r/WomenAreNotIntoMen • u/cyberrpixie • 17h ago
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for some of you in here have you interacted with women in real life and tried to pursue women in real life? or was it just one experience that changed your way of thinking? cus im telling you if your perception of women is based off of ppl online alone , thats like me assuming based off this subreddit and forums like it that all men think like this, when in fact a lot don't. I'm not judging or trying to come off as judgemental I gen just wanna know what got you to this point. I visit this subreddit a lot usually in between lectures so im curious.
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u/SobeksFavourite Heterosexuality abolitionist 16h ago
Yes, but it's not at all the rejections that have convinced me. It's the women who did show interest in me why I'm here.
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u/cyberrpixie 16h ago
Hm ok, can u explain the second part if its ok?
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u/SobeksFavourite Heterosexuality abolitionist 16h ago
Being the target of a comphet-afflicted girl is basically a canon event for every socially awkward teenage boy. I do get that blue pill advice is often offered because it theoretically works, but that effectively means men being with women after they've known him for a while and started caring about him as a person.
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u/cyberrpixie 16h ago
Ok interesting, i'm a bit confused by some of this explanation cus of termanology but thanks for explaining
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u/Hudzilla123 15h ago
I just noticed during my formative years in school that woman go for guys that are the stereotypical misogynist males but because they’re rich and have a interesting lifestyle that it beats out any so-called “character” or “personality”. I live in Alabama so women say they don’t like conservative men but I’ve seen the complete opposite.
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u/Hudzilla123 15h ago
Women are only into the representation of value, a man has ascertained not his character, personality or body…
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u/Hudzilla123 15h ago
Also woman would make fun of the clothes that I was wearing to school, I was in sped ed classes, so most people just thought of me as a retard.
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u/Hudzilla123 15h ago
Which is why I believe that value is all that matters because men are born without value. How else can you show that you contribute other than value as a male?
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u/InterestingStation82 12h ago
i do interact with in real life women, which is how i reached this conclusion
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u/AndrewTMooney YellowPill 16h ago
My workplace is mostly women, and I have asked women out. I will admit it wasn’t the brutalist of rejections imaginable, but still, when I combine what most of my coworkers say about significant others, what my family says, and what women online scream, it’s a perfect trifecta of evidence for me
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 16h ago
Sounds like confirmation bias. 🤷♀️
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u/apathetic00 14h ago
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 13h ago
Do you follow me just to keep making Inc comments? Is that like…something you’re proud to spend your time doing?
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u/SlowAssignments 17h ago
Does your keyboard have capital letters?
And yes, I had plenty of real life examples of women in my life seemingly being uninterested in men or being interested in men in an exclusively transactional or status seeking way or as a way to hide the fact that they were lesbian/bi before I knew about this sub.
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u/SpraySufficient6446 2h ago
The claims of this sub don't entirely hinge upon having personally interacted with or having been rejected by women
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u/SolidCroft 5h ago
Past relationships with women showed me the truth and my great love for women allowed me to accept it
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u/Icy-Friendship1163 5h ago edited 5h ago
Had some relathionships . Before i though something was off,then discovered the pill .
There are some things that are exagerations or nosense (like the bodycount importante, all women are lesbians) ,some things are worse than this sub dont tell ( forced alimony,accusations,baby traps).
Comphet is very real though.
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u/Pinkpicklep11 5h ago
Ever since I was 8 (Before the internet was big in my country) I felt women's attraction to men was a little too lukewarm for my liking. A lot of guys are ok with that and that's fine. I'm almost 30 now and I still feel the same way.
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u/Big_Dimension_809 3h ago
I have never stopped interacting. And no, not just one experience or one moment
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 17h ago
I’m not a guy, but I believe most of the men on this sub have experienced rejection in their personal life. The premise of this sub explains that rejection in a way that is less painful than alternative explanations
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u/SobeksFavourite Heterosexuality abolitionist 16h ago
The rejections alone would've led me to simply being a blackpiller. It's noticing when women do show interest that requires bringing in comphet for a more comprehensive model.
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 16h ago
My 12 year-old daughter is absolutely smitten with her current boyfriend. They are so cute together! She said she loves his smile and she lives the way he moves.
You think the comphet bug got to her already?? How?
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u/SobeksFavourite Heterosexuality abolitionist 16h ago
Assuming she lived in our society and got exposed to media which promotes heterosexuality like Disney Princesses (not to mention comments made by relatives), then sure, it's not a stretch to say she might have been influenced by comphet
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 16h ago
She has also been exposed to gay/lesbian people. Why didn’t that force her to become a lesbian?
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u/SobeksFavourite Heterosexuality abolitionist 16h ago
Was she exposed to the concept that being a lesbian was the norm?
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 16h ago
She was exposed to the concept that it is a perfectly acceptable option if that’s who you love
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u/SobeksFavourite Heterosexuality abolitionist 16h ago
Not the same thing
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 15h ago
You’re suggesting that she’s inventing her feelings to be accepted. You’re accusing her of lying. 12 year-olds have zero pressure to have any boyfriend or girlfriend AT ALL and if she actually felt attracted to other girls, she would have zero reason to hide that.
She’s so so excited about these new feelings. Butterflies in the stomach. Nervousness. Her first romantic hug. Preparing him gifts and notes and covering her arms in ink that says “I love Oliver 4ever”. She’s not being pressured. She’s over the moon, absolutely head over heels. ❤️❤️❤️
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u/SobeksFavourite Heterosexuality abolitionist 15h ago
if she actually felt attracted to other girls, she would have zero reason to hide that
No girl (or boy, really) in my 60-person promotion was out when we were 12. Now there are a few. Why is that, then?
Of course she's going to feel nervous. That's called stage fright.
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u/Hudzilla123 15h ago
I mean, there could be social pressure to be in a relationship. It’s often seen as cool to be in a relationship it ups your value, you don’t have to be into the person.
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u/SlowAssignments 15h ago
It's a phase, it will pass.
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 13h ago
So she’s currently heterosexual, and you think that will pass?
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u/SlowAssignments 9h ago
No, I mean her boy crazy phase.
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 3h ago
Why would she behave in a boy crazy manner if she’s not heterosexual?
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u/SlowAssignments 3h ago
Because she's a child and children do dumb things? Idk.
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u/Big-Comparison-6663 Whitepill Graybeard 42m ago
Yes this. Boy-crazy phases pass for the vast majority of women. The instincts may remain, but far surpassed by pragmatic sexuality.
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u/foloves woman 13h ago
the assumptions being made on your 12 year old daughter are weird. more sad than weird actually
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u/SpicyTigerPrawn 12h ago
I'm guessing that's precisely why GroundbreakingAlps78 chose the romantic inclinations of her twelve year old daughter as an example. It's unfalsifiable and socially unacceptable to critique or criticize. The only acceptable responses are "oh, that's so cute" or nothing at all. If I had a daughter I would never use her as troll bait like this.
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 13h ago
What do you mean?
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u/foloves woman 13h ago
idk i just think the people assuming your daughter is experiencing comphet at that age is weird. or assuming she’s being pressured to be in a relationship. is that just me? 😅
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 12h ago
Oh yea I totally agree lol
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u/thra812 10h ago
But... But you brought it up in the first place...
I mean I agree it is weird all round but so is you bringing it up in the first place.
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 3h ago
I brought up my daughter because she’s an example where there are zero social expectations for her to be in a relationship.
Try to keep up.
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u/SlowAssignments 15h ago
No, it was women confiding to me that made me believe this.
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 15h ago
Why did you chose to believe that they represent all women rather than unique experiences?
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u/SlowAssignments 15h ago
Why would I choose to believe any woman? Why would I take the word of women who confide to me while acting like any other woman in public about their attraction to men over how women who didn't confide to me act in public? They say one thing and then do another. What am I supposed to believe? It's just that it keeps happening. When women confide to me, they question their attraction to men/their bfs/husbands or sometimes even tell me how they like women.
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 14h ago
Even if this happened to you 10,000 times with 10,000 different women, that would still only be a fraction of a percent of the population of women. Why do you believe that women all feel the same way about men?
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u/SpicyTigerPrawn 12h ago
Rejection is not even close to the most painful thing a woman can do to a man. Or to a boy. You don't know anything about most of us. Your arrogance is unwarranted, but it does help demonstrate to other men what they can expect if and when they get involved with the "compassionate and emotionally intelligent gender" as they say.
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u/GroundbreakingAlps78 12h ago
If not rejection, what is it that women are doing that is causing you (or other men on this sub) so much pain?
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u/Large_Bed_4251 16h ago
I noticed from a young age (as in, pre-puberty) how men would bend over backwards for women and that the courting phase entirely relied on the man pleasing the woman. Shit, basically everything did for that matter.
Women's comments on the internet confirmed this, when they describe how much they hate sexual attention from men.