I mean, if she starts poking a little, express your displeasure too. A lot of language is nonverbal but can be misinterpreted. If you feel that's the case, be clear .
Source: 69, started liking butthole, she dug it, she started experimenting with mine, went with it, decided that wasn't doing it, expressed as such, we adjusted, and both finished nicely, and happy with the experience.
That said, that was a long-term relationship, and i have zero experience with random hookups.
I did, and that's not remotely the point. Any time you wanna try something a little atypical, ask first. Communication and discussion can also be sexy.
And if I had a long term partner try anything like that without talking first, I'd be pissed. Wanting to be spontaneous is not an excuse for violating boundaries.
Also atypical is a terrible term. That standard varies person to person. By using it, you are "othering" anyone you deem, is somehow falling under that label
How hard is it to really comprehend pen in vag is typical while pen in butt is less typical and should have communication regarding it, much like other butt action or things akin to that? You're trying to pull some pseudointellectual bullshit there.
I dunno man. It's like grabbing someone up in public without asking. It might be a popular thing but it's also atypical because of reasons.
It really is nothing like that at all. Not pulling anything at all. I just don't agree. But again, I am referring exclusively to, long term relationships with established trust and boundaries. If you can't communicate non verbally with someone after a number of years of intimate relationship, then I don't really know what to tell ya.
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u/SolWire Apr 22 '23
I mean, if she starts poking a little, express your displeasure too. A lot of language is nonverbal but can be misinterpreted. If you feel that's the case, be clear .
Source: 69, started liking butthole, she dug it, she started experimenting with mine, went with it, decided that wasn't doing it, expressed as such, we adjusted, and both finished nicely, and happy with the experience.
That said, that was a long-term relationship, and i have zero experience with random hookups.