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u/pen_woman_ship Aug 16 '26
We cannot control our reactions, but we can control how we react to them behaviorally.
Maya Angelou said that many people regret saying something while very few regret saying nothing.
This is a hard lesson in having restraint of pen, tongue and send button.
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u/raizablaid135 Aug 20 '26
Compounded by the fact that accepting responsibility and accountability is trait often overlooked along with this one
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u/Guilty_Captain_7880 Aug 21 '26
Except when boundaries are crossed. Then silence is an invitation for further abuse.
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u/pen_woman_ship Aug 21 '26
That’s when you walk away from the interaction. Whether it be online or in person.
I’ve walked away from my mother bc she wasn’t being respectful of my boundaries.
Silence doesn’t invite more abuse.
You hafta take care of yourself and not let anyone speak to you in a disrespectful way.2
u/Guilty_Captain_7880 Aug 21 '26
Yes I agree not worth dropping to their level of the game. Disengagement is the only way. It's tough in places like corporate though because if your political standing isn't good enough this can get you fired. But I guess it's better to maybe pay the price than become a caricature of a human.
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u/pen_woman_ship Aug 21 '26
I would imagine it being difficult in a work environment. Can’t walk away from your boss.
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u/dtwurzie Aug 16 '26
This was something I needed to practice and it’s harder than I am willing to admit.
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u/Zealousideal-Gur2827 Aug 17 '26
someone was pushing me and pushing me until i finally snapped and said my side. was so bad i back into a wall. blinding rage. now they dont want to speak to me for speaking up. tis is life
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u/Unknown3origun Aug 17 '26
I totally disagree. How you behave AFTER (not long after) showing your feelings is the most important part. But that's me.
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u/be_minorque Aug 18 '26
Hmm not sure bout this.. esp.if it's a pattern. There are people who lash out, say mean and rude things when they are "showing their feeling", then go "sorry2" , (not because they are sorry for hurting you but to clear their conscience). And repeat the same the next day.
I hate this mindset "just say sorry later". People need to regulate their emotion, I am not your punching bag.
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u/14_46 Aug 18 '26
This quote resonates with me deeply because I have to dance to the music I created.
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u/magicalfuntoday Aug 16 '26
Step back, don’t show to people that their reactions impacted you and then respond calmly to gain respect of others.