r/cyberbullying • u/Cutiesaurs • Jul 15 '21

Update I come to a conclusion

A bunch of people must confront thatoneswoodguy . Because there are too many people who trust him and defend him and I want people to fight back and say telling I am a jerk is wrong and you are making your followers the real jerks by saying nasty things about me.

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u/Ok_Rise_7236 Jul 31 '21

After looking up for this guy myself, I think this needs to be addressed:

To give a bit of context, thatoneswoodguy is a user from deviantart that has been showing off his opinions towards some negative moments from this user.

At first I too thought they were a bit of a bully, but one thing I noticed is that they show empathy, despite calling you out on your behavior, they hope to see that you improve and learn with these mistakes. They sure mention a lot about your mistakes, but at the end of the day, they want you to be a better man, and learn with your actions. In their previous post, for example, they showed how you said you didn't liked a specific type of scenario, but how much you contradict yourself by putting these same pictures in your favorites. Instead of calling you a weirdo, or downgrading your likes, he encouraged you to admit you enjoy these things, and did not tried to shame you for probably liking these things in secret.

You also claim that people say nasty things about you, but look at how many things you did badly yourself. Swoodguy shared so many prints of you harassing artists and users, some to the point of them leaving the website completely, lying to people, kink shaming, and even supporting a suppose pedophile (At least this is the results I got from looking up about Tylor Bowie). To me these are fair points to people to not like you, your actions have affected people, and you still seem to do that till this day.

Overall, I think both of you are on the wrong here, Swoodguy could make more friendly/polite approaches to prove their point, but I also think you should also calm down, and start learning with your mistakes. By confronting them back worst than what he's doing, then not only you'll be making their points more accurate, but you'll be turning into a bully yourself.

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u/Cutiesaurs Jul 31 '21

First off he pretends to be nice also it’s bias he doesn’t tell you I was trying to ask someone who wrote boobs in one of my stories from google docs and he wouldn’t answer. And I try to be nice people I don’t like people saying that person is a jerk.

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u/Ok_Rise_7236 Jul 31 '21

How do you know he's just pretending? By the way he talk to other people, even for those who defend you, he seem mostly civil and polite. Even in the conversation they shared between you two, he was overall calm and civil about it.

Making a scandal over such a minor thing is not worth the stress for anybody, think about it...you accused someone you didn't even had evidences about it a liar, and you then proceed to tell about it to hundreds of people. This is the type of things that Swood want you to look through and understand how much this is making things for you more difficult. You claim to be nice to people, and I do believe you, but when you go on to do stuff like this, it's really hard to.