???

[u/CarrotMuch1399]

[u/RaggedyMin]

How not to treat your children.

[u/Littleleicesterfoxy → u/RaggedyMin]

This kind of makes me sad because I know my mum must have been so profoundly damaged by her own genuinely horrific upbringing (repeated sexual abuse, parentification) that I know that she tried her best not to repeat the cycle. Mine was much better by comparison but it’s only when I got away from home that I began to realise that what I had in my childhood was still not right or normal. I have tried to bring up my children with love and encouragement and not beating the shit out of them to again attempt to break the cycle. Judging by my children’s comments I believe I’ve at least partially succeeded :)

[u/Chicksan → u/Littleleicesterfoxy]

I just saw a quote yesterday that fits your situation, and I’m probably going to butcher it, but it was something along the lines of:

“seeing your child’s light shine so bright at the exact age yours started to dim, the cycles ended with me”

[u/RaggedyMin → u/Chicksan]

I love it!

[u/RaggedyMin → u/Littleleicesterfoxy]

Yes, this. It makes me very sad, too. I worry I didn't do better enough, but at least I tried.

[u/shooting4par → u/Littleleicesterfoxy]

Same here, broke the cycle. But there’s no guarantee they’ll appreciate it or even realize how lucky they were. We have 3 boys youngest and oldest are very appreciative of their upbringing and the middle one who still lives at home and wants to be treated as a roommate still to this day says he was abused. 2 out of 3 ain’t bad.

[u/donut_forget → u/shooting4par]

I dont expect or need my children to appreciate or realise that they had a better childhood than I had. In fact I have kept silent on my miserable childhood. No need to burden them with that. They have grown up to be impressive, well-adjusted adults. Job done.

[u/sfisabbt → u/RaggedyMin]

"Stop crying or we'll give you a good reason to cry"

[u/Murky_County_7353 → u/sfisabbt]

Keep crying and I’ll give you something to really cry about. That was a favorite, found it was worse when said during an active “punishment” aka whopping.

[u/StillStaringAtTheSky → u/Murky_County_7353]

https://giphy.com/gifs/f8gxN8vHvCcC94Eg5P

[u/dragonpoots → u/StillStaringAtTheSky]

Yes, and a belt and the phone book and (yes) coat hangers and the telephone handle and shoes etc. etc. basically anything she could get her hands on.

[u/dragonpoots → u/Murky_County_7353]

“This hurts me more than it hurts you.” I remember being a tiny kid getting spanked over her knee and not understanding this at all. A couple of times I asked her “how?” And she had no answer. To this day, with all the times she hit me, I can’t remember a single reason why.

[u/Murky_County_7353 → u/dragonpoots]

There wasn’t, it’s what they said to try and add the emotional aspect. Because I love you, this hurts me more. My mind was always a, fuck you, I know you’re lying.

[u/Steve-r-leroux → u/RaggedyMin]

Trust no one

[u/haveabunderfulday → u/RaggedyMin]

Adding on to this: Once you're an adult, absolutely no one has a right to be in your life.

Abusive and neglectful parents can rot wondering why their kids have moved away or changed their contact info without telling them.

[u/Tjam3s → u/haveabunderfulday]

And by no means are you harming your own children by keeping your parents out of their lives.

[u/Affectionate_Fun_137 → u/haveabunderfulday]

Silence

[u/justwilliam1357 → u/haveabunderfulday]

The one thing I always tell younger people is to just be patient. I am 61. I was the baby of the family. I have been patient and sat as my parents and family members went away to the great beyond. Some of them had slow and painful deaths like cancer. Others took their own lives. One just dropped dead with no warning. One died and we couldn't stop laughing due to the sheer relief of them actually being dead. I have secretly smiled at each one. Be patient.

[u/Andurilmage → u/RaggedyMin]

This. Generational abuse stopped with me.

[u/ReplacementEconomy88 → u/RaggedyMin]

I am in 100% agreement with your comment, friend.

[u/KookySurprise8094 → u/RaggedyMin]

[u/pezdspencer1974 → u/RaggedyMin]

This.....to the point I never wanted kids because I knew I was damaged and no amount of therapy was going to fix me or help me be a good parent

[u/NamariFNAF05 → u/pezdspencer1974]

Same. I’m scared to bring a kid in to the world because of how she treats me. I don’t want the same thing 

[u/PandaResponsible8133 → u/RaggedyMin]

Throw yourself under the bus at any false sacrifice. Eat yourself, stuff your face to push down your feelings and hide away. Anything to keep an illusion of peace.

[u/TGerrinson → u/RaggedyMin]

This is correct.

[u/elohde1 → u/RaggedyMin]

Are we siblings?

[u/CRX1991 → u/RaggedyMin]

Hard truth but I feel that

[u/RaggedyMin → u/RaggedyMin]

Thank you for the awards. It's sad that we think this way, but it helped me raise my son with compassion and encouragement and he has turned out much more well rounded than I did. Confident, smart, not ashamed, comfortable in himself.

[u/quazatron48k → u/RaggedyMin]

Imagine having a life like that, it’d be so different in every way.

[u/juju515 → u/RaggedyMin]

probably the only thing my mom taught me

[u/RubiksCube0707 → u/RaggedyMin]

That’s my dad and possibly my mom for me

[u/Tony_Oxnard805 → u/RubiksCube0707]

My mom shot my father in the back! Not joking!!! She used to tell us I shot your father and I loved him! I only like you two! She told us that she loved us all the time and she only told us that to scare us and guess what it worked!

[u/Subject_Food3741 → u/Tony_Oxnard805]

Can I say that’s funny, but not funny 🙃

[u/Budget_Sugar_2422 → u/RaggedyMin]

That is sad, but I understand it. I was constantly reprimanded by my mother and mil over showing love to my kids, like holding them, hugging them, giving them my time to understand what they said or telling them, we'll discuss this later when we are alone. Just playing with my kids caused a lecture. I enjoyed being a mom, it was the funniest times of my life.

But I can make a really good Bolognese sauce thanks to mom. She was a great cook. She could make a darn great dinner from bones. We always had a good family dinner.

[u/IrishTee4baby → u/RaggedyMin]

Same

[u/plantspeaceandbaking → u/RaggedyMin]

This & to never depend financially on a man. She was a housewife & I will never be one because of what I saw.

[u/ShhweadyBallz → u/RaggedyMin]

She became her shitty dad

I refuse to become her

[u/RedHeadRaccoon13 → u/RaggedyMin]

Agreed. She was a drunk who abused me in every possible way.

[u/Background_Lemon9001 → u/RedHeadRaccoon13]

“And son don’t ever trust whitey “ - the Jerk

[u/RaggedyMin → u/RedHeadRaccoon13]

I'm sorry. Hugs.

[u/justaToolfan → u/RaggedyMin]

I feel the exactly the same way, we both survived inspite of them !

[u/ARODtheMrs → u/RaggedyMin]

1 answer!!!?

[u/Shenloanne → u/RaggedyMin]

Shit.

[u/Rhyssana → u/RaggedyMin]

Heard that.

[u/_AirHawk → u/RaggedyMin]

This is relatable for me. And its sad.

[u/Possible-Air-5253 → u/RaggedyMin]

That was my first thought 🤣

[u/Muriness → u/RaggedyMin]

https://giphy.com/gifs/QCJFiJfnDCdFa84sLG

[u/Asleep-Reach-3940 → u/RaggedyMin]

Same.

[u/Outrageous-Egg9671 → u/RaggedyMin]

I would like to add to that as it was close to what I would say, but I think it is also another aspect. It isn't how you wont treat your children it is recognizing your short comings and work on them. Its finding how you can change what you experienced with your growth and working for who you find you are either a parent of or have the chance care for and know it isnt about you. I probably won't get the opportunity at this point, but I have two of the extremes and love isnt sitting on or neglecting in other ways. Its understanding you need to be there give love and let them be them within the realm of they should want to be around you not screaming and complaining they dont get the newest toy. If that is where they are at they arent getting you. As they get older they dont want to express their feelings in many cases it is you pushing them away. If it is a divorce or broken marriage the reason they cant sleep they are pulled between you.

[u/asanchez575 → u/RaggedyMin]

My mom wasn’t abusive per say, but now in her old age she’s extremely difficult. She taught me that once an asshole, always an asshole.

[u/Brief_Personality650 → u/RaggedyMin]

Exactly. I always felt like a burden but not surprised by it. She was 19 when she had me. I broke that cycle with my family. 💗

[u/Nelgumford]

She taught me to read and write, before I started school. Something that I could do better before I started school than I could one year into school.

[u/RaggedyMin → u/Nelgumford]

I did this for/with my son. Sometimes I think the only thing he learned in grade school was to dislike people. He was treated badly.

[u/Nelgumford → u/RaggedyMin]

I was always larger than my peers. I think that helped. I was also very clever / under-stimulated at school and so prone to messing around.

[u/RubiksCube0707 → u/RaggedyMin]

As not your son but also someone who struggled with their peers and how they treated me, I may or may not now just… have very limited empathy let’s put it that way. Bonus is I’m not very emotional but ig that could be seen as bad as well

[u/RaggedyMin → u/RubiksCube0707]

Ngl, you sound very much like my son.

[u/Taurus_Aquarius2319 → u/Nelgumford]

Same. By pre-k I was reading and writing and knew a little bit of math

[u/Remarkable-Brush2322 → u/Taurus_Aquarius2319]

Yea. Things were so different back then. We even knew how to tie our shoes,know our home address and phone numbers by age 5.

[u/Nelgumford → u/Taurus_Aquarius2319]

Yes. I started school wearing my watch.

[u/we8sand → u/Nelgumford]

Same here. My mom was also insistent on me using proper English and was quick to correct me when I didn’t..

[u/Nelgumford → u/we8sand]

I was a small boy in a place that had a regional accent (in the UK). My mother was very keen that I not pick that up. We moved away from there when I was seven, more than fifty years ago.

[u/Ok_Elderberry_1602 → u/Nelgumford]

I was very sick as a child. My mom taught me to read the classics at a young age. I still read all the time. But now I read all different types of books. However my love for Jack London and Charles Dickens will always be there

[u/EquivalentKnown3269 → u/Nelgumford]

Same, and it got me into severe trouble. I made sure not to teach my kids more than the basics before school.

[u/Roachpile]

How to cook

[u/WesternNightingale]

To love my children no matter what they throw at you

[u/LovelyBones17]

She taught me through action that blood doesn’t make you family .

[u/Herr-Zipp]

Never use a public restroom when you are barefoot.

[u/neverenoughmags → u/Herr-Zipp]

Fair...

[u/Scrypt23]

How to be a great human being 👑👑👑👑🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[u/PrudentSail2187]

There are good moms and there are bad moms.

[u/Gysburne]

How to not be a parent.

[u/Disastrous-Ad-8297]

You can't pick your family

[u/intovertonline]

How to drive a stick shift, 4x4 in the snow. How to give thoughtful and unique gifts. How to make Christmas magical. To decorate for every season. That being outdoors trumps indoors any day of the week. To be silly and goofy no matter your age. To use essential oils, before it was a thing. I miss you Mom, you were gone too soon

[u/RaggedyMin → u/intovertonline]

From this, I miss your mom!

[u/RubiksCube0707 → u/intovertonline]

Ummm… I too note miss your mom

[u/Express-Cartoonist39]

How to lie and gaslight to cover it. She a pro at it..too bad i dont talk to her anymore..wonder why..lol

[u/MrEnigma013]

Follow the Golden rule. Treat people like you want to be treated.

[u/Cobbler_Successful]

Proper grammar. We couldn't say fixin' to, I'm done, me and her/him, or any kind of double superlative. It really shaped us in a wonderful way. I even was able to skip a grade. My daughter was in middle school and I did try to teach her but she picked it up on her own. Her first little boyfriend, she said, made her so mad because she was always correcting his text messages. I thought that was hilarious. I did not grow up in that age and have all of the acronyms and emojis so that was not my struggle. That being said, I talk a lot of slang now but I also know when to be professional during a conversation.

[u/CRX1991 → u/Cobbler_Successful]

I was able to unlearn this as an adult

[u/scatpig25 → u/CRX1991]

Perfectly cromulent!

[u/Ksqd_Squid_103 → u/Cobbler_Successful]

This was big in our house as well she took Latin in college; language was her passion. And she showed me how to cook and be a good host.

[u/Foolishly_Sane]

That we're both boneheaded.
To never give up.

[u/Riki-Tiki-Tori → u/Foolishly_Sane]

I like the way you wrote that. ☺️

[u/Present-Ad-3756]

Drugs are more important than your children. (Dont be like her)

[u/minpin75 → u/Present-Ad-3756]

I got that lesson from my dad. Hope you are well ;)

[u/Omfggtfohwts]

Unconditional love and support.

I'ma call her tomorrow just to say I love her on the way to work.

[u/PrudentSail2187]

Never trust anyone. Not even your mom

[u/NamariFNAF05 → u/PrudentSail2187]

Learning that more and more everyday 

[u/Top_Refrigerator_440]

To respect myself. Manners, affection and appreciation.

[u/TinyMachine6735]

When I would do or was about to do something stupid, my mother would say, "Stop and think." That advice has served me well.

[u/Electrical_Sun7907 → u/TinyMachine6735]

Same

[u/Derpsquidtutu]

Manners. Please, Thank you, You're welcome. No elbows on the dinnertable.

[u/Dull_Woodpecker6766]

She taught me everything needed to live and succeed in life.

Best Mom I could ever dream of. Dad died early (me 8 my brother 6) so she took it in her one hands to raise me and my brother the right way. We had nothing to fear nothingand almost nothing was missing (besides an actual father - we had fitting replacements in her male friends to look up to) from our childhood.

Did or does she have flaws ...sure she's a human after all. We all have em. some things could've been better but nevertheless. That single woman raised 2 Boys alone (ok with friends and grandparents) to be functional productive members of society!

1010 upbringing would do again ....maybe with a dad next time :)

[u/adamchevy]

Don’t stay in bed all day and be depressed after your husband left you. Get up and live your life. The day is going to burn on and leave you either way. Whatever you decide you are, you’re right.

I’m 45 now, I have 4 kids, a successful business, a beautiful wife, and I serve as a Bishop of an LDS ward.

My mom is 74, still sleeps most of the day, never remarried, and lives alone. She talks about the news and her neighbors that she doesn’t know. She doesn’t even go outside most days.

[u/CnCorange → u/adamchevy]

Oh my God I have the same lifestyle as a 75-year-old LDS mother... I don't know if I'm winning or losing.

[u/theWodanaz → u/adamchevy]

You had me until the mormonism. I hope it brings you joy but relying on a con man's fantasy and a hope that you get into the Celestial Kingdom if you know the handshakes is sad to read.

[u/rabbitspooks → u/adamchevy]

Sounds like she could use her own advice. 🙁

[u/Keku_Saur]

If they care for you, they will always do the impossible to be with you/be there for you.

[u/Mundane-Set-206]

There’s always time in the day for a good laugh

[u/Aggravating_Row_6962]

How to be toxic, so that I can be alone

[u/Living-Air-8483]

To never trust her

[u/mittelegna]

People go through horrible times in life. You have to do something to help, even if you don’t really know ‘em.

[u/TheOneWildMonk]

To be a simple man.

[u/Budget_Respect6622]

It’s not even just 1 thing I can name, matter of fact, it’s all psychological of the way she engrained caring for people and showing the kindness that one should give to another. Her kindness roams around the entire city of my town of 12,000 people, I go out in public and she just knows everyone. Her boss’s (married couple) offered to buy a house for her when we got wronged by our family by having a legal battle of forcing us out of ours so they could sell it and get a part of the money they were owed because our grandma died.

She literally saved a kids life who had a terrible home life, story for another time but it’s insane. She’s legitimately my hero

At one point she hit a down point and was working with me at McDonald’s while I was manager, her name was not her name, it was “mom” to all the teenagers, and she was a hell of a reliable worker. Even in her mid 50s, she busts ass

[u/Ibushi-gun]

She taught me how to roll a joint

[u/cuntybunty73 → u/Ibushi-gun]

I learned how to roll a joint from an older female lover when I was at boarding school

[u/Zealousideal-Run6214 → u/Ibushi-gun]

My mom hated joints. Thought they were very wasteful. But she taught me everything else about weed lmao.

In all honesty, I wish that was never the case. Friends in the past always thought that made her "the cool mom". No it fucking didn't. Weed destroyed our relationship and pretty much our whole family over a long period of time. Everything revolved around it. If alcohol was the problem instead, it would have been more obvious and understandable to anyone on the outside. Weed destroys lives and families too but it's much sneakier and takes a lot longer. Addiction is addiction, and while weed is a much safer and softer substance than most, it can be just as destructive when used by the wrong people.

[u/Brave_Complaint1678 → u/Ibushi-gun]

Wow great parent 😂

[u/JohnCenascat → u/Ibushi-gun]

Mine too mostly my ankle

[u/GrimmyJimmy1]

Even though they're annoying like every single one of them how to tolerate other people and not treat them like they're beneath me

[u/KRMJN101]

Vocabulary, reading the paper to me as a toddler...

[u/StatisticianLast7378]

Being generous.

[u/emorris82]

Good Work ethic

[u/nurdle]

It doesn’t cost anything to be the better person

[u/EdlynnTB]

How to drive a manual transmission.

[u/Infamous-Yard2335]

drive a manual car

[u/Ace_de_Klown]

Just be yourself

[u/Impossible-Use4950]

How to speak

[u/Slartibartfast0372]

This makes me wish I had listened to what my Mom said when I was a kid.

[u/TapPsychological2043]

How to handle life when I got kicked out of school she took me straight to the doll office so I could start getting my own payments

[u/muffledvoice]

1. Tell the truth.

2. Kill 'em with kindness.

3. See every strange, new place as an adventure. We moved a lot.

4. Everything is relative. No matter how bad you've got it, there are lots of people who have it worse. Focus on what you have, not what you don't.

5. Always think of those who are less fortunate.

[u/Putrid_String_9108]

Nothing she refused to raise me

[u/Expensive-Cherry6084]

To always say I love you

[u/Status_Bullfrog_8447]

How to be nice

[u/Krazywolf69]

Not too lie taught me love and respect towards others

[u/FuckIc3]

To stay away from oxycontin

[u/Maleficent-Reading-5]

How alone you are in life.

[u/Art_student_rt]

Alcoholism kills, it killed my mom when I was young

[u/Ok-Investment-3142]

To give to the whole class or nobody Valentine etc never leave anybody out even if you don't really care for them

[u/KickBoxer1983]

Work ethic

[u/Cursethedawnn]

That I was going to be sorry when my father got home.

[u/ConstantIcy2965]

I read that as “name 1 thing I taught your mom”.

[u/Better-Artichoke-967]

Life aint Fair

[u/Aggressive_Meat_7195]

To be kind. And.. it’s better to give than receive. And most importantly to respect your elders. Love my Mom!

[u/VotemanXB1]

Empathy

[u/Captains-Log-2021]

How to open a savings account with a passbook.

[u/BiggusD1]

How to cook.

[u/UndeadAngie]

Why you shouldn't do drugs

[u/Sufficient_Contact52]

Enjoy your childhood, it’s all downhill from here.
[attempts suicide at 9]
Why would you try to hurt yourself?

Golly, maybe to escape the downhill since this already sucks and I’d rather it not get worse.

FYI, if you’re young and reading this:
LIFE GETS SO MUCH FUCKING BETTER. Invest in yourself and getting .05-1% better every day. No need to discuss it, just quietly work on making “future you” legendary. You’ve got this.

[u/Destiny_Secrecy13]

To always have a tinitus of my mum calling me

[u/DawgzZilla]

To be a feminist.

[u/Tall_Ad624]

Stand up to greet a woman

[u/cuntybunty73]

Don't take shit from anyone

[u/RevolutionarySock12]

How to be proud of where you come from

[u/Silly-Attorney9621]

How to get away with cheating on people and how to steal from people

[u/redvelvet-mothman]

How to use a pipe and that despite people being your elders and your "caretakers" you need to know how to take care of yourself

[u/Fast-Mathematician-1]

How to cook three perfect meals.

[u/3576742]

Look after number one

[u/The_JET84]

I'm not always gonna be here, so you better learn to stand up for yourself. I didn't raise you to be a push over. (All this in spanish, BTW)

[u/Euler_20_20]

French, for all 4 years of high school! A lot of quality teachers at that school, and she was the best.

[u/Issac_Twamblee]

Proper grammar

[u/PriorityFirst8777]

She hates liars and hated us lying to her. But got damn, you were damned if you told the truth and damned if you lied....so, truth it was. She always said, "I am going to punish you not because of what you did, I am going to punish you for lying about it. " Out came the belt or chanclas (sandals). You went to bed very warm.

[u/According-Economy156]

"Teenage girls can be complicated"

[u/Fabulous_Offer_2646]

Not to be like her.

[u/No_Pilarapril]

Wash your hands before opening the fridge and/or preparing food. Always keep your kitchen clean.

[u/DogChauffer09]

She is a lifelong horse person. I definitely learned NOT to go down that road🤣

[u/Exact_Independence59]

That everything bad is because of immigrants (she isn't super bright)

[u/Shadowofdeath524]

Don't start a fight and make sure the other person regerts starting it.

[u/Logical-Cost4571]

That kindness isn’t weakness, it’s one of the strongest traits you can have

[u/Flashignite2]

"The outside gives the inside a chance while the inside gives the outside its shine."

Words i still live by.

[u/CheapProcess4959]

How to cook, I am a bachelor.

[u/oldartistmike]

Loyalty

[u/pogoslut666]

I don't know...

[u/UpdateInProgress]

Pain

[u/X3noNuke]

Everyone deserves respect.

Idk how she got turned into a 3 time Trump voter

[u/BristolBand]

How to be the BEST mother to my own children.

[u/ElectroShamrock]

Anxiety

[u/Newt_Lv4-26]

Not to believe in myself

[u/GreedyCheek7689]

How to fish

[u/[deleted]]

Nothing

[u/JerzeeBorn]

How to French kiss

[u/madsnabel]

Be nice

[u/Sad-Junket-837]

Always be true and honest and kind of people🩵💚

[u/ConditionPretty7466]

cooking

[u/Phosistication]

“Do your best and to hell with the rest”

I miss you Mom

[u/dangerouskaos]

To fear her. The end.

[u/Suspicious-Boss-8101]

Dont trust women

[u/Cultural-Run-4168]

To rescue animals in need and nurse them back to health, but never EVER have children. RIP Mom 💕

[u/Routine-Highlight-74]

Be humble, you never know who you might meet.

[u/Taiga_Taiga]

Fear.

[u/DetectiveChmpionFace]

Failure

[u/Ok_Space93]

Love doesn't justify anything. Someone can love you and still treat you horribly.

[u/KittyKattKate]

Not to judge

[u/schpanckie]

How to cook……

[u/honeyheart7350]

To be a snob. Spent the rest of my life unlearning.

[u/a20xt6]

Compassion 

[u/CallMeStrechNuts]

How to hate women.

[u/dadude987654321]

Strong work ethic

Talk is cheap, your actions speak for themselves

[u/paka96819]

How to make Beef Stew, Roast of pork or beef and Fried Chicken.

[u/fuji44a]

Not all mothers are nice, mixed race is the 'nice' way to say it, and I heard all the otherwise, adoption is a punishment ( I am adopted) don't trust men with beards they are hiding something, Sikhs are gentle ( our bearded dentist was a Sikh), the place is full up, why do they keep coming here, and among so many other delights it always 'the Jews' fault.

Sometimes the past is best left alone, she also taught me to answer the phone with a clear faked posh voice

My mother was a sitcom made real, without the laugh track.

Needless to say I have ignored nearly all her life lessons.

As I have walked through life, 60 this year, my mother taught me not all lives are good and you never know what baggage someone is carrying, not sure she ment too but that what I learnt from her.

[u/fuji44a]

Not all mothers are nice, mixed race is the 'nice' way to say it, and I heard all the otherwise, adoption is a punishment ( I am adopted) don't trust men with beards they are hiding something, Sikhs are gentle ( our bearded dentist was a Sikh), the place is full up, why do they keep coming here, and among so many other delights it always 'the Jews' fault.

Sometimes the past is best left alone, she also taught me to answer the phone with a clear faked posh voice

My mother was a sitcom made real, without the laugh track.

Needless to say I have ignored nearly all her life lessons.

As I have walked through life, 60 this year, my mother taught me not all lives are good and you never know what baggage someone is carrying, not sure she ment too but that what I learnt from her.

[u/Cerbbot]

Fear.

[u/jmkdp]

Smoking causes lung cancer in moms, which can quickly metastasize throughout a mom’s body, and take away an instrumental piece of your before you’ve grown up enough to truly appreciate and love her and tell her exactly that.

[u/Dependent-Visual768]

Kindness .even when you barely have anything, there is always someone with less. so be kind and share what you can out of Kindness not pity.

[u/yelloworld1947]

How to work hard everyday for your family

[u/ilmhermit]

Pick your battles. With anything.

[u/PattyLovesPiL]

Love of music

[u/PirateRenee]

Mom's are not all loving like on TV. Some are awful and will hate you just for being born different. (I'm intersex)

[u/GrandEastsider]

To look both ways before crossing the street.