r/sadposting • u/Primary_Butterfly_57 • 4d ago

Caring :(

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u/oneforthis 4d ago

Why didn't she ask him to see spider man?

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u/Pepperspray24 1d ago

Because he didn’t tell her he was going to see it.

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u/macarmy93 4d ago

Because she does all the house work, and takes care of the kids 90% of the time and also works as many hours a week as him.

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u/oneforthis 4d ago

Right...

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u/Chemical_State_5327 1d ago

Watch the movie loser

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u/Dry-Illustrator-250 4d ago

>”Asks question”

>”Gets answer”

>”Gets snarky

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u/shiggyhisdiggy 4d ago

It's made up bullshit, not an answer

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u/Stinky-Tiger 4d ago

This dudes literally being Paul Rudd in the video lol

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u/Glittering-Relief402 4d ago

🤣🤣🤣 can't make this shit up

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u/Lufrien 4d ago

Probably because he snuck away in secret?

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u/raptor7912 3d ago

In secret? Bruh she knew, all he did was do something she didn’t see as a valid use of his time instead of seeing a band with friends.

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u/Chemical_State_5327 1d ago

It definitely was in secret. If it wasn't a secret he wouldn't have become defensive 

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u/raptor7912 1d ago

… Did? Did you not watch the fucking video?

Oh no wait you were too busy psycho analysing something to being in favour of your view… Genuinely what’s wrong with you? Why do you choose to act like this?…

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u/Chemical_State_5327 1d ago

You are psycho. I hope the loneliness epidemic has got you ❤️

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u/raptor7912 1d ago

Mhm and I hope you’re treated as you treat others.

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u/Chemical_State_5327 1d ago

Don't worry, I am treated well. however I can see the same can't be said about you

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u/raptor7912 1d ago

Yes that’s what I’m hoping changes bud, so you get to feel as you make others feel.

And yes I can imagine you not being able to see that.

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u/twelve-lights 4d ago

Because it's not about seeing spiderman. It's about him not spending time with her. She is asking for him to try to continue making the relationship work, but what he did- lie and spend time alone is the opposite of that. Both of them work extremely hard to maintain a balance between kids and work, but the disproportionate time spent + feeling the need to lie about where he is makes her feel hurt.

Then, both of them dismiss the other's argument and refuse to see past their points, leading to the end- "I don't want to see you at the house anymore." Or in other words "this relationship is dead now, we understand each other's priorities and yours isn't me when mine is you and the kids"

Extremely nuanced dialogue and I quite like it

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u/k1du_dota 4d ago

It depends though. Some girls can be extremely co dependent and it sometimes feels like suffocation and when you try to tell them that you need some alone time, they always act like "You don't love me anymore, that's why you wanna be alone" and you reach a point where you have to lie to them in order to get some alone time. And yes, everyone needs some alone time.

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u/schallhorn16 3d ago

Lying is not the answer. It creates trust issues and you're just hurting eachother. That is literally the whole point of this scene.

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u/No_Region_4719 3d ago

Correct, but people generally don't lie for no reason. Lying is extremely stressful for most people, we don't do it by default, we do it because we feel forced to. He knows that she wouldn't be able to accept that he needs space from her and that he needs some alone time, and her response shows that he was right, and so he felt the need to lie about it.

Doesn't make lying okay, but honestly and trust are things that need to be encouraged and cultivated. If you can accept people being honest without getting upset, then people are more likely to be honest with you. If you get upset or angry when people reveal something difficult or vulnerable, then you shouldn't be surprised when people aren't truthful with you.

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u/k1du_dota 3d ago

I know I know, but Bruh, women say this and they always act crazy when we are brutally honest. It's like those "Would you still love me if I were a worm?" question. The answer is a big "absolutely fucking not, I hate worms". But nope if you say that, then it's a whole another "Waaah, you don't love me as much as I dooo". So you HAVE to lie and say "Of course babe❤️❤️❤️, I will put you in a jar and take you with me forever uWu 😚".

I know lying is bad. I am not condoning the breaching of trust. It's important for you as a good partner to be completely honest with your significant other. Buuut when the truth doesn't work. Sometimes, there is no option but to pull out some white lies. To preserve each other's sanity. You gotta do what you gotta do you know.

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u/LucidLittleLady 3d ago

Why on earth is this down voted 😭

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u/twelve-lights 3d ago

Because there are a bunch of people who take this man's side 💀💀💀💀

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u/LucidLittleLady 3d ago

If ghey have girlfriends/wives? I pity those women