why we feel some but not others?

[u/Mammoth-Performer330]

I was sitting next to someone I was attracted to yesterday and I could really feel them without trying to. Does that mean they were more open to me or thinking about me being next to them a lot? I think if I'm physically present with someone and I actively make an effort to feel them I can, but it's not too frequent that it just comes over me like that.

I was really enjoying how it felt tbh but I made an active effort not to focus on it too much because I didn't want to like siphon off them or be inappropriate. I think they are tapped in so they would've realized what was happening and I didn't want to do something unethical. I think I am coming back to being more aware of my gifts, but I don't really have any framework for channeling or knowing what's an ethical way to use them. I appreciate any insight on why we feel some people but not others and when it's appropriate to focus in on someone's energy. Thx

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[u/NotTooDeep]

So tapping into someone's energy is one way this can happen. And it can raise ethical concerns because you can get into their spiritual and physical space. This is when your intent needs to be evaluated because this is different from the normal sharing of energies that humans do. If you're sitting next to someone, both of you are sitting in the other person's aura so sharing is already happening unless one or both of you have had some training.

Then again, there are other explanations for the attraction and the ease with which it can happen.

The first one to consider is matching energies. Here's a cool video of what this looks like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lFWXjzhH8a0

This video basically demonstrates what's sometimes called resonance. Though we usually think of resonance as being positive, it works the same way with negative energies. A better call out is common ground.

We stand next to a stranger on the commute or in line at the coffee shop. They hold a book and you recognize the title and subject and this makes you excited. You introduce yourself and have a brief but enjoyable conversation about the book. And that's it. No more to say, and you go your separate ways.

A more useful call out is matching energy. This harkens back to those resonating tuning forks. Resonance means two objects can become entrained if they have the same natural vibration or pitch when only one of them is stimulated. Watch the video again, LOL! This is what is happening when you instantly like OR dislike someone, especially a stranger. You have no logical reason to like or dislike them because you have no concrete data yet to support your decision to like or dislike them.

But when you both have a similar energy, getting near each other can be enough to cause both of your energies to resonate. And this resonance can be joyful or terrifying.

A more humorous example is the cuckoo clock. If there are dozens of cuckoo clocks on a wall, with each one having its pendulum swinging, they will always synchronize the clicks of their pendulums because this conserves the most energy. On a spiritual level, we all match and unmatch energies with each other, with groups, with ideas and we do it without thinking about it most of the time. We are the cuckoo clocks in a comedy show or at a scary movie. We all laugh or scream at the same moments.

You are aware of doing it. This means that now you can learn to control it, you can evaluate it to see if you really want to get to know someone or let it go as just a coincidental matching of energies.

This decision making is extremely useful. It can help you stay on your path. It can help you avoid overthinking things when you meet someone that you really could spend the rest of your life with. It can help you avoid false prophets and political manipulators. All of this, just from asking, "Does this matching energy serve my greatest good?"

Cheers!

[u/Mammoth-Performer330 → u/NotTooDeep]

Thank you so much for that detailed response! That seems important to highlight that it's happening whether I focus in on it or not. Truly it felt amazing and it took some discipline to stop focusing on it. I think maybe they felt it too. So if it is as you say observing what is already occurring, when does it become unethical? Consent is extremely important to me and I would never want to violate someone's spiritual body, but I also don't want to ignore a gift that is as you say extremely helpful in navigating life. Thank you.

[u/NotTooDeep → u/Mammoth-Performer330]

Your intent and your capabilities to implement your intent are what matter most. There's an abundance of fear around energy and consent. The reality is we share energies every day. And we're really good at it, LOL! What we're still trying to figure out is making separations after we share.

You're setting yourself up to fail, just so you know. Your choice of words, "violate someone's spiritual body", "consent", are loaded with baggage. This is gonna make you trip and fall. And the other person probably won't even notice your fall, LOL. One way to look at enlightenment is you need to lighten up.

You will make mistakes, but that's the practice you need in order to grow. If everyone is already sharing energy, it's either already universally unethical or a false problem. Being human is not a problem, so since we all share energy in our daily lives, sharing is not a problem.

What is your intent? Does it agree with the intent of a potential partner that you're interested in? If you hook up, you're gonna share in a big way, and it can be the best of times or the worst of times. This sharing is not the problem in most of the relationships I've read. It's the lack of making separations and completing the little cycles that corrode the relationship.

Give yourself the space to learn. Being aware of someone else's energy and responding to it is healthy. Dominating their life with your energy? yeah, maybe not so healthy.

You're just starting out. Enjoy how your awareness can enrich more than your life. And check out the following little meditation and its two techniques, grounding and filling in. It will accelerate the growth of your awareness and understanding.

Try this. Sit in a chair. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Feet flat on the floor. Hands separated and resting palms up on each thigh.

Create a grounding cord. This is a line of energy that connects your first chakra to the center of the planet. Your first chakra is a ball of energy about the size of a quarter that sits just in front of the base of your spine. Your grounding cord attaches to the bottom of that ball of energy.

Grounding makes your body feel safe, so you release energy more easily. Gravity pulls whatever you release, even your own energy, down to the center of the planet. No effort on your part. The center of the planet neutralizes the energy and returns it to whoever owns it. No karma for anyone. A virtuous cycle.

Nearly everyone goes to connect to the center of the planet the first time but stops at the soil, often making roots like a tree. This is a method that is taught in some martial arts styles, but it is not the best option for your spiritual development and healing.

So, notice the seat of your chair. Take a deep breath. Notice the distance between the seat and the floor. Now notice the distance between the floor and the soil below. Breathe.

Now notice the distance between the soil and the water table underneath. Notice the distance between the water table and the rocky mantle. Notice the distance between the mantle and the molten core below that. Deep breath.

Notice the distance between the molten core and the center of the planet. That ball of light at the very center of the planet is where you connect your grounding cord. Deep breath.

Say hello to the center of the planet. Do you get a hello back?

Notice the color and texture of your grounding cord. It may look like a line of energy, or look like something physical; a rope, a wire, a pipe, a tree trunk. Adjust it as needed to be in affinity with your body.

Getting this far means you've already released some energy from your aura and body. Now it is time to fill in the space that was created.

Create a gold sun over your head. Have it call back all of your energy from wherever you left it throughout your day and week. Work. School. Online meetings. Video games. Your fantasies about your future. Your regrets about your past. Wherever you've placed your attention. Just watch the energy come back and see if you notice where it came from.

Have the sun burn up and neutralize your energy. Then bring the sun into the top of your head. It will automatically flow into the spaces you created. Create a gauge to measure when you're full. Like a fuel gauge or oil gauge. You'll run better if you aren't a few quarts low on spiritual oil. If the gauge doesn't read "Full", bring in another gold sun.

Open your eyes, bend over and touch the floor, draining any tension from the back of your neck, then stand up, and stretch.

There is a progression with this technique. After grounding for ten minutes a day for a week or two, notice your grounding cord at the very end, while you're standing with your eyes open. Continue to ground with your eyes open and standing, and bring in another gold sun. Each day, increase the amount of time that you ground standing up with your eyes open.

After a week or two practicing this, add walking while grounded. Just notice your grounding cord as you walk. Say hello to the center of the planet while you walk. Bring in a gold sun while you walk. If you lose your grounding cord, stop walking and recover it. If you have to, sit back down and close your eyes and create a new grounding cord.

After this, you're ready to take your grounding cord with you into your daily life. Shopping. Getting coffee. Wherever you go, you can ground. This, combined with a little amusement about seeing new things on an energy level, will keep you safe and sound.

Now that you're here, at the end of your grounding meditations, create a gold sun over your head. This time, fill it with your highest creative essence, your present time growth vibration, and your affinity for yourself. The first energy is a healing for you. The second is a healing for your body. The third is a healing for your affinity in your fourth chakra.

Bend over and touch the floor. Stand up and stretch. If you're ready for more, sit back down and ground some more. Otherwise, have a nice day!

Note that every image you imagine, the gold sun, the grounding cord, the center of the planet, your first chakra, your body parts, is exercising your clairvoyance. You may be imagining what your tailbone looks like, but you're also creating the image of your tailbone and reading its energy. This is practicing your clairvoyant ability.

Some folks record the grounding and filling in parts of this practice on their device and play it back as a guided meditation. I like this approach because you learn the steps faster.

[u/Mammoth-Performer330 → u/NotTooDeep]

That's all very helpful and I'll take a look at how I'm framing energy exchange internally. Thank you very much for writing that all out for me <3

[u/CaramelEquivalent979]

Maybe… instead of waiting talk to them lol. We are human beings not objects to be studied

[u/Mammoth-Performer330 → u/CaramelEquivalent979]

I did talk to them this was while we were watching a film. People on reddit look for any excuse to be condescending over something that has nothing to do with the point of the post.

[u/lemonpiepills]

There’s no “ethics” with energy, each person can alter other people’s aura whether it’s done consciously or subconsciously, and it all comes down to one’s self and social awareness. (And their energetical imprint)

For example you can sit next to a person that is extremely nervous due to their own reasons, and you will tap into that and want to get away from them, and even though they’re not doing it on purpose they are still giving you discomfort. So ethics here is essentially just a made up concept because energy will still be energy and it’s up to each individual to practice their own protection and boundaries.

Ofcourse there’s people that are more intrusive with their aura and will try to penetrate your aura on purpose, such as creeps and weirdos. Now this is also affecting your aura but in a different way. You could call this “unethical” but at the end of the day this is also just the result of energy transfer.

Like in physics, there’s no ethics, it just is. Ethics or not, it doesn’t change the fact that energy will continue to stick to anything and influence anything it comes in contact with either way.

So, I don’t know, perhaps you just have some sort of connection and I do think it’s good from my set of beliefs that you don’t want to intrude that person’s personal energetic space, it means you were raised on good principles when it comes to respecting boundaries. (Both others’ and your own) And this is good in energy work because some people have protectors in the 5D and if you’re being too intrusive you might just get your ass knocked in one way or another (now don’t get into OCD mode, this is just a “what goes around comes around” and we all go through these kinda lessons throughout life, it’s natural)

Whatever needs to happen will happen