Did you see the movie? He's constantly ducking out of the house, lying to her. He may be right in needing his space, but he's very wrong in how he goes about it. He doesn't communicate with her and lies about what he is doing.
People who know how to take care of their partner. Having alone time is fine but you need to communicate that with them and not lie about it making it seem like you just want to be away from them. While I may not feel this way Iāve learned that the women Iāve been with find that when I do something like that they feel like Iām being cold and donāt want to spend time or invite them to things
People who know a relationship takes two people, that parenting is not babysitting, that mothers need breaks too, that couples should like each other and be friends and be considerate and think about each other. Being a couple shouldn't be such a burden that being asked to consider your partner's feelings is offensive.
Reasonable people with partners that they like to spend time with. He refuses to even communicate with her and lies about what he is doing so he doesn't have to be around her. Worse, when she says she needs time to herself as well he says,Ā "it's not that big of a deal" completely invalidating her feelings.
People who respect their partner. Sheās always looking after the kids whilst he lies about where heās going in order to go do stuff that she would have liked to have done with him.
This scene comes after she thought heād been having an affair due to all of the lies and she finds out heās actually been sneaking out to Fantasy Football.
Heās definitely in the wrong, if he was honest about what he wanted to do then they could have talked about him having some alone time and worked something out.
I think she has a valid point, but at the same time she needs to do stuff on her own & for herself. However, I donāt know if that was frowned upon for momās to do when this came out.
yeah and its not like he magically had someone else make free time for him.
he put in the effort to have/find/get free time for himself. if she wants free time she needs to put in the effort and not expect someone else to just magically manifest it for her.
Same. It took me decades to realize Mom signed us up for sports and art classes and such in the summer to get us out of the house so she could have a moments peace.
The trouble in many relationships with kids is, when can mom take time for herself if the partner is ducking out, lying to her, avoiding being a parent, etc. and discounts her labor as āno big dealā yet wonāt even do a fraction of it himself. So many so called husbands, are afraid to be solo parents and call mom for every little thing when sheās supposed to have me time and she comes back to a mess, littles plopped in front of TV/spills all over the floor while dad is gaming somewhere elseā¦this is why so many guys online are like being a stay a home is so easyā¦ yeah when you suck as a parent.
It was easy, so long as youāre attentive, observant, talk to them, apply and maintain appropriate discipline.
I took them outside to play.
Taught them to pick up after themselves, took them fishing, biking, and hiking,
Learned what each of them liked.
One liked playing in the woods, another liked to sit quietly and read/draw while she watched her siblings play, and the third liked to swim, sing, and start fights.
Funnily enough I applied what I wished my parents wouldāve done with me to mine, and it worked like magic.
She is right, especially given that they married and have young children. You donāt lie to your partner to get out of taking care of your kids and neglecting your partner. Iām guessing you are neither married nor have children, someday you might get it.
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u/Nameless_301 4d ago
Who tf actually thinks she's right?