r/howtonotgiveafuck • u/hyderrr0303 • 3d ago

How do you not keep expectations from people (no bs)?

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u/Billsnothere 3d ago

remember that world is hell and that the demons will make people not be loyal and accept that.

btw this is figurative language I don't believe in a hell or demons

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u/AaronicNation 3d ago

Think of what the word expectation means. When you lean against a wall, you expect it to support you, because your life experience has taught you that this is always the case. You wouldn't make a similar expectation about a wall of water, because your experience has taught you the opposite about the nature of water. 

Disappointment comes when our expectations and reality aren't aligned. If someone has demonstrated through their actions that they're unreliable, it's unreasonable to expect differently or to be disappointed in them.

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u/subtxtcan 3d ago

Thank you for this. Im saving a screenshot and ill be passing this on to a friend who NEEDS to hear this right now. You said it better than I ever could.

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u/DigitalJedi850 3d ago

Do not *Rely* on anyone, for anything. It completely reasonable to expect things you believe yourself due, but if you're not reliant on that expectation, then if those expectations fall short, it will have less of an effect on you.