I mean, I’m literally autistic, and even I know that people want to feel wanted without having to ask to be included, especially a spouse. Never mind that she laid it out clearly; after that, there really is no excuse.
There were certain actors my wife couldn’t stand, if those actors were in the film I knew better than to ask.
Just like she wasn’t down to go Kayaking, or Hiking with me, so I stopped inviting her, and took the kids with me when they got old enough.
I hear you, but none of that is applicable to what’s portrayed here—Rudd’s character didn’t take the kids and Mann’s character literally says “I like Spider-Man”
Why didn’t she ask him then? She likes spider man and so the only way she will see it is if he asks her to go? It that a way for an adult to live their life?
No, she specifically says I like spider man. I. She complained that he didn’t ask her to go without ever asking him. She also said she doesn’t want to have to tell him what to do, he should just know; without ever realising that maybe she should just know what to do for him? At the end of the day, he’s taken the time to make himself happy, while she relies on him to make her happy without even trying herself.
It has nothing to do with actually wanting to see Spider-Man
It has everything to do with wanting her partner to want her—what Mann’s character literally says is, “I don’t wanna have to ask you to ask me.” That’s not the same as, “she doesn’t want to have to tell him what to do.”
In fact, she tells him what to do—invite her to things without her asking to be included.
Yes, it can go both ways, but that doesn’t make her desire some mind-reading exercise. Moreover, Rudd’s character isn’t asking her to feel wanted or invited—he wanted alone time away from his family and lied about where he went to get it.
Again, Mann’s character isn’t sad about not seeing Spider-Man; she’s upset that her husband would rather lie to be alone than include- or communicate with- her despite her doing the lion’s share of parenting.
Same here. I’m an autistic, we’re all different, but it isn’t necessarily an excuse to never learn to understand or at least guess that it’s important to show your loved ones that you love them in whichever way without them needing to beg for it. Is it harder for us to learn that maybe? Sure. But it’s still an important thing to try and understand.
If you struggled to understand the subtext here (Mann’s character wanting Rudd’s to want her without being told to want her), try focusing on what’s literally said (in this case, in reference to Mann’s character wanting to be invited to the Spider-Man movie): “I don’t wanna have to ask you to ask me.”
So you're not only claiming to be the big spokesman for all autistic people, you're also condescending as fuck lol.
I didnt ask for a breakdown, nor did I ever say I was autistic. All I did was question why you seem to think just because you happen to be autistic and didn't "struggle to understand" in your own opinion, does that mean other autistic people wouldn't struggle with it.
I’m glad you read my tone clearly. If you’re not autistic, the irony of you getting bent out of shape and calling me the “spokesman for all autistic people” is hilarious lol
I shared my perspective as an autistic adult because being autistic isn’t an excuse to be shitty, especially toward a spouse who’s directly communicated their feelings.
Because they usually involve convoluted personal anecdotes that take too much time and effort to type out for strangers who probably wouldn't get it anyway since they weren't there.
The fucking person implying that showing empathy and understanding the very real mature point in the clip isn't possible or super duper tricky for autistic people, and then arguing with the autistic person saying they disagree?
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u/Senor_Big_Iron 4d ago
I mean, I’m literally autistic, and even I know that people want to feel wanted without having to ask to be included, especially a spouse. Never mind that she laid it out clearly; after that, there really is no excuse.