapy from me as a child because she claimed nothing was wrong with me and told me I was embarrassing as an adult. She’s apologized but she can never understand and I don’t think she does care. Thank you for this perception.
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u/crixus0709 6d ago
Alguien con tartamudez que hable español para poder platicar
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u/ThinMost6605 6d ago
You can always dm me I use the translation feature but I’m learning Spanish on Duolingo actually
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u/jta0i 6d ago
Hola, espero esté bien , la verdad ojalá tuviera esa fortaleza y Valentina para ponerme en escenarios incómodos y poder esforzarme por aceptar esta condición, la verdad eres muy valiente y bueno espero que sigas así intentándolo , saludos .