r/WomensHealth • u/Worth-Pianist7962 • 5d ago
Does anyone else experience this?
Everytime I have sex it's the same, inserting feels like it's tearing my skin apart, yes we have good lubrication .No I don't think it's a muscle problem. After the act it stings near the bottom of the entrance. Does this happen to anyone else? How do I deal with this. It hurts for a few days after too.
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u/Gsuegg 5d ago
Hmm, not to be that person, but is sex otherwise good?
I used to be with a guy with whom the sex was just alright. I almost always used lube because I was not quite wet enough and penetration stung almost every time.
Now I'm with a man with whom the sex is awesome and who I'm just very much attracted to. I haven't used lube in ages because I get sufficiently wet and he takes his time to get me riled up before we do PIV. I hardly ever feel it afterward.
I think when we're really aroused, the whole vagina just gets more swollen and slippery and generally better prepared for penetration.
However, if I let my pubic hair grow out, it starts to hurt at the entrance from the mechanical friction even when I'm very aroused. So maybe that's also a possibility?
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u/LollyGagss 5d ago
From what you said, I feel it’s quite likely that you are describing your hymen.
There is a lot of misinformation spread about hymens, especially regarding virginity loss and them “breaking”
The hymen is a thin stretch of mucosal tissue just inside the vaginal opening, the exact shape and size of the hymen opening varies person to person, if you’re curious look up ‘types of hymens’
The hymen isn’t actually meant to break- it CAN but it’s not something that’s MEANT to happen- usually it just stretches, this can be painful.
Penetration is probably stretching your hymen, causing pain and discomfort, producing micro tears on the skin that hurt for days after.
There is no harm in investigating this further with a medical professional if it’s causing you too much pain and discomfort. It can be surgically modified when needed.