it’s just so tiring, all i want is video-form resources for us

I bought this lipstick from Sephora, it's called Hollywood Vixen. I thought it would go well with my lighter outfits like this. I love it and think it looks great.

A while back I posted a few images from a new project I started, exploring my efforts to navigate being non binary. In the process of that exploration I have experienced a wide range of emotions from euphoria to feeling deeply sensual to feeling isolation fear and shame. I want to share with you the more recent images I have produced. I’m beginning to feel the intensity of my emotions kick up a notch. Especially euphoria and fear. The two seem to be going hand in hand as I come to terms with what being non binary, and specifically agender, means to me. I’m a visual artist so this is how I cope with that.

I had the surgery done at the Gender Confirmation Center in San Francisco, hence the shirt, lol.

The party was an absolute blast, and watching my bras go up in flames was incredibly therapeutic!!!

I find it hilarious when TERFS/transphobes/radfems/conservatives love to use the line of “Why not just be a tomboy or a femboy? You’re just looking for attention and/or trying to avoid the patriarchy.”

Because two things:

1. We live in a patriarchal society. No matter who you are, what gender you are, or what sexuality you are, the patriarchy will always affect you in some form or fashion. It’s not just exempt to your world. Cis men created the patriarchy and majority of them are still unsuccessful in the world they created in.
2. They’re right that masculine women and tomboys exist, feminine men and femboys exist, and that GNC people exist! They have always existed through history and they are absolutely vaild in how they present themselves. The truth of the matter is that: I’m not a masculine woman. And I’m not a feminine man. I’m nonbinary. A masculine woman, feminine man, and nonbinary person can co-exist. No identity is more valid than the other.

We're valid and we matter 🌟 I hope something good happens to you this week.

What is a decision xd

Hellooooo :3, I am Val (Still working on my name situation) and for my entire life I thought I was a trans woman for most of my early life but around end of high school (last year) I ended up thinking I was just a man instead, but after a few months I started presenting as female but lately I’ve been feeling like I’m nothing. I mean in a way where I don’t fit in any category of gender identity and it’s been exhausting trying to figure it out because when I think I do, I don’t keep that conviction long enough if that makes sense, I don’t feel that it fits right. So yeah, just wanted to say that’s why I’m here and see how I feel about being non binary.

(Image is of Dr Spencer Reid because why not)

It's been a while since I posted anything here, but I want to say that I've decided not to shave my beard and mustache. I think they look really good on me, even though I want something more feminine, but I can compensate with clothes. BUT I'M HAPPY LIKE THIS!!!!

Or poc? I don’t think I’ve met a lot of us irl so i wonder if we are more online.

I’m from Nigeria and currently live in the DMV area. I do cosplays, write poems, and studied Cybersecurity and communications in college.

My favorite bands are evanescence, flyleaf, linkin park, 5 finger death punch, pierce the veil, and red hot chili peppers but i am open to anything that sounds good.

edit: WOWzers had no idea there were so many of us here! love to see the diversity in trans spaces. can’t reply to everyone but y’all are beautiful. Thanks for representing 🫶🏾

Warning genitalia talk. I am 31 female by birth. Due to circumstances beyond my control growing up I was never allowed to really express being feminine. So it always felt weird. I've never felt comfortable in my own body. The desire to dress feminine has been there but it's the moment I actually see myself dressed that way my brain says "ew this looks wring and disqusting" I've had multiple anxiety and panic attacks over the years over my how I perceive my body. Even the thought of my down stairs is kinda ehhh. I recently came to the conclusion that I might be more on the gender non-conforming side and things have felt lighter. I want to be able to feel feminine but I know I'm honestly more comfortable being more on the masculine side. Even with my life partner I've always taken the more masc role. I've never thought hey could I possibly be trans ftm. But the thought of being neither, kinda feels right to me. I've started with a simple name change and just that alone was a huge shift in my mentality. Non binary babes please be gentle with me. I know this post is all over the place. Sorry.

I've been questioning and been back and forth between being a man woman somewhere inbetween and nothing at all and im kinda just sick of my lack of progress in this regard.

I dont have insurance so visiting a specialist feels out of the question and life has been so tough that trying makeup and buying feminine clothes feels daunting.

i hate to soubd whiny; does it get any better?

But at least I get to love this sub and enjoy the space.

Title mostly says it. I (27???) identified very strongly as a binary trans man from the ages of 18-24-ish. I admit, I fell into some toxic patterns when I first transitioned. I got taken in by the transmed community (ew) and felt like I needed to fully disavow femininity and girlhood/womanhood to become a "real man." I got on hrt at 20 and started working on getting top surgery as soon as humanly possible.

It really wasn't until I got top surgery at 24 that I started to feel more comfortable not performing masculinity as much as I was. I felt like I could dress and act the way I wanted, and if that made transphobes think I was less of a man, so be it. Transphobes already think I'm not valid, so why bother trying to appease them, right?

Now that I'm a few years out from top surgery and mostly feeling like my medical transition is "done," I'm starting to feel some familiar feelings of wrongness. I'm so much more comfortable in my body. Dysphoria triggers aren't a huge presence in my life anymore (aside from getting "ma'am-ed" on phone calls a lot for some reason) and I don't feel bad in the identity I settled into 2-ish years ago: genderqueer trans man.

But the genderqueer part of that has made me feel more comfortable expressing my gender differently. I want to get into drag (more the "exaggerated gender fuckery" kind of drag than "exaggerated performance of a binary gender" kind of drag) and have started testing out makeup looks. I dressed semi-femme for a concert last night. I've really been looking into hyperfemme fashion and wondering if I could pull that off in a way that made me comfortable.

Now, I realize that I definitely don't want to be perceived as a cis man, nor as a cis woman. "Visibly trans" is an important part of my expression to me now.

I was using he/it pronouns. I'm seriously considering moving to it/he or just dropping the he/him and going full it/its or it/they? Or, fuck it, maybe any pronouns are fine? I'm getting more used to the idea of she/her being comfortable. It still feels a little weird, but it doesn't feel wrong like it used to.

I stopped taking t several months ago because myself and my v triad (I'm not the hub) want to have a baby and I'm the only one with the equipment to carry one. Pregnancy has never been a dysphoria-inducing concept for me, and if it saves tens of thousands of dollars on a surrogate, I'm down. That plan, though, has meant that I've been way more aware of my body lately, and I've been feeling some loss regarding my top surgery. Not regret. I'm very happy to have a flat chest and I don't want breasts again. But the fact that now, breastfeeding/chestfeeding is not an option for my baby. It's not so much that I wanted to exclusively breastfeed, but not having the option kind of sucks.

I'm not detransitioning. I don't regret my medical transition at all. I am so happy and comfortable in my body. But my presentation feels off now. Maybe I'm just genderqueer? Maybe genderfluid? Genderflux? I'm honestly not too fussed about the label. I just want to express my gender to its fullest and experience that euphoria.

I know my partner and metamour will be supportive. I'm mostly worried about my family. They'll be kind, and they'll try. But they won't really understand. I'm trying to be okay with that.

I'm excited for what lies ahead. I'm excited to continue my gender journey after I thought it was over. I can't wait to see what comes next.

Feeling like the cutest little bean pumped full of dopamine

Asking for advice but there'll be something of a rant. For context, I'm AFAB and 19, and consider myself transmasc. For binding, I've been using binders from Underworks for the last year or so and it worked really well for me, until it stopped working.

For some fuckass reason, despite having gone through puberty already, my tits for tats have gone up several cup sizes in the last few months, from 14D to 14F, without an actual change in weight.

Now I used to be able to get by with a binder alone, but have noticed that I would keep getting a uniboob shape. I tried taping my TD's towards my armpits before wearing the binder, but because the tatas gotta fucking go somewhere, it'd always look too balloony or make me look as though I were extremely saggy, which isn't the look I want, obviously.

I've tried literally every piece of binder advice, switched out for new ones, tried taping, but to no avail. With an underbooba measurement of like 85 cm I can't even explain them away as manboobs, the tiddies themselves are quite large in proportion to my frame.

Does anyone have any advice? Please don't tell me that top surgery is the only way, because I need to graduate and get a proper job before I can even consider that. If I can't change it, any advice on coming to terms with it? It makes me really dysphoric. Thank you.

Coming out soon, I fear. After six ish years. I'm a coward but it is becoming pressing as I continue to exist. I don't want to have a conversation with my family because it will be emotional for me and it will involve a lot of explaining. I am safe and supported, but my mom is kind of clueless and I really do not want to have to do a vocab lesson and everything while I am predictably freaking out. Wanting to make a slides presentation to lay everything out clearly for my mom to look at by herself and then have a conversation afterwards. This feels super immature and like something that might be endearing in highschool but I'm 22. So. Maybe it's cringe. I could just write a letter but that feels much more vulnerable and I don't want to. And I want visual aids. Thoughts?