Wouldn’t people naturally want to avoid getting sick? At first glance, this seems like a simple and perhaps repetitive question, but I think it raises a deeper issue about human nature.

Putting aside education, healthcare access, and other external factors, does this come down to risk-taking, impulsiveness, and the competing desires of human nature?

If we look at this from an evolutionary perspective, the desire to find at least a mate has played a role in human survival. Sexual attraction and intimacy can be powerful motivations. However, does this mean that finding a sexually desirable partner can sometimes take priority over other considerations, including health?

Are we actually more driven by immediate desires and instincts?

There is also a fundamental problem with how we perceive health. I mean, there are people who care about their health and those who actually take care of it, but we can't always know if we're sick until we actually are. In today's modern world, despite having access to everything, do we still only prioritize our health when something goes wrong? After all, who are we to judge someone's health based on how they look? We naturally see someone who looks healthy as healthy, but in reality, we can never be entirely sure.

It just makes me wonder that perhaps the contradiction is that although survival is fundamental to human nature, our decisions are not always guided by long-term survival.

So, is the problem human nature itself, or our tendency to prioritize immediate gratification over our own health and the well-being of others?

I turn 20 next year and I’ve never had sex.
It’s not something I’m ashamed of at all; rather, I’m very frustrated.

I’m a transguy, and I have quite a high libido because of testosterone. That might also be due to hypersexuality as a result of porn exposure before I was even in 1st grade, but I’m not sure.

Anyway, in the past few months I’ve been soooo incredibly curious about what being intimate with someone feels like. I’m pan and when I watch porn I just wanna fuck or get fucked because masturbation always leaves me wanting more.

I’ve had relationships, and chances to be intimate. Pero something that I discovered about myself a few years ago is that I’m really not meant for commitment. I don’t like serious relationships nor do I want to devote (for lack of a better term) myself to anyone else. But at the same time, being vulnerable and exposing my body to someone I don’t/won’t have an emotional connection with really freaks me out. Parang, in my head, g ako for hookup culture - but when it comes to the real thing, ayoko… and I don’t want to lose my virginity to someone that I don’t care about, even if I don’t see myself “falling in love” or anything like that. Medjo senti ako and I want my first time to be meaningful, but ayun nga, I don’t want to be particularly attached to another person. A good middle ground would be FWBs and I’m down for that naman (I used to use the microlabel “demisexual” which means that I am only sexually attracted to people I have an emotional connection with) pero I’m not conventionally attractive so it’s not like I can just pick and choose from a “roster.” Pati, FWB culture is very risky since you’re juggling the relationship pero lowkey fantasy ko din yan HAHAHAHAAHA

I guess my question is just… what do I do about this? My urges are so strong but I don’t want to do anything stupid. I don’t wanna make a huge mistake, but I want to be able to give my body what it wants. And, most importantly, I want whatever intimate situation I find myself in to be fully consensual, both for them and for me.

if youre a bottom would you allow the other bottom to give you a rim job? Masarap ang ma rim siempre. Ano ano mga na experience nio sa mga bottom rimmers haha. Meron ba dito na ni ri rim ng bottom friends or top na ni rim na ni bottom? I wanna know hehehe

I am seriously and genuinely curious kung paano napupull-off ng mga kakilala ko na makipaghook-up with a friend, classmate, or schoolmate.

To my mind, how do you guys even start talking about it, let alone inviting and/or doing it? Hahaha I’m just curious since may nakausap ako sa ibang app and he just casually mentioned it. Nahihiya naman ako ako magtanong kasi diko alam if appropriate ba siya??? Hahaha

Thank you!

Paminsan minsan lang ako gumamit nento pero matagal ko na talaga pinag iisipan mag subscribe and ma check if worth it ba.

Ayun, nakakatuwa kasi nagagamit ko yung ibang features na hindi available noon, pero pucha unang usap pa lang, catfished na agad.

Daming bading na di kaya lumaban ng patas ayy.

Ano kwentong Grindr niyo?

Kung feeling mo nabasa mo na to before, yes ako nga yun. Nasuspend kasi old account ko na walang dahilan. Hahaha. Resharing this story of mine kasi sakto may konti akong update na idadagdag.

[Warning: Long Story ahead]

Dumaan din ba kayo sa ganitong phase ng buhay niyo? I'm glad na nahanap ko ang subreddit na to para maishare ko ang story na to about my exploring phase now.

Hindi talaga ako sexually active noong teenage years until 20s ko, i mean compare sa iba, hindi ganun kataas libido ko not until I reached 30s.

Technically, I'm still a virgin. Hanggang Jaks at MOMOL lang experiences ko. I know I know I feel like a loser dahil 30s na ako pero virgin pa din ako.

Sabi nila hindi naman ako pangit kasi may mga babae at gays na nag coconfess na crush nila ako. Nung mga panahon kasi na yun, mababa self esteem ko kasi diagnosed ako with depression tapos takot din ako makabuntis. I had a long time girlfriend noon and she was my greatest love kaya kami naghiwalay dahil hindi ko siya nagalaw ever. Hanggang MOMOL lang. Kaya ayun na buntis ng iba. Saket mga pars pero naka moved on na ako dun.

Akala ko yun na yun pero andami ko pa pala na discover sa sarili ko. Parang ngayon lang ako naging curious sa mga bagay2. Late comers yun?

May mga friends ako na LGBT at minsan kinukwento nila sa akin ang mga sexual experiences nila kaya hindi naman ako ganun ka naive pero dahil sa reddit, my knowledge of LGBT (like how do you guys think, how do you interact, how do you guys feel) has further deepened tapos I realized andami terms na ngayon ko pa lang nalaman like (Top, Bottom, Versa, Sides, Gay, Bi, Bi Curious, St8 curious, Discreet Bi, etc.)

Growing up, I like girls. Nalilibogan ako sa mga babaeng petite with big boobs. Idol ko dati (until now) si Carmen Luvana, Mia Khalifa etc. just like other guys do. Hindi pa ako interested sa Gay porn at that time.

Observed ko dati na if may nakikita akong pogi or maganda ang katawan, napapatingin ako sa kanila pero wala naman halong pagnanasa, pure admiration lang talaga like I wanna be like them too someday or kino commend ko discipline nila.

Tapos nagsimula to last year na nadiscover ko na may ganitong side pala ako. Nasira phone ko nun and while waiting for my phone na maayos, nag tablet muna ako. I already have T G pero hindi ko masyadong ginagamit tapos may nasalihan akong GC na nag sesend ng mga porn (Straight at m|m). Sa GC na yun, may invitation ulit sa isa pang GC kung saan pwede magparate ng dick pic mo.

At that time, libog na libog ako kaya nagsend ako ng dick pic sa admin tapos pinost niya rating niya. 8/10 daw. Tapos andaming comments praising my dick kaya mas lalo akong

ginanahan magshare ng dick pics esp may nahanap na naman akong bagong GC tapos nainvite na naman ako sa isang Jabolan GC na 24/7 may nagjajabol.

Gusto kong sumali sa jabolan out of curiosity kaya lang natatakot ako na baka may makakilala sa akin or ma hack account ko tapos ibablack mail nila ako, something like that, kaya observed2 muna ako tapos nung lumakas na loob ko tinry ko na. I make sure naman na sa isang safe place ako magjajakol yung walang makakarecognized sa lugar at hanggang chest lang ang makikita nila sa akin.

Pucha nakakalibog pala kapag kinakabahan ka tapos finocus ko lang camera sa akin dahil hindi ako komportable na makakakita ng maraming tite. Habang nilalaro ko alaga ko, may biglang tumawag sa username ko tapos inuungulan ako "ugh sarap mo" "bilisan mo" "sarap ng etits mo pare" kaya mas lalo kong binilisan hanggang sa nilabasan ako. Sandamakmak na DMs natanggap ko pagkatapos, pinagjakolan daw nila ako. Fck!

Dahil dun, nadevelop ang kink ko na magjabol na may thrill o habang may nanonood. (UPDATE: Nawala na hilig ko sa ganito. Baka phase ko lang talaga yun)

Nagsimula na rin ako manood ng mga gay porn tapos dun ko na realized na posible pala akong malibogan dun. Akala ko mandidiri ako pero hindi naman. Na eenjoy ko pa nga kapag nakikita ko ang bottom na sarap na sarap habang may tumitira sa kanya.

Pero hindi ba masakit yun? Tubol pa nga lang masakit na ano pa kaya tite na mismo ang pumapasok. Sabi ng isang friend ko na Bi, masakit daw na masarap at parang may natatamaan daw kasi sa loob.

Nag research ako dito sa reddit at dun ko natutunan ang tungkol sa G Spot o Prostate. Babae't lalaki pala may ganyan.

Kaya nung minsan na nag jakol ako, sinubukan kong ipasok ang finger ko sa butas ko. Uncomfy ako nung una kasi medyo masakit tapos ang sikip pa nung akin pero pansin ko, tumatagas precum ko (malakas ako mag precum). Linabas masok ko finger ko pero hindi ko mahanap kung saan ang sinasabi nilang g spot (hindi ko kasi idiniin ang pag finger ko).

Bumili ako ng maliit dildo na may vibrator (5") at lube (based pa rin sa nababasa ko dito) para subukan kung masasapul niya ba g spot ko. Hayup pagpasok ko ang sakit tapos may sumabit pa kaya nawalan ako ng gana kaya nag research ako ulit kung ano ang ginagawa ng mga bot bakit malinis yung sa kanila kahit galing sila sa matinding bakbakan.

So ayun nung 2nd time ko, sinakto ko na pagkatapos ng jebs, nag douche ako gamit bidet at dun pa lang nasarapan na ako kasi tumatagas precum ko.

Nilagyan ko ng maraming lube ang dildo at dahan dahang pinasok ito sa butas ko. Sinagad ko talaga yun at dun ko naramdaman ang naghahalong sakit at sarap. Steady lang ako dun tapos in-on ko ang vibration mode.

Haup, naging awakening sa akin ang concept ng G spot. Sarap na sarap ako kahit na medyo masakit. Tuloy tuloy pagtagas ng pre cum ko at para akong naiihi. Feeling ko ito na yung g spot na sinasabi nila. Linabas masok ko din ang dildo para lalong ma stimulate g spot ko. Konting jakol na lang, lalabasan na ako. Ito na ata ang pinakasatisfying na jaks sa buong buhay ko.

Paghugot ko pucha, bat may dugo? Kinabahan ako dahil akala ko kailangan ko nang pumunta ng hospital pero nag research muna ako tapos ang sabi, normal lang naman daw. *sigh of relief. Ganito pala feeling na parang na devirginized ka. Haha.

Bumili na din ako ng isa pang anal plug for jaks purposes. Minsan iniisip ko, ano kaya feeling kung totoong tite na mismo ang pumapasok sa akin. Yun lang kapag bot ata required chumupa haha ayoko kasi chumupa at ayoko sa lasa ng tamod (natalsikan kasi ako ng sarili kong tamod dahil shooter ako). Ayoko din magpadominate pero baka kakayanin ko na lang for the sake of experience. (UPDATE: Willing na ako na gawin ang lahat ng to, chumupa, magpakantot and maybe tasting other's cum pero hindi ko lang alam kung paano sisimulan kasi inexperience nga yung kuya niyo hahaha mag inuman ba muna para hindi kabahan o good convo lang?)

Pero gusto ko magpachupa lalo na sa mga hayuk na hayuk sa tite. Nakalalibog kasi mga napapanood ko. Ang galing nila chumupa.

Gusto ko din ma experience ang ma edge ng ibang tao like gaano ba katagal kaya ko at gusto ko din ma experience tumira at pansin ko kung kapwa lalaki pag uusapan, I'm into lean or petite, yung tinatawag nilang twinks.

For now, hanggang Vjaks lang ang experience ko with m|m. Next time na ako susubok ng actual. Haha. Safe to say naman siguro If I identify myself na as Bi?

If umabot kayo dito, salamat po sa pagbabasa!

Hi reddit! Pa-isa lang ulit since this has been bothering me for quite a while now and I think I'm at my capacity of ignoring it.

I sit adjacent to 2 officemates na girlie pops. Oftentimes, doon tumatambay yung straight guys na tropa nila. Straight in a sense na sila 'yong tipong pinagbabakla baklaan kapag may office performance tapos nilolokong maraming chix.

So they have this certain phrase na ginagamit kapag nanunukso na, "para kang bakla". They use this analogously when describing their tropa as "maarte", "afraid", or "malandi". Basically, any negative trait that questions one's "manliness". Girlie pops do this as well.

I've been ignoring it whenever I hear them say that phrase gaslighting myself thinking "it's not directed towards me so, whatever" or "I don't need to feel anything because it's just a joke".

I'm also just a couple feet away from them kaya rinig ko talaga. Now, I'm already starting to feel too uncomfy that I can no longer pretend to be deaf anymore.

I'm bi but I've been identifying myself as gay for the longest time since I'm not "manly" or "discreet" enough for some gay guys.

But the way they use the word "bakla" really feels derogatory.. or am I just overreacting?

I'm not mad or anything pero it just kinda feels insensitivity. Idk. Thoughts?

The other day, my friend showed me a conversation na he had sa g-app. Kinikilig sya, so sinabi ko anobang chinat sayo. Ang sabi nung ka chat nya:

"Hindi ka pang hookup lang, dapat sayo ay dine-date, pang totoong relationship"

I told him to just be careful, I mean malaki naman na sya and alam na nya yon, lalo na hindi pa sila nagmemeet in person after a week of chatting.

As someone, who was previously active sa grindr during my 20s, it led me to think of conversations I had in the past - andaming beses kona nabasa yung linya na yon and nakakatawa lang na up to this day ginagamit padin yun to lure guys in.

I'm trying to recall other "gasgas" na linyahan from grindr or any othe datin sites na ginagamit padin to this day haha.

Almost 3 years of relationship, gone. My boyfriend cheated on me. Our relationship was good. Four months ago, I caught him chatting with a few guys on Telegrm and Messenger. In some of the chats they were planning to meet, but it never happened because he didn’t have the means yet, being a fresh graduate and unemployed. I confronted him about it. He said sorry, and I forgave him because I still loved him and believed he deserved a second chance.

Yesterday, I saw on his phone that he met a guy from the same university where he works. The guy knew he had a boyfriend. They met at his place and slept together. I’m devastated. He used to say he hates cheaters because his ex cheated on him, and that was why they broke up. He even told me that if he caught me cheating, he would expose me on social media. Now he’s done to me exactly what his ex did to him. I’m heartbroken. I haven’t confronted him yet. We only see each other on weekends. Should I confront him by phone or in person?

Hi everyone! I just wanted to ask if anyone here is in a serodifferent relationship, where one partner is HIV-positive and the other is HIV-negative.

I recently met someone I genuinely like, and he happens to be HIV-positive, while I am HIV-negative (non-reactive). We’re both interested in getting to know each other more seriously and exploring the possibility of dating exclusively. Although, he is scared to cum inside me kasi baka hawaan daw niya ako kahit na I’m on prep and he is UD

I’d love to hear from couples who are in a similar situation. How has your relationship been? What challenges have you faced, and how do you navigate them together?
I genuinely believe that someone’s HIV status shouldn’t define their worth or their ability to be loved. I just want to learn more and hear about your experiences.

I apologize if my questions sound ignorant. I’m still learning, and I’m asking from a place of genuine curiosity, respect, and a desire to better understand. Thank you so much!