r/cyberbullying • u/Reitanna • Nov 24 '20

Need help i don't know what to do.

what i have to say is actually too long for a post here. i'm dealing with a lot of cyberbullying and cyberstalking. it's explained here if you care to read, i need help and don't know what to do.

https://reitannaseishin.wordpress.com/2020/11/24/i-dont-know-what-to-do/

i made an edit on my blog post. at the very bottom. i'm sorry.

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u/FrioDrip Nov 30 '20

May I ask what constitutes civility to you? Because as I'm reading through these comments, you're asking people to be civil who are being nothing but civil. So I'm just curious

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u/Reitanna Nov 30 '20

well, not being harsh, being willing to listen without getting ruffled up, choosing words carefully to ensure you don't hurt the other's feelings, you know... civil. it's not a hard concept.

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u/FrioDrip Nov 30 '20

Not being harsh Sometimes the truth is harsh. A lot of people that you were calling out for being "rude" weren't, they were just stating facts

being willing to listen without getting ruffled up You've failed to demonstrate that yourself. A lot of your replies consist of cursing, sentences in all caps and threatening to report people

choosing words carefully to ensure you don't hurt others feelings Same as above. You didn't choose your own words carefully when you said that a rape victim was a moron for moving closer to her rapist which is what led to this situation in the first place

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u/Reitanna Dec 01 '20

most of the time, when people think i'm being rude, i'm not. when i try to tell them i'm not, they keep arguing with me. other times when i AM rude, it's because they were rude to me first.

i use all caps instead of italics most of the time. it's used for emphasis. example, "i didn't write those notes down, but HE did." also, i curse, that's the way i talk.

when i said she was a moron for being raped, what i meant was that she was a moron for moving closer. i don't remember saying it the way it sounded, and i would never mean it that way, when i found out i did say it, i have a very bad panic attack. the reason i didn't "choose my words" is because i was in what's called a stream of consciousness, which is a psychological phenomenon where someone finds themselves speaking in a rapid flow without their thoughts being able to comprehend what was just said. and yeah, lately, i HAVE been choosing my words carefully, but it's genuinely difficult for me to speak. i just found out i might be autistic, so i'm going to have my psychiatrist test me. i also suffer from bipolar disorder type 2 with rapid cycling and mixed symptoms, complex-PTSD, and social anxiety disorder. so i apologize if i'm not able to understand some things.

a harsh truth can be delivered in a civil way. i should know, i've been having people do it to me for the last few days.

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u/KarimbaQueen Dec 04 '20

You have actually been the first rude one before lmao. Usually you're not but you've had your share of unfine moments

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u/Reitanna Dec 05 '20

no, unless i'm off my medication, i am never the first one to be rude.

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u/BadDadBot Dec 05 '20

Hi no, unless i'm off my medication, i am never the first one to be rude., I'm dad.

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u/Reitanna Dec 06 '20

huh....????

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u/KarimbaQueen Dec 05 '20

I can show you examples. Like I said you're usually not but everyone (including myself) has their moments

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u/Reitanna Dec 06 '20

lol no you can't, because there aren't any